Planet-Love.com Searchable Archives

[This message has been edited by outwest77]

I dont know where the formula comes from but, if i take the test i fail it, im 46/2=23.........plus 7=30........my gf is 26, i guess i am doomed,

Any guy who has even a 15 year age difference would rarely pass that test

36/2=18...plus 7=25....at 36 ur ideal wife is 25
40/2=20...plus 7=27....at 40 ur ideal wife is 27
46/2=23...plus 7=30....at 46 ur ideal wife is 30
48/2=24...plus 7=31....at 48 ur ideal wife is 31
50/2=25...plus 7=32....at 50 ur ideal wife is 32
54/2=27...plus 7=34....at 54 ur ideal wife is 34

100/2 =50 +7 =57.........hmmmmmm cant wait until i reach that ripe old age and am allowed to chase after those cute young 57 year olds

According to that formula the older you are the bigger the age difference allowable, and i have to wait until i am 54 until i can date my gf............darn.

... in response to Age Formula Calculation, posted by outwest77 on Apr 1, 2003

[This message has been edited by outwest77]

nt

... in response to Age Formula Calculation, posted by outwest77 on Apr 1, 2003

Out,

Personally, I don't consider the formula age to be the ideal age, but the minimum, when you start courting. Yes, the older the couple, the less of an impact the age difference becomes.

I don't think the formula should be any kind of hard and fast rule, but rather a guideline for those beginning the search and looking for a reasonable cutoff age to consider. There is really nothing wrong with going under the minimum age, but that's the barrier at which I would consider a younger woman to be a significant risk factor.

If you like to gamble on the long shots, then by all means go for it. Just don't forget to take all the factors into consideration, e.g., raising children, widows, single mothers, life insurance, retirement, sexual function, different generations, likes, dislikes, hopes and dreams for the future, etc., etc. If your young wife wouldn’t mind picking up a box of diapers for junior and a box of depends for you at the same time, then what the hell... :-)

Ray

... in response to Re: Age Formula, posted by Ray on Apr 1, 2003

[This message has been edited by Dave H]

Hi Everyone,

In an effort to keep the peace, I have taken the liberty to modify Ray's Age Formula, making it more accommodating to fit our age differences! The CFO is going to She-it! ROFLMAOPIMMFP!

Your Age/2 + or - up to 30 = Ideal Age ;o)))

An example: 100/2 -30 = 20

Dave H.

... in response to Modified Age Formula, posted by Dave H on Apr 3, 2003

(YourAge/2 * SQRT(log(#moons in Jupiter)) sin(AngleDangle))*0 +18

Therefore if you're 20 with plenty of testoserone:
(20/2 + SQRT(log13) sin(+90))*0 + 18 = 18 years old

If you're 45 and starting to lose it:
(45/2 + SQRT(log13) sin(10))*0 + 18 = 18 years old

If you're 90 and impotent:
(45/2 + SQRT(log13) sin(-60))*0 + 18 = 18 years old

Seems to work out pretty well, don't you think?

- Jeff

... in response to Further tuned for precision:, posted by Jeff S on Apr 3, 2003

That's great Jeff! But I'm afraid that there would very soon be a critical shortage of 18-year-old females on the planet LMFAO!

Ray

... in response to PAOTGDF! However,, posted by Ray on Apr 3, 2003

... next year!

- Jeff

... in response to Further tuned for precision:, posted by Jeff S on Apr 3, 2003

Hi Jeff,

ROFLMAOPIMP! You have just created a mathmatical formula for love and attraction. In the process you managed to confuse the hell out of me! In any case, I loved it. ;o)))

Dave H.

... in response to Modified Age Formula, posted by Dave H on Apr 3, 2003

n/t

... in response to Re: Age Formula, posted by Ray on Apr 1, 2003

[This message has been edited by Mark33]

Well,
  I have to agree marrying with too large an age gap should really take lots of considerations.

 The few Filipinas I contacted before meeting my fiance said it was not a prefference to them, but knew many who married a man with a large age difference. All of them said some girls looked at it as a way out of poverty for themselves and their family. I was even told by one girl,being an American I could never understand the level of poverty some Filippinos lived with.

 I do not judge. I do think if you are a healthy man in his 40's with ok looks it will not be unusual to get a younger woman in her 20's to really fall for you.They have a different idea of what is considered handsome(thank God)

  But if you are a much older man with health issues,question the motives of a teen or girl in her early 20's . She may be a very sweet person, but sees you as a way out more so than true love.

