working girls

[Ken2]

I have dated girls with jobs and some "not currently working."  A Colombian friend is adamant about me hooking up with a proffessional woman.  Im not sure his assumption that a woman with a job is a better catch.  2 girls I dated had jobs three months ago but now are both unemployed.  My buddies theory (obviously) was that women under economic hardship will use you in a hot second whereas a working woman is giving up a secure(?) job etc.   BTW -  the girl I was looking at hooking up with was caught in a lie and I am not heading to MDE, but back to BQ at the end of this month.

[Nico]

... in response to working girls, posted by Ken2 on Mar 1, 2005

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[kented]

... in response to working girls, posted by Ken2 on Mar 1, 2005

Having had one failed marriage ( a professional) and one which is in progress (a store clerk), I don't feel you can make any generalizations based on education or employment.

Before my first marriage I had a long list of prerequisites and in the final analysis found everything except someone who wanted our marriage to work.  

My suggestion is to not eliminate ladies except for the most basic reasons (like if the children issue is different than you want or below a minimum level on physical appeal).  Then meet ladies and look for chemistry first and then honesty.  This is not a science and if you have too many restrictions, you'll miss a lot of worthy ladies.

[Mazu]

... in response to Re: working girls, posted by kented on Mar 2, 2005

Kented is totally right. When I first started looking I had this long list and felt I should get it as I am young and successful. The reality is this isn't how love works. Find someone you are attracted to, really enjoy being with and you are comfortable with where they are in life (and vice versa). I am not sure what else is important.

[Neil]

... in response to working girls, posted by Ken2 on Mar 1, 2005

what is hooking up?  Having sex?

[Ken2]

... in response to what is hooking up?, posted by Neil on Mar 2, 2005

"hooking up" to me,  means dating with the intention of developing a relationship.  The "working girls" title can be misleading.  Sorry.

[jediknight]

... in response to working girls, posted by Ken2 on Mar 1, 2005

in colombia there is no such thing as job security, everyone, even professionals can lose their jobs at any time and finding a job, with decent pay and with an employer that will pay your salary on time is difficult. keep in mind that colombians in the interior, especially in bogota, are all about status. some colombians will not date out of their estrato, they will treat you according to what you do for a living, where you live, what car you drive, etc. once i was having lunch in bogota with a colombian friend and i commented on how hot the waitress was, he said i shouldn't even bother because she's a waitress, to which i said so what, then he went on about looking for someone of better class with a better job.

i've met many professionals in colombia that knew they could earn 10X or more here in the US than over there, so one can argue that a professional can also have motives to want to marry a gringo, so they can come here and earn a better living. i think that the most important thing to look for in a woman is whether she is honest, faithfull, loving... of course there are many more things to look for but those are my top 3, so when i was looking for a woman, it didn't matter to me whether she was a professional or not, as far as i'm concerned if she was working that was enough for me, but if she was lazy without any desire to work and looking for someone to take care of her, i ran the other way.

[kented]

... in response to Re: working girls, posted by jediknight on Mar 2, 2005

are definately the three traits to look for.  If you find them, it doesn't matter what education or employment the lady has.

[Brassa]

... in response to Re: working girls, posted by jediknight on Mar 2, 2005

You said :

keep in mind that colombians in the interior, especially in bogota, are all about status. some colombians will not date out of their estrato, they will treat you according to what you do for a living, where you live, what car you drive, etc.

I say....same story every where you go. Human nature.

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: working girls, posted by Brassa on Mar 2, 2005

yes, this is true but the point i was making is that i've found that you don't see that in the coast like barranquilla or cartagena.

[Brassa]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: working girls, posted by jediknight on Mar 2, 2005

I see. Thats good to know!

[zack]

... in response to working girls, posted by Ken2 on Mar 1, 2005

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Your friend has no reason to be "adamant" about that. Just because a woman is professional and has a stable job doesn't mean that she is less willing to come to America. Some of those hard-working women may be fed up with working and want to be a stay-at-home mom with a "rich gringo".

The bottom line is, either a woman has a heart of gold or she doesn't. The other factors you mentioned obviously come into play but to a lesser degree than the woman's character as a whole.

Zack