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You dumb, dumb, dummy.  You wrote earlier that you think your Ukrainian wife may be pregnant and that it may be your child.  And now you write that your atty "took care of all that" so she can't even "try to enforce anything" on you relating to your paying child support?  Well, guess what dummy...if the child is born or conceived during your marriage (which it was in this case), Texas law says you are presumed to be the father.  One of the questions you will be asked during the "prove-up" of your divorce in front of a judge is whether or not any children were born during the marriage and whether or not a child is expected at this time.  You will be under oath and you must tell the truth and say she is pregnant (but based on the lack character you have displayed, you will probably lie to the Court and commit perjury).  Because you write in this forum that you believe the child may be yours, then the way you would overcome that presumption is through a DNA test...right?  But you're not gonna do that.  The judge should inform you and your atty right then and there that you that you cannot finalize your divorce in Texas until the child is born so that the parent-child relationship may be established and adjudicated.  If you think you are clever and that you may be able to just avoid the issue by lying to the Court, she (or the child) may still come back to Texas one day and seek enforcement against you in the Court of continuing jurisdiction (the Court where you filed) and you WILL owe back child support for all those years...PLUS INTEREST.  In Texas, she may seek pre and post natal medical expenses, as well as child support from the time the child was born.  At 20% of your total net resources for 18 years or more (plus interest), you may end up paying her BIG.  I hope she knows this and I hope she plays her cards right.

Aside from your LEGAL responsibility, you should also be concerned with your own MORAL responsibility.  If you do have a child with her...you should be talking less about evading enforcement of child support and begin thinking more about fulfilling your responsibilities to your unborn child.  Do you think a child is just some kind of mutt that can be tossed aside?  If that is the way you think, she was right to treat you like the scum you are...and dump your ass!

Texas Family Code:

   § 160.204.  PRESUMPTION OF PATERNITY.  
        (a)   A man is presumed to be the father of a child if:
      (1)  he is married to the mother of the child and the
child is born during the marriage;
      (2)  he is married to the mother of the child and the
child is born before the 301st day after the date the marriage is
terminated by death, annulment, declaration of invalidity, or
divorce;
      (3)  he married the mother of the child before the birth
of the child in apparent compliance with law, even if the attempted
marriage is or could be declared invalid, and the child is born
during the invalid marriage or before the 301st day after the date
the marriage is terminated by death, annulment, declaration of
invalidity, or divorce;
      (4)  he married the mother of the child after the birth
of the child in apparent compliance with law, regardless of whether
the marriage is or could be declared invalid, he voluntarily
asserted his paternity of the child, and:
         (A)  the assertion is in a record filed with the
bureau of vital statistics;
         (B)  he is voluntarily named as the child's father
on the child's birth certificate;  or
         (C)  he promised in a record to support the child
as his own;  or          
      (5)  during the first two years of the child's life, he
continuously resided in the household in which the child resided
and he represented to others that the child was his own.
   (b)  A presumption of paternity established under this
section may be rebutted only by:
      (1)  an adjudication under Subchapter G;  or                                  
      (2)  the filing of a valid denial of paternity by a
presumed father in conjunction with the filing by another person of
a valid acknowledgment of paternity as provided by Section 160.305.

Amended by Acts 2001, 77th Leg., ch. 821, § 1.01, eff. June 14,
2001;  Acts 2003, 78th Leg., ch. 610, § 10, eff. Sept. 1, 2003;  
Acts 2003, 78th Leg., ch. 1248, § 1, eff. Sept. 1, 2003.

Man, look at that last post about those Texas Laws...Which are clearly not in your favor.  Scarey stuff.

If she were to apply for U.S. citizenship for the child at a U.S. consulate abroad, her chances of success would be slim and none without his cooperation.

Ray

I'm not a lawyer and I don't play one on TV.

But, I'm fairly certain that if she showed up in Texas a year from now seeking a child support order, I'm fairly certain she'd get it.  The father lives in Texas and the wife never lived anywhere in America except Texas.  That's probably enough to give a Texas court jurisdiction.

Like I said, I ain't no lawyer.  But, I think that Frank is leaving himself wide-open for an enormous bite on the ass.

Since he is already paying a Texas attorney, I think he should ask her if his ass is biteable.

The one true thing people can say about this world is this: ya never know what's gonna happen.

Frank, this clause:

§ 160.204. PRESUMPTION OF PATERNITY.
(a) A man is presumed to be the father of a child if:
(2) he is married to the mother of the child and the
child is born before the 301st day after the date the marriage is terminated by death, annulment, declaration of invalidity, or divorce;

Is enough to put you on the hook.   Even if your divorce was final today, you'd still be presumed to be the father by virtue of this clause, since the baby will be born before 301 days after today.

Don't be naive.  This could still bite you on the ass in an enormous way.

Frank, with that multiple-entry K-3 visa in her passport, she can come back anytime she wants during the next 2 years. She could be on a plane right now and you would have no idea until you hear her knocking on your door.

Have you officially withdrawn that I-130 petition yet? I wouldn't put it off for another day if I were you.

Ray

If Frank withdraws the I-130 spouse petition before it is approved, then there is no longer a legal basis for her K-3 status. Also, the K-3 visa is technically invalid once the marriage is ended and the immigration people should cancel her K-3 status in their database, but only if someone notifies them that the marriage has been legally terminated.

