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My wife's mother is coming to visit next month for close to 4 weeks.  I have absolutely no problem with this since her mother is very nice and she certainly has a right to see her family.  However, my wife now wants to have one of her "queridas amigas" (of which there are many) stay in the house in New Orleans for a week simultaneous to the mother's visit.  I know that person and I don't like her very much.  She will be in Ft. Lauderdale for a vacation. I said ok but made it clear I was not happy with the situation.  Having two guests at once will be disruptive and I don't want to set the precedent where every Colombian aquaintance who lands in Miami feels that they have a standing invitation for a free hotel room in New Orleans.  Am I correct-a-mundo in my outloook and in how I'm handling this most unfortunate of situations?

... in response to What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

[This message has been edited by Edge]

Party at Burbuja2's house.. Why not invite the whole gang of PL over???

Do you not think it is bad form to be talking about having guests over and not invite us also??

... in response to Party!!, posted by Edge on May 22, 2003

The WHOLE gang?  I don't think so!  Under the right circumstances, however, perhaps a select few can discuss the Colombian situation on Bourbon Street as we party politely, spritely and most of the nitely.

... in response to What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

Yes Colombians  will want to visit.Just be glad most of them can't get visas or you would already be inundated.This is sort of an honor for your wife so you need to consider her feelings.
But if room is a BIG issue and it would be absolutely disruptive you have the option of saying no,not 2 at once.Of course this will probably loose you some points on the homefront.Even if they get there and are disruptive,like keeping you up at all hours you have the option of putting your foot down.Might be best to agree on some rules with your wife before they show up.

Pete

... in response to Re: What Should I Do?, posted by Pete E on May 22, 2003

As usual Petey, I mean Pete E, you seem to be right on.  The disruption will be that I will not be able to do much here for a week other than sleep.  I'm afraid that if I want to watch TV or even cut the grass, I will be viewed as unsociable (which I am not as you should know by now).  Are you going to join Edge and me in the Quarter to get plastered?

... in response to Re: Re: What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

Its a long round trip for a beer,but if I ever head that way I'll mail you.I've been to New Orleans twice,stayed in the French quarter at the Monteleon.The first time it seemed pretty neat.The second time it seemed kind of seedy and not so many people.The difference?It was a week day.The crowds of the weekend gave it a better ambiance.
The old city in Cartegena reminds me alot of the french Quarter,except the steets are narrower there.But similar architecture,balconies hanging out over the street from several flours of the buldings.It nice to see by horsedrawn buggy at night.Its very quiet then,you just hear the clip clop of the horse and look up and see the buildings and sky.

Pete

... in response to Re: Re: What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

Its a long round trip for a beer,but if I ever head that way I'll mail you.I've been to New Orleans twice,stayed in the French quarter at the Monteleon.The first time it seemed pretty neat.The second time it seemed kind of seedy and not so many people.The difference?It was a week day.The crowds of the weekend gave it a better ambiance.
The old city in Cartegena reminds me alot of the french Quarter,except the steets are narrower there.But similar architecture,balconies hanging out over the street from several flours of the buldings.It nice to see by horsedrawn buggy at night.Its very quiet then,you just hear the clip clop of the horse and look up and see the buildings and sky.

Pete

... in response to What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

The first visit from my new mother-in-law lasted 3 months. You're gettin' off easy.

... in response to What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

As others have said - welcome to the Latin American culture. Be careful what you wish for...

- Jeff

... in response to Re: What Should I Do?, posted by Jeff S on May 22, 2003

Jeff are the Asian women the same? Do they want family staying in the home to visit?

... in response to Re: Re: What Should I Do?, posted by stefang on May 22, 2003

It's very common in Japan to stay over at friends and families houses. It's easy since you really don't need beds or dining room chairs there - futons (pads) spread out on tatami (woven bamboo matt) floors serve nicely. Even modern day houses have at least one tatami room. Roll up the futons, drop in a low table and you have an eating/drinking/gathering room.

My wife is usually the one that limits the visits at our house, though. For me it's fun having a crowd around but it's lots more work for her - plus there's the whole "Japanese housewife do everything for your husband" pride thing so she usually refuses me to help her when guests are around even more so than usual - except for maybe running the barbeque or smoker.

- Jeff

... in response to Yes, they do., posted by Jeff S on May 22, 2003

Sounds like it is an advantage to have people over since she wants to maintain a good behavior towards you. I think it makes people more tolerable of others to be able to share anyways plus you get to tell the stories of the crazy uncle he he he. My parents both came from big families so if relatives moved in for awhile I wouldn't care I am used to it. After being around me for a week they will be the ones running away.

... in response to What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

My wife and I have a pretty wide circle of Latin friends.  This is very common for us also.  Look at the bright side-  You and your wife will also be welcomed in other people's homes as well.

... in response to What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

Buy a bigger house if that helps!  Seriously, Colombians are much more "friend" oriented that Americans.  We often have guests stay for months at a time.  I'm sure you can find some positives in this scenario if you reevaluate it.  For example, is it really going to kill you to have to share your pool with an extra Colombiana clad in bikini?

... in response to What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

Wouldn't it be merely enough to ask her to imagine the same
situation in Colombia with vacationing Americans in her
home?

... in response to What Should I Do?, posted by burbuja2 on May 22, 2003

[This message has been edited by markxport]

Hello Mr. B,

If your mother-in-law and this amiga get along well, and this is not a monthly visit, then I would roll with it.  Think of it as a way of scoring major points with your wife, which is something us guys can never do enough...lol...  Put on your best face, be the gracious host, and these two guest will tell your wife and the rest of the world what a great husband you are!  Also, your wife will most likely be a little more accommadating when you have or do something she is not particularly interested in!

Take care,

Mark