   Remember, the younger she is the more idealistic her vision of "prince charming" will be.

  And for the people who get angry about the age gap issues. Realistically,who among you can say they would like it if  their son or daughter in her teens were to marry a 50-60 year old.
Who here in their 40's can see themselves married to a 70+ year old woman?.

   Sure,while a guy is in his teens, a woman in her 30's or 40's can look good. But reality is,that as the body changes it becomes very difficult for the younger person who has to take care of the elder one.

  Imagine how difficult it is for people who take care of elderly parents. Day to day it drains many of energy.

  If you do decide you want a much younger girl,take care of your health and diet. The least that can be done is to try to delay aging and health problems.

... in response to Re: Re: Age Formula, posted by Mark33 on Apr 2, 2003

Good advice Mark, and welcome to the forum.

Is your fiancee Latina?

Ray

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Age Formula, posted by Ray on Apr 2, 2003

[This message has been edited by Mark33]

 Ray,

     My fiancee is Filippina.She is from Midanao.

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Age Formula, posted by Mark33 on Apr 2, 2003

I guess it was your profile that threw me off.

My wife is also from Mindanao (Surigao). I think the Southern girls are the greatest! :-)

Where in California? We're here in San Diego...

Ray

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Age Formula, posted by Ray on Apr 2, 2003

[This message has been edited by Mark33]

     Southern girls are the greatest:)Ray, I will shoot you an e-mail this week. Perhaps we can talk. I am living back East now. But originally from LA.

... in response to Re: Age Formula, posted by Ray on Apr 1, 2003

[This message has been edited by outwest77]

Your age check formula, and your superior attitude is no different than the arrogance and intolerance displayed by most of our relatives and friends to the very idea that we would pursue a foreign wife,

You are part of the problem, what makes you or anyone else qualified to decide what age is appropriate for another couple, What about others who think you cant find someone in the US is that why you had to go to asia to find a wife, ? That must mean you are desperate or you want one of those sex slaves, right? or all those girls are just looking for a green card and then they will  divorce you, right???You would bristle at a comment like that i am sure, but you feel free to cast the same judgement on other fellow couples since they dont fall into your narrow definition of acceptable, Hmmmmmm,

... in response to You are part of the problem, posted by outwest77 on Apr 2, 2003

1. That’s not my formula.

2. I NEVER stated what age is “acceptable” or “appropriate” for you or anyone else.

3. I am NOT passing judgement on anybody.

4. I have NEVER said that you or anyone else should not marry someone because of the age difference.

5. I simply don’t care what age you or your partner is. That’s between you and your partner and nobody else.

6. If you have any doubt about my feelings on the age issue, then you haven’t been reading this forum for the past 4 years.

7. I think you should lighten up dude :-)

Ray

... in response to Some clarifications, posted by Ray on Apr 2, 2003

[This message has been edited by outwest77]

"If you like to gamble on the long shots, then by all means go for it. Just don't forget to take all the factors into consideration, e.g., ....sexual function  etc. .....If your young wife wouldn’t mind picking up a box of diapers for junior and a box of depends for you at the same time, then what the hell... :-)"

Sounds to me like you are casting judgement, saying guys who go for age differences beyond the boundaries of the
"formula" are "gambling on long shots", that your "sexual function" would not be something to take lightly, (ya us 46 year old guys keep Viagra in business), Now that someone calls you on it, you deny you meant anything by it.

Where in your previous post did you say to each his own, and that its none of your business, i didnt get that impression from your post at all.

There are a few guys here who think hey, i have a wife who is 8 yrs younger than me so all you guys with 15 and 20 year age differences, god help you desperate cradle robbers. ...your post gave me the impression you fall into that category......if you are not one of those guys, my apology.

... in response to Re: Some clarifications, posted by outwest77 on Apr 2, 2003

First, let me say that these are only my opinions as they relate to the subject of age differences. I have no intention of “judging” anyone at all. I am only expressing my personal opinions and your opinions may vary from mine. That doesn’t mean that my opinions are any more correct that yours or vice versa.

