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Title: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...
Post by: Gringo Loco on October 21, 2005, 04:00:00 AM
[This message has been edited by Gringo Loco]

Let's see how bad the sharks tear this one up...

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail WIth Women And How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...

I DID NOT WRITE THIS!!!!
IT WAS SENT TO ME AND IS A CAPTION OUT OF A BOOK!!!

MISTAKE #1:

Being  Too Much Of A Nice Guy

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never
romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.


MISTAKE #2:


Trying To Convince Her To Like You


What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.


MISTAKE #3:

Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them...
EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her
approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get
ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her
around and want her approval annoy her...


MISTAKE #4:

Trying To Buy Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her
gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.


MISTAKE #5:

Sharing How You Feel Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is
sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...


MISTAKE #6:

Not Getting How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a
sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is
something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're
attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...


MISTAKE #7:

Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before
they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of
these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich,
tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and
communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of
powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.


MISTAKE #8:

Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women
aren't attracted to Wussies!


MISTAKE #9:

Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body
language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her,
getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.


MISTAKE #10:

Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of
success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We
don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be
successful with women...

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost
instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick,
insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.


Regards,

Mike
www.yourlatinwife.com
The New Era of International Relationships!



Title: How to treat a woman...
Post by: wizard on October 21, 2005, 04:00:00 AM
... in response to Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...., posted by Gringo Loco on Oct 21, 2005

Looks like you found Dr. Loves recipe on meeting and conquering single women...

http://www.drlove.com/index.asp

or David DeAngelo's book, "Double Your Dating"...

http://www.askmen.com//products/double/index.html

I agree with some of these techniques, but many go against the grain for me as they relate on how to treat a woman...



Title: Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...
Post by: Ricardo on October 21, 2005, 04:00:00 AM
... in response to Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...., posted by Gringo Loco on Oct 21, 2005

Gringo Loco...
Let me take a stab at this, at least the first few of your "reasons"; I will let the other "sharks" take their turn...
so here we go:
1.  Being Too Much Of A Nice Guy - it doesn't hurt to be a nice guy, most women appreciate this, in my experience with latinas they never fail to notice that I am a nice guy; and 'nice' gals are usually looking for a nice guy.  Having said that, you will probably not attract the 'hot' young chicas, who may very well have a different agenda - you guys know it all too well, ie. a free ride, a green card, money and gifts, etc.  A guy can have great success as a 'nice' guys, as long as he knows the difference between being nice and being a doormat.  
2.  Trying To Convince Her To Like You - ie.  TRYING to be a nice guy, be yourself ie. the best that you can be, let her take it or leave it.  If she isn't falling for you, she probably never will, you're not her type, etc...

3.  Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission - see the above
4.  Trying To Buy Her Affection With Food And Gifts - do this, and you've no chance in hell of having a genuine ie. healthy relationship with her.  Use this kind of bait only if you  want to attract the sharks.  
Really it is very simple, know what you want, know yourself, don't be overly concerned with  pleasing her (or anyone else for that matter).  As it has been said before, get to know her language, culture and customs, etc.  
Be true to yourself!



Title: Re: Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...
Post by: Gringo Loco on October 21, 2005, 04:00:00 AM
... in response to Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Wo..., posted by Ricardo on Oct 21, 2005

I think you hit it on the head. But I do have one advice! As an attourney once said to me. You are financially responsible for her for 10 years once she enters this country. Like it or not.

So I would definitely make a few momoents very very rough for her. Find out if she is really in love with you. So much that she sounds desperate. You want to be sure that you aren't getting reeled in and taken for your services of a green card.

Beleive me there are plenty of them out there!

2) There are definitely women who are not interested!!!

3) Looking for her approval. Well us men must stand our ground of wearing the pants in the house. But it is nice to ask for approval to go hang out with the guys etc... once in a while.

4) My phylosophy is this. Buy the things you want for her. But make her understand you had to work very hard to get those things. And always make her feel like you are more than aware and use caution when spending your money. For instance when you are with her always look for the best deal not bargain deal for your buck. Don't make her feel as though you are cheap. Just very responsible with your money.

I know you could write all day!

Thanks for your feedback! Mike

www.yourlatinwife.com
mike@yourlatinwife.com



Title: Re: Re: Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...
Post by: papi on October 21, 2005, 04:00:00 AM
... in response to Re: Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail Wit..., posted by Gringo Loco on Oct 21, 2005

Gringo, thanks for the call today. Your novia is a dream but you can forget about me dragging your new cat to her...LOL


Title: Re: Re: Re: Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...
Post by: Gringo Loco on October 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM
... in response to Re: Re: Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail..., posted by papi on Oct 21, 2005

Papi,

C'mon man you know I'll take care of you!!! Just think full access to all my women....

 Thanks, Mike



Title: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...
Post by: papi on October 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM
... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men ..., posted by Gringo Loco on Oct 23, 2005

I am on a new mission for beauty, brains and sophistication and reaching out to greener pastures than BQ...LOL. But if you truly have 1 or 2 hotties, send her my way and we can discuss kitty transport