|
Title: Gotta love it- Post by: Oscar on February 03, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Last night I noticed that my fiance had washed one of my nice dress shirts for work. I told her that she didn't need to wash those, that I took them to the cleaners to have them washed and pressed. She told me that no, she wanted to do them at home. I told her that I really didn't want her to have to take the time to wash and iron them all and she straightened me out real fast- "You are my man! It is very intimate thing for woman to do for her man, to iron shirts just for him. I want to do it and you need to let me do it!".
Guess she told me what for! LOL! Gotta love it! Things continue to go incredibly well.. The kidlet continues to do just great in school etc.. Haven't had much time to post.. this family thang (which is pretty new to me) is pretty consuming, in a good way! Later, Title: So...? Post by: MarkInTx on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Gotta love it-, posted by Oscar on Feb 3, 2003
When will you marry this wonderful woman then...? Title: Re: So...? Post by: Oscar on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to So...?, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 4, 2003
I believe in March.. They have been settling in nicely, both she and her son. We have finished with meeting all the family, buying wardrobes, getting vaccinations, getting him fully into school, etc.. Things are calming down and we are finding lots of time to talk about our future.. Of course we talked about all these things for months while waiting for her to get here but as many realize, doing so mostly through phone and email is quite different than doing so in person.. It's becoming quite comfortable for all of us, and that is what I personally wanted for them both- to really feel comfortable, grounded and ready after such a big change in their lives. Title: Wedding Date Post by: SteveM on February 05, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: So...?, posted by Oscar on Feb 4, 2003
Oscar, I know we haven't seen eye-to-eye on everything, but please take this advice to heart. If you have been this happy with how things are going the past 6 weeks/2 months, go ahead and set a date--or if you are doing a civil ceremony, go ahead and get married. While she may not tell you about it, there is a tremendous stress that builds up as the 90-day limit approaches and no wedding has taken place, even if everything is going great. Maybe this question would help: If you had a fight next week, would you see it as part of a normal life together, or a reason to rethink everything you both have done so far? In our case, we had some whoppers in the couple of weeks before the wedding (we both had kids getting used to us and each other), but we went through with it and are extremely happy with how everything has worked out. Good luck, whatever you choose... Steve M. Title: Re: Wedding Date Post by: Oscar on February 05, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Wedding Date, posted by SteveM on Feb 5, 2003
No offence taken at all. All legitimate questions.. I promised myself that I would use most of the 90 days for both our sakes, no matter how good we feel about things. I personally feel guys should avail themselves of most of this time to really do their homework. Yes, most of the "homework" should have been done already but again, long distance is a far cry from in person. We do talk about it often and I do not believe she feels the stress you suggest although I guess it's possible I'm not seeing it. You have to remember, she also felt it would be wise to use most of our time together before marrying and I really respect her for that. Things are flowing very nicely and I think the timing is going very well. Thanx for well-wishing.. ;-) Title: You could always get married on March 8th... Post by: SteveM on February 05, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Wedding Date, posted by Oscar on Feb 5, 2003
...and double your chances of not forgetting either your anniversary or International women's day. Of course, the consequences of forgetting both could be dire... Title: I can top that Post by: KenC on February 03, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Gotta love it-, posted by Oscar on Feb 3, 2003
Oscar, Sounds like you found a keeper. Get used to the treatment because it only gets better. Last night I crashed and burned at a very early hour due to a bout of brontcitis. Lena was in to check on me constantly to make sure I was resting comfortably. A few hours later she woke me with a cup of hot tea and a piece of cake she baked. She actually fed me the cake bite by bite. Once you go "Russian" there aint no going back to American women. LOL. KenC Title: I can totally relate- Post by: Oscar on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I can top that, posted by KenC on Feb 3, 2003
Man, I even cough and she is all over me like mud on a pig! LOL! "Are you ok? Are you ill maybe??". It's pretty funny... ;-) Title: You're making me sick :-) Post by: BubbaGump on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I can top that, posted by KenC on Feb 3, 2003
Don't get people's hopes up so much. Their reality may vary. For us guys in the USA, we know how hard it would be to get an American woman to do that. Next to impossible. Title: my limited experience is the same. Post by: thesearch on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to You're making me sick :-), posted by BubbaGump on Feb 4, 2003
The lady that I met in Prague after many calls and e-mails, (unfortunately it did not work out) was very at tentative to me in a way that AW just are not interested. For example, she saw that my shoes had some mud on them. She picked them up and cleaned them. One night were going to go out for dinner and I did not have a shirt that was ironed, no ironing board in the room, -- when I put on a shirt that was somewhat wrinkled, she said "no no people will think that I am a bad woman for not taking better care of you." She quickly went through my wardrobe and found a sweater for me to wear. What ever I wanted to do was fine with her relative to sightseeing etc. And, when we went out for dinner, she wanted me to order for her - to take charge and her to follow my lead. When we would get ready to go out for the night, she would not uncommonly comb my hair the way she wanted it, lovingly saying " My little boy" as she combed to her liking. She loved doing things for me. I would rather comb my own hair but, she was so cute how she did it, I would not object and let her have her way. When she would be attentive to me, I found myself wanting to take care of her also. I find that AW are so far from this perspective. They are more into a "you owe me mode - which tends to not want you to take as good a care of them in the long run. To me, this is one of the most wonderful aspects of how these women can be. Of course there will be exceptions as DavidSD experienced. That is life. Title: Re: test Post by: yahoo on February 06, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: good! Post by: KenC on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to You're making me sick :-), posted by BubbaGump on Feb 4, 2003