Ray

Sorry

A K-3 does not include an “instant” Green Card. She will still need to adjust status just like a K-1 fiancée would before she is granted legal residency. The other option would be to return to her country for her immigrant visa interview and then re-enter as a CR-1/IR-1. The K-3 is intended to allow the foreign spouse to come here while waiting for the I-130 petition approval.

Ray

...Frank was married in Ukraine and filed a K3. Different situation. Ray is very knowledgable on this stuff so I'll let him elaborate.

Get with the program, don't make me come over there ;). Hope all is well....

I had good gear but we still ran into spots that required a timely exit, mostly near the cafe, amusement park, and in the hospital. None of that is surprising when you consider those locations and what happened during the accident. One of the helos in the graveyard was OK until I went up into the cockpit where my dosimeter alarmed. 3 rem/hr. Not real bad but it was enough for me to come out of that thing so fast I ran over the guy who was waiting outside. Those MI-8 helos are gigantic, bigger than Chinooks. Also met more zone residents and spent a lot of time in the countryside and Chernobyl town itself. Came upon the local cops partying and swimming down at the river. Lol, it's not like there are many bad guys to chase in Cherno anyway. I spent a great afternoon with them but refused to swim in the Pripyat. Their vodka was good though ;)

Spent the rest of the time with a few women I know and partied some in Kiev. All told it was a good mission.

The questions remain: What will you do if it *is* yours? Are you even going to try and find out? And if you don't think it's yours why did you continue with a marriage that occured more than 9 months ago if your wife had been impregnated by another man since? Am I missing something? Or did you not know she was carrying? If so, when exactly did you find out?

...It's the fourth period and the clock is running. Frank shoots...no score! But wait, he's going out for the rebound...

...you didn't answer the question: If the child is yours what do you intend to do?

Your mistakes are indeed impressive in that they bordered on lunacy when you ignored the signs. *Why* you chose to ignore them is still puzzling however. After all, it's not as if we're talking hindsight here. All I can do is hope you're a wiser man but, frankly, I have a feeling the lessons learned will not match the price paid. Sorry, but you just strike me as a guy not in control of his judgment at even the basic level when it comes to women. You need to ask yourself why that is, what is the underlying cause of it. In fact you'll do well to look in the mirror and ask what your real goal in getting into MOB was.

I don't see getting married over there as a mistake other than the immigration problems you suffered. I see your mistake as marrying a child, someone not mentally equipped to be a wife, let alone emigrate to a new country. Her decision to "try again" makes that even more clear. Many of the comments she made that you posted were also very telling. Not to mention you failed to listen to objective and experienced observers on the sidelines who had met her and could plainly see it was a bad match. Hell, I could see it through the tiny cable I'm using to write this.

So OK, you were 36 and succumbed to the taste of tender vittles. Its something I've also been guilty of but hey, marrying someone 20 is just nuts, even if you yourself are 20. The stories about young FSU girls I hear from the folks I know in the Fed would make your hair stand up. At your age I'd stick with someone 26 or greater, 30 would be even better. You may want to consider one with a kid, they tend to be a more reliable and stable. You do want a family and not a trophy right? If not I'm wasting my breath.

I commend your efforts to be a faithful and good husband under difficult conditions. I hope you'll one day find someone who'll reciprocate but until then you need to always put your own best interests first and never, I mean never, allow a decision to do otherwise be guided by what you think is love on your part alone. Love is mostly an illusion Frank. A happy one I'll admit, but an illusion nevertheless, especially if it's unrequited. Remember, even "real" love has nothing to do with your heart. It's all in your head and until you come to understand that you'll always be a ready victim, usually of yourself. Make it unrequited love and you're already circling the drain.

"She is the ONLY Ukrainian I've ever been with. I know many a men can't say that about their current wives."

I do not know that this quote of your is a good thing.  On my trip to UK I became intimate with a woman who will not become my wife.  It is a part of the process for me and I do not feel bad about this or lesser for it. Is there a reason why being with another Ukrainian girl before your "Wife" is a bad thing?

After one trip to Colombia and One trip to UK I have come to the conclusion that most of the UK girls were not sincere and most of the Colombian girls were but it only takes one in either case.  I have also come to the conclusion that I was not as sincere as I thought I was although now that I have seen both sides of the world I think I am prepared to move forward with the right gal.  I have also changed my standards a bit.  Orginally I thought under 24 years old, no kids, and perfect body.  Now my standards are under 32, with or without kids, and a nice figure.  Of course our personalities have to mesh as well.
The process has taught me a little something that words on a forum could not.
Good luck
Fathertime

If it's not your kid than move on, a wiser man. How much wiser remains to be seen but I agree: there is no further need for anyone here to bang on you and I for one won't do it again.

You should have sampled more. In the future I would sample many before chosing a few. Then spend at 6 months to a year developing and least 1 month total living with them, preferably more, before making any other move. If you say you can't do this then find a way you can. Anything smells bad, walk away. There are simply too many to choose from and not a one of them is special. You may think so at the time but believe me, no woman on Earth is special. Read that again.

Considering what is at stake the sacrifice in time and money to do this is peanuts. Otherwise you're rolling the dice and will have no one to blame but yourself if it blows up again.

Frank, did you ever thank that problem might not be 'just' geography?

Craig