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Will be back in Cali June 13. After freshly being dumped by my fiancee I want the opportunity to meet diferent girls. Because my trip is only 17 days I can't afford the luxury of dating girls one at a time like I do in the states. I have to take the shot gun approach and date a bunch at the same time. I feel like a scum bag doing this but if I only pick one girl and date her and it does not work out I will go home empty handed. Its counter to my nature to do the parallel dating. How do you guys do it. The girl that will pick me up at the airport I used to date before I met my x-novia. I can't tell her I want to date more women and when she finds out I am not available every night to see her she will think I am not serious. This is one of things I hate about mail order bride dating.

... in response to Need more help juggling girls, posted by elcolombiano on Jun 9, 2003

Well, I was averaging 5 citas a day, non-stop. Spend an hour or so with each person, but be careful not to mix up their names. I'm guilty of that.....

Since you speak Spanish, if you start early, like at 11:00 am, you should be able to meet 3 people before 3 in the afternoon, and 3 more people before 9:00 p.m..

Then, depending on how outgoing you are, you could invite a group of 3 or 4 to go dancing later the same night, or you could spend time with just one to see a movie.

At the high end, I'm talking about 10 a day. At the low end, 5 or 6.

During the 17 days, you could meet as many women as you want for the first 10 days, then focus on the one you're really interested in for the last 7 days. Or you could make sure to spend some time with her everyday, and see others too. But, when you're sure about her, spend the remaining 7 days with her.

Buy a good pair of tennis shoes, eat your wheaties, and
drink plenty of fluids.

As for the honesty issue, I don't see any reason why you can't tell them that you want to meet as many people as you can. Be up front with them all, and if you find someone who tries to play around on you, just move on to the next woman. Simple.

As for the young woman picking you up; well she will feel kind of let down if she likes you allot. But, if she is just a friend, and not interested in romance, then don't worry about it.

Aaron

... in response to A little math...., posted by Aaron on Jun 9, 2003

Aaron,
Let me get this straight.......you will invite 3 or 4 agency girls to go out dancing with you???  At the same time?? With no other guys with you?? Could you expound on this a little further??? I'm really curious about this.

... in response to Re: A little math...., posted by beenthere on Jun 9, 2003

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OK OK, let me explain. What usually happens is that you meet up with one or two girls that are already FRIENDS.

If they both look nice, and you can get along with both of them, well it's natual that you'll probably be interested in them both. But, if you move too fast, and focus on one, you'll never know more about the other who could be potentially a better match.

So what do you do??????????? You invite them both, and tell them to bring other FEMALE friends and FEMALE cousins to go dancing. Go out with them all, and dance with them all.

But keep things light. Don't push or show preference to any one of them unless you are sure about which one you want.

At the end of the night, a gentleman will HELP pay the bill, but a rich gentleman will pay the ENTIRE bill. Both types of men will leave the party happy in more ways than one.

Last time I was in Cali, I had an intro with a really nice girl from %&*. She was a fox, and she put some flirtacious SH.T on me that darn near made my head spin. At the end of the intro, I told her that I had to meet someone else. But, I told her that I wanted to see her again to go dancing. She told me not to meet the other girl, that she could call a couple of her friends and we all could have a better time. What do you think I did?

Well, I stuck by my principles; I had already scheduled a cita with someone else, so I didn't want to cancel on the other girl.

End the end, I called the one girl back to go out. She was ready and willing, so I said ok. However, the intro before our date I had scheduled was with my current girlfriend.

As soon as I saw her, and we talked, I immediately cancelled all my citas for the night, and the rest of my trip.

That's how you know if you're really interested in a woman; when you cancel all other potential candidates to focus on just one instead of the others.

Each time a guy goes to Cali or where ever, he should have a group of girls that are friends, and he can go out with all of them as soon as he gets in town. I always did. It's fun as .....

Aaron

... in response to LIKE MAGIC !!!!!!!, posted by Aaron on Jun 9, 2003

Aaron,
Thanks for clarifying..........you don't invite 3 or 4 agency girls out as you said in your post........you have a girl bring 3 or 4 friends or some cousins.  That is a horse of a different color.

... in response to Re: LIKE MAGIC !!!!!!!, posted by beenthere on Jun 10, 2003

I never wrote in my post that the 3 or 4 girls have to be from any agency. However, it's still possible that they could be.