[This message has been edited by KenC] Bubba, I live to make you guys understand "what is possible". I know I am damm lucky, but you can be too. I don't care what method you choose to use, just use it. If you don't succed (at finding the right girl) use it again and again until you do find her. Not every woman in the FSU is a "keeper", but there are great opportunities to find one there. I know I did. She would be a "dream wife" at half the beauty and twice the age! KenC (Please do not take what I wrote as directed at you in particular, just a general type statement)(The best I could get my exwife (AW) to do when I was sick, was to leave me alone) Title: Re: Stop it, I can't take it........ :-) Post by: Jski on February 03, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I can top that, posted by KenC on Feb 3, 2003
I still have months to wait for our visa and your stories are killing me :-) OK, that's it, where did I put that passport....I'm going back! You guys make me Jealous. I want my Toma! Title: Re: Gotta love it- Post by: Quasimoto on February 03, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Gotta love it-, posted by Oscar on Feb 3, 2003
Just posting to make us all jealous aren't you Oscar! Just posting to make us miserable, huh Oscar! Got it kinda good don't ya Oscar! Congratulations! I am happy for you and yes I am jealous, but I hope that changes soon. And it seems you have met your match, and met your nirvana too! Steve Title: Re: Re: Gotta love it- Post by: Oscar on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Gotta love it-, posted by Quasimoto on Feb 3, 2003
Thanks Steve.. So are you back in the saddle then?? I Hope so, you deserve a nice girl.. What is your approach this go round? Title: Re: Re: Re: Gotta love it- Post by: Quasimoto on February 05, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Gotta love it-, posted by Oscar on Feb 4, 2003
I hope I have better luck. I struck out twice!! I am writing many ladies. Now I just have to decide on an area. I am not real keen on Ukraine right now, but not ruling it out. We will see. I may even make a long trip accross about Moldova, Ukraine, to Krasnodar. Steve Title: Re: Gotta love it- Post by: Robert D on February 03, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Gotta love it-, posted by Oscar on Feb 3, 2003
thanks for the post. rather refreshing. If I may ask, what are your ages, and how long has your lady been in the US. thank Title: Re: Re: Gotta love it- Post by: Oscar on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Gotta love it-, posted by Robert D on Feb 3, 2003
I am 47 and she she is 30 with a 7 year old son.. They have been here since December... Title: It does cut into your "free time", doesn't it! ; )) N/T Post by: Rags on February 03, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: Re: It does cut into your "free time", doesn't it! ; )) N/T Post by: Oscar on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to It does cut into your "free time&qu..., posted by Rags on Feb 3, 2003
Hey Ed! You know, I really haven't noticed it too much to be honest! She really is committed to doing things together and is quite serious about it.. Like the golf thing! She wants lessons ASAP so she can go with me in the spring! I think I could say that I wanted to go bungee jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge and I think she would say "ok, when do we leave?"! LOL! Title: Don't worry...things WILL change!...n/t Post by: Stevo on February 03, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: Usually I would think that this depends on how you treat her. n/t Post by: thesearch on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: Not really. My wife finally realized that... Post by: Stevo on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Usually I would think that this depends ..., posted by thesearch on Feb 4, 2003
ironing my underwear was a colosal waste of time, especially considering all the other things that need to be done around the house compared with what she had to do in her miniature Russian flat. As far as dress sirts, no way could she achieve the results of a dry cleaner with heavy starch, so she quickly gave up. This was all with my urging and blessing, of course. With regard to shopping, she too was frugal when she first arrived, but time changes all. Now she can shop with the best of 'em. When I went to Russia looking for a bride, I really wasn't looking for a "50s" woman. I just wanted great looking wife...better than I could get here (and that I succeeded in). She does take care of me like my Mom, though!!! Title: Well... how about... Post by: MarkInTx on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Not really. My wife finally realized th..., posted by Stevo on Feb 4, 2003
How about T-Shirts? My wife irons ALL of them. She didn't used to. I told her that T-Shirts were just to be worn around the house. Then I wore one when I went out once... (I think to Lowe's Lumber Yard, if I remember correctly...) She was horrified when she saw me go out in public in a wrinkled shirt! Now EVERY shirt gets ironed. The other day, she came in as I was working, looked me over and pronounced: "You look well! I like it when you are not wrinkled!" My "Mario is Back!" T-Shirt never looked so good... Title: Gotta have a skeptic in every bunch I guess.... ;-) Post by: Oscar on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Don't worry...things WILL change!...n/t, posted by Stevo on Feb 3, 2003
You could be right of course, but I wouldn't be making any bets on it if I were you.. Took me 4 trips to find this gal and she is somethin'... I'm not just talking about good looking, you can find that blindfolded in the FSU, I'm talking about honesty, sincerity, genuine kindness and a deep spirituality. Believe me, if she were not these things, I would see it reflected in her son, but it is not. She has done a fabulous job with him because of who she truly is and for that I feel very fortunate.. But to those newbies perhaps who read something like this and think "wow, I want that, it shouldn't be that hard to find".. Guess again! It took a helll of a lot of hard work, determination, money and just plain dumb luck IMO! I remember people saying how much fun I must have had on those trips. I tell them there were certainly some fun moments but all in all it was just plain hard work, it was NOT a "vacation"! But because of this, it really has paid off. Title: I was thinkin' the same thing! #:oP Post by: yoe on February 04, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Don't worry...things WILL change!...n/t, posted by Stevo on Feb 3, 2003
The yoe yoe! |