I believe that marriage is a gamble. The more you can do to stack the odds in your favor, the more chance that you will have a successful marriage. When there are a number of factors that would tend to lessen your odds of success, then that is what I mean by gambling on a long shot. IMO, a large age difference is something that has a potential to cause problems in a marriage and should not be taken lightly. Everyone has his or her own interpretation of what a “large” age difference is. Some people tend to use an arbitrary figure such as 10 years, 20 years, 30 years difference, etc. There is nothing really wrong with that, but I happen to believe that IF you are going to consider the size of the age difference as a factor in choosing a mate, then the relative ages of the partners should be considered also, along with the simple difference in ages. In other words, an age gap of x years should be considered more of a liability when the ages of the partners are relatively young than when they are older, hence my reference to the “formula”. It has a lot to do with the “generation gap”, relative maturity, and the “stage” of life that each partner is in (e.g., retirement stage).

You notice that I said “IF” you are going to consider age differences. Some folks repeatedly proclaim that “age doesn’t matter” and that is fine. I happen to disagree with that assumption and I think that age DOES matter and it is only wise to consider the potential ramifications of the age factor in future marital compatibility. For example, if the man is in his 70s or 80s and the woman is in her mid-forties, which many consider to be the “sexual prime” for most women, then it is only wise to consider whether or not you will be able to satisfy the sexual needs of your partner. Likewise, if you will have children, how old and how active will you be when your children are developing and they need the support and guidance of a father. Also, what will become of your wife and minor children if you should die of an age-related condition? Will they be provided for after you are gone? Does she have the necessary skills to support herself and your children on her own? Will she re-marry? These are just some of the factors that I think should be considered ahead of time. Again, if you and your potential mate have considered the age factors and are willing to accept them, then you will certainly get no argument from me if you decide to marry. Either way, it’s YOUR choice, not mine. If you choose to ignore age altogether, then that is your right.

I have never accused anyone here of being a “desperate cradle robber”. On the contrary, I have always stated that the ages of two partners are not my business and I have no personal interest in your marriage or your relative ages. I am not going to go back in the archives and pull out examples of statements that I have made in the past. If you doubt my sincerity and want to challenge me on that point, then it is up to you to dig through the archives and find your own evidence to the contrary. I don’t have to prove to you what I have said before because it is already a matter of record.

I only bring up the age issue because I believe that it is something to be seriously considered and not taken lightly. If you wish to debate the subject of age differences and how it might affect a marriage in the future, then I would be happy to participate. But please cease with the inflammatory rhetoric and accusations when you don’t even know my position.

Thank you,

Ray

... in response to Re: Re: Some clarifications, posted by Ray on Apr 2, 2003

Ray, i appreciate your forthrightness, frankness, and
keeping the discussion on a civilized level,, even more so that i do.

Your points are well taken, i agree about the age is important issue also, taken to a different level dependent on each persons individual situation. My difference between me and my gf concerns me a bit, although not terribly, 20 yrs, however i find myself in a situation where every time i meet an older pinay late 20s early 30s, who is available, she is either separated with 2 or 3 kids, or a career woman i dont mesh with for other reasons. To each his or her own.

Regardless i think we agree on this point more than we disagree, i guess you were just being fascetious(sp) when you made the diaper comment, it was funny though.

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Some clarifications, posted by outwest77 on Apr 2, 2003

I don't think we really disagree at all, when you get right down to it.

If you and your girl friend are O.K. with your age difference, then don't worry about it and don't let anybody beat you down because of it.

Though I believe that a very large age difference tends to decrease the odds of a successful marriage somewhat, I think there are much bigger issues that can decrease your odds significantly. For example, the guys who don’t take the time to learn anything about Filipino culture, the people and the language, are much more likely to have marital problems than the otherwise well-matched couple with a big age gap.

In your case, I admire your patience in taking the time to really understand your potential mate and your genuine interest in the Filipino culture. In your case, I think the age difference should not be an issue because you already put in the time and the work required.

Sorry if the diaper comment hit a nerve. Of course it was only a joke! :-)

So, have you met her parents and family yet?

Ray

... in response to Re: Age Formula, posted by Ray on Apr 1, 2003

Hey Ray,

"If your young wife wouldn’t mind picking up a box of diapers for junior and a box of depends for you at the same time, then what the hell..." Stop it! I just soiled another diaper. :o))))))))))))

Dave H.

... in response to Re: Age Formula, posted by Ray on Apr 1, 2003

Ya i am beginning to feel a need for depends, is 46 too young for me to feel that ?