Keep this in mind, I'm talking about mature women who are friendly, know how to act, and simply want to go out. That's it. Something like this wouldn't fly with the younger girls because they think it's a competition, and they get jealous. It doesn't have to be.

Invite them out, listen to good music, dance, eat, and BS a little bit. All clean fun.

Aaron

... in response to Re: A little math...., posted by beenthere on Jun 9, 2003

The only way you can pull that off is if none of the women are really interested in you.

... in response to Re: Re: A little math...., posted by Calipro on Jun 9, 2003

sorry, but I don't have time to teach you.

... in response to you have allot to learn....lol!!!!, posted by Aaron on Jun 9, 2003

n/t

... in response to I know your time is to valuable!!! LOL!!..., posted by Calipro on Jun 9, 2003

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messing around with the young girls. I bought a yearly membership at &^%, had 3 citas; then I kissed that place goodbye. The girls are too young for me, no experience, they don't know how to act, or appreciate a good man.

I saw some of the ladies in the *&^%, but not in person.

Aaron

... in response to You take care, and stop ...... , posted by Aaron on Jun 9, 2003

I'll pass on the advice. I'm partial to young skinny women. But, please! Let me see if the women at High Klass modeling have to much plastic. What's the URL?

As to women that think they are "god's gift to Cali", I would much rather be turned down by a beautiful women than never see a women I wanted to hit on.

... in response to Re: You take care, and stop ...... , posted by Calipro on Jun 9, 2003

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I've known about the %$#@ since Christmas. A guy that works at &*% showed me the website, but I forgot the url.  I just didn't give it much consideration.

That's all I know, or what I think I know. If you want to know more, then just go there to see for yourself.

Aaron

... in response to Need more help juggling girls, posted by elcolombiano on Jun 9, 2003

I feel like the devil's advocate. But, honesty will not get you much in this situation. I asked my ex-wife (she is caleña) why she lied so much. She asked me is it better to tell the truth and hurt someone's feelings. If the women you are going out with really want the truth they will ask for it. If one of the women comes right out and asks you if you are seeing other women, give her the truth with both barrels that should end it quick enough. I personally have not had one come out and ask me or accuse me. Just play the game until you find the one and then spend all your time with her if you want.

... in response to Need more help juggling girls, posted by elcolombiano on Jun 9, 2003

Nothing else works. It is a tough situation but many ladies will understand. They are sometimes in a similar situation.

... in response to Honesty is best, posted by Ralph on Jun 9, 2003

Excellent advice.  Best policy always is honesty.  If you dont have that going into a relationship, then whats the use?

... in response to Need more help juggling girls, posted by elcolombiano on Jun 9, 2003

First, you should not stay at an agency if you are going to juggle women, the women at the agencies will tell on you with out a doubt. Do stay at a hotel preferable a small one like House Suites. You should make friends with the guys that work the front desk of your hotel and do not trust the women. If you tip the guys at the front desk they will not ring your room when you have a woman in your room and another women calls. Plus they will never give you messages that other women leave when you are walking in the hotel with another woman.

There was one woman that worked at travelers suites that always was trying to hand me messages that other women had left when I was walking in the hotel with a woman. The guys always had to stop her.

Secondly, get a cell phone so you can call the women yourself without letting anybody hear your conversations. Always get the girls phone number on the first date so you never have to ask the agency to call her again. Plus, never talk about any of the women to the agency people and never let on that you are seeing them again. Just keep going to your citas and never talk about your business to anyone including the guys that stay at the agencies.

I could never juggle more than four women at a time and I go out morning, noon and night when I am in Cali. It is not the easiest thing in the world but you can do it. I would usually call all of the women that I was dating in the morning and find out what there plans where for the day. If they ask what your plans are you should be uncommited. After you know what they are all doing you should decide which one's you can see in the day and which one's you can see at night and make your dates accordingly. I have taken a woman out to dinner and wrapped it up 10:00pm and gone out dancing with another women until 3:00am the same night. Your time is way to valuable and you should never be alone waiting to do something when you are in Cali.

You will be surprised at the excuses women will accept when you are in Cali partly because making up excuses is a national pastime in Colombia. People will blame everything and anything except themselves. But, do call them at least twice a day.