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I posted this below...

But in case it gets missed, I decided to spin it off under a new thread...

It is about the book: Love Languages

I got it in Barnes and Noble. You might also try looking for it at Christian Book stores, as the author was a christian author.

Bascially, the book can be summed up:

There are five main Love Languages:

1) Words of Praise
2) Acts of Service
3) Gifts
4) Quality Time
5) Physical Touch

Everyone needs all of these to feel loved. But everyone also has a primary love language. When love is expressed in that language, they feel most loved. If they never have love expressed in their primary language, they feel unloved.

This can create a problem when two people's love languages are different.

For instance...suppose a man's love language is Words. But his wife's is acts of service. The man tells his wife all of the time that he loves her. But it doesn't matter to her. She's not hearng him.

Meanwhile, she NEVER tells him that she loves him. But she cleans up after him, does the dishes for him. Even takes out the garbage, which was his job, but she does it because she knows he was working late and so she does it for him.

After a period of time, she's thinking... he doesn't love me at all. He never lifts a finger to help me. Meanwhile, he's thinking, She hasn't said I love you to me one time without me initiating it. SHe must not love me...

And it is a problem. Each of them would be astonished that the other felt unloved. But it is the ultimate miscommunication. They were speaking love to each other in foreign languages.

The book has exercises to identify your love language, and ideas of how to "speak" to your spouse in their "native" tongue.

It's really a good book. Very practical.

... in response to Love Languages, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 2, 2002

The full title of the book, in case you want to locate a copy, is: The Five Love Languages : How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman.  It's $12.99 in paperback and $19.99 in hardcover. (Sorry, the librarian in me slipped out.)

... in response to Love Languages, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 2, 2002

I don't know if I'll ever learn though.

... in response to Love Languages, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 2, 2002

and add to that just the very nature of how the male and female mind differs and it gets even more confusing.  But this is a good question to explore in the early stages of a relationship.  These are definately good tidbits to consider in having a successful relationship.  Keep reading them books and posting. :)