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    My novia spoke execelent english and had lived in New York and Miami. She was a very worldly 33 year old woman who could charm people and was very attractive.
     She once told me about a friend who met an American that spoke about HIS house and HIS car and how much he made a year. The man was very attractive and the girl was swept off her feet. She spoke broken english and he spoke no spanish. She was educated and middle class.
    After a brief courtship they married and she went to the states. She attended english classes and got a job.`Within a year she had left him and moved in with a Puerto Rican guy in  Miami.
   She explained, When she lived in Cali she worked and went to the gym. On weekends she went shopping and to a movie. Sometimes she would go out dancing on a saturday with her friends. There was  a maid to care for the home. ( this is not an exception it is the rule) She kept her own money and lived with the family. She had attention and possibilities with men.
   When she moved to the US she found out the house belonged to the bank, as well as the car. She had to clean the house, cook and wash his clothes for him. He took her paycheck to help pay the bills. He came home tired and became less romantic by the day. She stated, why? should I work at a job, work at home, give my money to this man and have to ask permission to spend it on myself. Sleep with him and he can't even communicate with me. I had a better life in Colombia.

   Can you imagine if she had to take care of his kids as well? Why do you think there is a note about men with children on the profiles.

Gee guys, are we all such good catches that they should marry us just because we are Americans. Is it possible that some of us are less than candid about how life will be in the USA with us. Just another perception. ENTONCES    JIM C

- Jeff

- Jeff

Yet, many of the same women are basically hardworking and thrifty (or cheap!) with their own money.  They seem to resent it when we men cannot afford to give them our credit cards for unlimited shopping (the "Pretty Woman" fantasy), or that we cannot just leave our jobs on a whim to take them on vacations or travel.  And the women will give men from their own home countries a pass on this - it seems that many end up living with guys from the own homelands who are unable to make ends meet without their incomes.

The "honor" of living in the USA may not be what the latinas are expecting no matter what you tell them in advance.

Here in Chile some of my friends who have worked here and have married local ladies have a similar experience when the finally go back to the States.

One of my buddies was recently transferred back to the Hanford Washington project to work on a big job for the US government.  He had a Chilean wife but he had lived here for quite some time after they got married.  Working here you get salary uplifts, living expenses, a super apartment with a maid, pay no or very little in US income tax, etc.  Moving back to the States you lose most of the good stuff plus moving a long way from her home.  Let's just say the honeymoon is over in that relationship, he has had a very hard time recently.

One of the good things about this forum, you can find out the experiences of others and the reality of marrying a foreign woman.  It is not always positive!  Be prepared.

take care,
mike

It's always the man's fault isn't it.  It's never the golddigging green card shark's fault.  They have every right to lie to and use the man.  Heard this story before.  Yawn.

Steve