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I admire you for taking on the total responsibility of raising your son.  We have a 15 week old daughter and she requires both of us.  Good luck to both of you.

Alvin and Hazel

Why did she ask you to cancel the visa? That seems odd.

Earlier you said "I cannot help it that she failed two Visas"
Were they failed or cancelled?

Just Curious,

Don

Just an idea.....

Don

Every country has its pros and cons, maybe you should stop listening to people that have never even been to the Philippines.  Most Filipinos want to come to America due to their media distorted view of America.  Filipinos mainly come here for money.
The goal of both my wife and I is to move to the Philippines by the time I am 50.  Also, my wife has told me many times that if we were to have children that she would never have them here, she would only have them in the Philippines.
It is your child and your choice, I just wanted to point out some alternative choices.

Just my dos pesos,

Don

   There certainly are positives to raising children
in the Philippines- such as the ones you mention.
Yet one should be slow to put on the rose colored glasses about this. I think that getting the best of both worlds
is a good approach and would hesitate to see our daughter
raised only in the Philippines. Of course, the choices the parents make in their home will be hugely powerful anywhere,
but at the same time one sees those positives you point out, there are negatives to consider as well...it's a mine field either way I think. The troubling aspects I mention are likely prevented from causing the total destruction of the country by those positive aspects you rightly point out.
   The Philippines is a deeply troubled society without the civic traditions to fall back on that the USA enjoys
in dealing with problems.

  Boys tend to be raised differently than girls in Filipino
  households. I saw many families raising their daughters
  strictly, while their sons were learning to get away with
  all they can, like little lords.

  One must go up making a lot of rationalizations when
  you are living in a society where...well the inmates
  have got out and are running the asylum. Most filipinos
  are suffering from extremely poor governance. A natural
  result of living under a government where the norm for
  officials is to steal everything you can whenever
  possible. In a typical public works project, nearly
  50% of the project budget is  often stolen.
  The hardest critics of Bill Clinton should realize that
  the average Filipino politician makes Bill look like a
  choir boy.

  Learning to trash the environment is routine in the
  Philippines. When I would go for a hike near Salay, I
  remember how surprised everyone was that I thought
  just throwing all your trash on the ground as you hiked
  was not right. The Philippines, largely due to
  overpopulation and poverty, is being pillaged from one
  end to the other- forests destroyed...reefs destroyed
  with dynamite fishing. About 70% of the forest that
  was in place when the Philippines become independent
  has been destroyed.

  Be realistic- raising a child in a society that
  is suffering from systemic corruption, overpopulation
  and poverty brings it's own set of problems when
  raising children.

  In the end, I suspect that parents who would do a good
  job with their children in the USA would do the same in
  the Philippines. If you are depending on the education
  system and the society at large to produce good
  results...you are in trouble anywhere.

  In Travel in better than 60 countries, I have learned
  that the "taxi test" will pretty will tell you what
  conditions are in that country. Do the cab drivers
  routinely try to rip you off? I say this partly in jest,
  but it is also a fact.

  These things said, yes, there are some great places to
  live in the Philippines, and I would still consider
  moving back there with my family. At the same time, if
  you can offer your family a chance to live in a smaller
  town in the US or in a rural area, that is pretty hard
  to beat. I remember that my wife was surprised that
  going out into the country in Oregon or Arizona was not
  dangerous, and in fact was safer than any city.

 my $.02 worth...

Nathan

Jim

ALVIN

Ok, in 5 years you come on vacation to visit me in my nipa hut.  I'll keep the bugs and rodents out but the lizards have to stay.  Otherwise humabdos won't come by to pester me to go diving -ROFL!

Jim

Jim

But after what you been thru with this, yeah, I'd definitely FEEL old as he11, used, rode hard and hung up wet for sure.

For what it's worth, my ex has a daughter in Surigao City that she hasn't seen in over 20 years... is now like 25 years old.  Hmmm, seems I helped put her (and God only knows everybody else) through college, is now married and not doing too bad either.

Life works in mysterious ways.  Good to see that Greg kept the child here though.  Best thing for him, (both of "him").