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He has now been there 4.5 weeks.  They had to wait for his chest tube drainage to stop before pulling it.  Condition called Chylothorax, where the lymph duct was damaged in surgery and kept dumping lipids into his chest cavity.  Bothersome, but not life threatening but it seems to be ok now.  
It's been quite a ride with all this, but it seems to be wrapping up..  We have been married for 5.5 weeks and he has been in the hospital for 4.5 weeks!  But if you really want to know what your girl is made of, just go through something like this! ;-)  I have learned a lot more about her character through this than I would have ever believed.  She has been in a word, amazing.  Sleeping at the hospital every night, often getting from 1-4 hours interrupted sleep per night, never one unkind word, or bad temper.  Not once asking "why us?".  Just amazing patience, love and sheer strength.  I am a very fortunate guy to have found her..

A big note to newbies-
If you bring a woman here, with child or not, I would highly recommend putting them on their own health insurance policies until you are married and you can put them on your insurance.  And even though they have gotten a physical to come here, go and at least get a chest xray and blood tests anyway.  I am very fortunate that I did.  We would never have found his tumor had we not done this, and without the insurance, it would have been devastating.  The bill for this 4.5 weeks could easily surpass 80-100 thousand dollars and what will be my portion??  A $500 deductible, that's it!  Again, very fortunate!

Again, thanks to so many of you for your kind comments and prayers.  I will try to post a few pics now that things are returing to some semblance of normalcy..

Thanks,
Oscar

... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

I'm glad things are working out for you. That's a nasty thing to have to go through at any time let alone on the honeymoon. It would be nice if we were all as lucky and find a lady like yours.

... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

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... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

Have you ever mentioned what your new wife must think of you after all this, and how lucky they are in having you?

Also, in regards to insurance, as an example of somewhat more mundane issues being problematic...  one thing I missed was that my company's insurance had a window of opportunity for change of status (30 days within a recent life event), or you have to wait until the following year's registration period.  Well I did not know of it, and missed that window because I didn't ask due to all the other paperwork and marriage stuff to distract me.  But, when I did find out (besides being PO'd), I figured we could probably make it six more months or so without any big deals.  Yep, you know it, dumb kid broke his wrist roller-blading with about 2-3 months to go.  To top it off it wasn't a "simple" broken arm.  It was the second break at exacly the same place in the wrist as when he was younger and fell down some stairs, which complicated things considerably.  All said, it cost me about $2K.  Make sure to check with your insurance before getting married, so you know the details of getting your new family covered in a timely fashion.

... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

The poor kid-- he's gone through a real bad spell, but hopefully this is the end and the three of you can start moving forward with your lives.

Yes, you truly see how so special these unselfish women are. Yes, you are very lucky.

I will take your advice to heart about getting insurance. It is certainly a wise thing to do.

Take care-- Scaught

... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

We are very pleased that this all has worked out OK. I'll bet that they are both happy to be Home again.

... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

It's heartwarming to hear of his success; as well, as the congenial tone exhibited by your former sparring partners: Dan, Mark, Ken et al.

Prayers work,

Vaughn

... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

Good news, Oscar. I know you're releived and we're happy for you.

BTW, you don't need a new handle just because you have a new ISP, it should find the cookie anyway, even if it doesn't (like maybe because your disk crashed or you reconfigured), just type in your password first time and it will reset the cookie.

... in response to Re: Bringing son home from Hospital toda..., posted by Michael B on Mar 30, 2003

First, I am really not very computer savvy at all so the paths I take are probably quite rudimentary..
Back in December, I changed my email and assumed I had to have a new handle because of it so I opened this handle.  But I found that I did not need it after all (as you suggest in your post) so I never used the new handle once and just forgot about it.
I have been here so little of late with my boy in the hospital, that the other day, it asked for my password to post about bringing my son home from the hospital.  Well, I haven't used my password for a long time and couldn't find it anywhere.  So I entered my email to be "sent" my password and I got the new password back to the new handle I had never used, because I have a new email address. ;-)  Since I no longer have my old email address, I now believe I would not have been able to retrieve my old password because it would have gone to an email address that no longer exists (Correct?), so I just used the one I was sent AND WROTE IT DOWN THIS TIME.. ;-)  I am sure there would have been an easier way, but I'm fine with this, it really doesn't matter to me..

Oscar

... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

Oscar,

You've shown terrific fortitude and strength throughout this ordeal. Alyona is fortunate, indeed, to have found someone that is as thorough and conscientious as you have been.

I am happy and relieved to learn that your son will be arriving home soon - and even better, that he faces a full and cancer-free future.

So have you decided yet on that honeymoon destination??

I was just looking at some locations in the Carribbean and they sure have some terrific warm-weather destinations - though I have to say I am partial to Hawaii after spending a week there. Still, I have no direct comparative experience and from what I've read about the Virgin Islands, Aruba and the rest - it sure sounds like a wonderful place to visit.

Take care - and best of luck with everything.

- Dan

... in response to Great - And Now It's Time for the HONEYM..., posted by Dan on Mar 30, 2003

Hey Dan,

Thanks..  He is home now and eating lunch as I write this..  He is really happy to be home.

Regarding the "belated" honeymoon-  We are looking at that 7 night Southern Carribean Cruise with Royal Carribean in June after school is out.  I have it booked but haven't yet paid for it as I need to see if I can get the Delta award miles set up first to make sure we can get to San Juan ok to start the cruise..
The itinerary is, starting in San Juan, then to:
St. Thomas
St. Maarten
Antigua
St. Lucia
Barbados
and back to San Juan.

Dropped the "Aruba" idea as that is one place she WOULD need a visa for.  And one of the ladies I spoke to at the visa place siad she had been there for a week just last year and she and everyone else who went in their party, just hated it there!  They couldn't wait to leave!  Weird.. the pics from there look nice.

Really wanted to do Hawaii but have been on the priority wait list for 2 months now and no award seats have opened up and very possibly might not by June.  So we can look to going to Hawaii next year I guess..

I am sure we will probably be going to either DisneyWorld or DisneyLand before school starts up next August too.

Later,
Oscar

... in response to Bringing son home from Hospital today-, posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

I had to change my ISP/email address so this is my lovely new handle.. ;-)

Oscar

... in response to (The above post is from "Oscar"..., posted by Yeahbaby on Mar 30, 2003

If what they say is true.
That for every drop of rain, there is a ray of sunshine.
After the storm, your famile went trough,
you do have a lot of sunshine in the bank,
better get some sun screen.
What is great, also, there never was an angry word from you.
You deserve the happiness, my hat is off to your family.