Spanish-Challenged Travellers & Agency Owners

[Looking4Wife]

To those Spanish-challenged of us who have travelled, dated, and used translators... agency owners may feel free to chime in as well...

1.  How soon were you able to know if you were achieving chemistry (or not) with your date?

2.  How soon were you able to "ditch" the translator and pursue love unfettered?

3.  Did you find yourself using the translator intermittently (i.e. early in the day to get the day started smoothly, or later in the day after you have had time to bond with your date)

4.  Does the translator look the other way, or leave automatically, when spontaneous affection breaks out?

Gracias

[Pete E]

... in response to Spanish-Challenged Travellers & Agen..., posted by Looking4Wife on Feb 12, 2005

Chemistry is not language dependent,fortunately.Other issues of compatability can be.Actually if you have chemistry the language issue is easier,people have the patience to deal with it because of the attraction.And if chemistry is there it seems to be there right away.In this circumstance I can do without the translator from the get go.And I never kept one around long enough to get in the way of affection and romance.Maybe 30 miniutes when you first meet,then if a difficult to comprehend issue comes up pull them back in.
Some guys seem to require a more intellectual relationship.That can be a LONG time coming.If you are satisfied with body language that is easier.Other than big issues just understanding what is happening in their life can be difficult sometimes.I can even basically understand what they are saying but it can be hard to put it together to get to the point of it.
One of my girlfriends speaks no english but understands some.She will get this look on her face or smile or break out laughing,letting me know she understands what we said.

Pete

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: Spanish-Challenged Travellers & ..., posted by Pete E on Feb 12, 2005

Thanks, Pete.  I picked up some good things to think about from each of your posts.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Spanish-Challenged Travellers & ..., posted by Pete E on Feb 12, 2005

Not to overdo it,but In think there is some truth in people being either visual,verbal or sensatory(feeling).
Actaully we are probably all combinations of the 3,just like we are a combination of physical types.
Guys seeking latina in central and South America probably tend to be more visual.Thats why we didn't settle for what we  could get at home,the woman needs to LOOK a certain way.
I think human evolution has progressed to where men are to a large extent attracted by visual,where animals are more attracted by scents.
I know a guy in the states who is an extreme example of sensatory,feeling.He married a woman 10 years older than him and 280 lbs.She is a nice sweet WARM person.Works for him.Sure as hell wouldn't work for me.I had a shot with a woman  who was similar in warmth a maybe 30 lbs overweight,and also about my age.Couldn't do it.Colombia here I came.
Some guys are verbal,and these are the guys who will go crazy with the language issue.A  friend of mine who was here was something like that,but let his visual and feeling sides took  over enough to have a good time.Kind of surprised me.But his verbal need is high and he picked up alot of spanish in 2 weeks.When I first came to Colombia I met a guy who was very verbal,he was going crazy with the language,left very frustrated and never came back.He met a eastern european woman who speaks some english I think.
For me,in a woman,I need affection and sex.If that part is good the rest of it is not as important as long as it is not so bad it screws up the realtionship.It would be nice to understand each other on all levels,and that can come with time.Lots of time.Hopefully nothing relationship threatening would come out later.I doubt it.
This man woman thing is about atraction and emotion primarily.The rest of it needs to be AT LEAST compatable.
Reminds me of the hotest woman I ever dated,when I was about 35.She was a geourgeous but ditzy blond.So bad so it totally overcame the physical attraction,which  was huge.
I couldn't get serious about her,hot body and all.I couldn't wait to take her home after being with her a few hours.She was looking real hard for someone,got in to a relatioship with a very intelligent but overweight and unattractive guy.My friend saw them at aparty.The guys was having a great conversation with this other woman,little hottie was threatened and was hanging on him rubbing against him.My friend said it was like you could see the guy being jerked back and forth between the 2 attractions,intellectial and physical.He went for the physical.He married her.They moved but I saw them at a work picnic a year later.I was in great shape at the time,feeling pretty hot.I was talking to her.I could feel the attraction from her.She traded looks for security.I don't know what ever happened to them.A real odd couple.I wonder if they could stand each other for long.I doubt it.
Saturday ramble.Its a rainy day here.I never remember this much rain this time of year before.Its supposed to be sunny.Not the rainy season now.That was supposed to be over early December.
I'm checking out the Blues Brothers celebration tonight.Taking one of my chicas.I might be sorry I did that.Might be lots of hot girls.

Pete

[Pete E]

... in response to Visual,verbal or sensatory?, posted by Pete E on Feb 12, 2005

One thing I failed to say.I said in a relationship I need affection and sex.I have that with my 2 girls.I also need the visual,and that is where they don't quiet measure up.One relationship is also complicated by some negative verbal.She likes to talk alot during sex and I am struggling a little with the attraction issue and some  of the things she says turns me off,not on.Too much mental struggle here,Not a good sign.But such a good person and crazy about me.I wish I could feel differently.I am having a little sympathy for what my ex wife probably went through in our relationship.It difficult if not impossible to change.

Pete

[Heat]

... in response to Spanish-Challenged Travellers & Agen..., posted by Looking4Wife on Feb 12, 2005

1. How soon were you able to know if you were achieving chemistry (or not) with your date?""

If you don't speak spanish..........it will be when you buy her something she wants.

[kented]

... in response to as soon as ................................, posted by Heat on Feb 12, 2005

Today I bought my wife a bracelt and it was a typical day at the mall.  We had earlier found that i could get her a cell phone and add a lien for only $10 a month [phone free].  Since it cost so little, I decided to get her the phone and she went crazy.

Making someone happy is exciting when the person appreciates it and shows you love.  Chemisrty definately comes with presents.  You need Spanish to tell if that's all you have.

[Brandon2253]

... in response to amen!!!, posted by kented on Feb 13, 2005

You should be sure she understands that you only have a certain amount of minutes.  You ugys are bothing sharing however many minutes you had on ur plan...I have seen so many people come back pissed off with a 300-400 bill after adding a line.  One time I saw someone with a bill for 1700!!!

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: amen!!!, posted by Brandon2253 on Feb 13, 2005

Last October my ex was bored at work,no customers,so she went way over our miniutes talking to her friends., I had just increased the miniutes to 1200.Its was $420 for the extra miniutes.

Pete

[Pete E]

... in response to as soon as ................................, posted by Heat on Feb 12, 2005

One problem with chemistry is it can be faxed.The kind you get right after buying them something an example.I had one of those.It doesn't seem so hard to figure it out now.Even at the time I knew it but went for it anyway.
If chemistry is being faxed then language can help you determine that.
Sometimes chemistry seems so genuine it is overwhelmingly likely its for real.I have 2 girls who feel this way for me right now.And I have chemistry for them,but not as much,so something seems to  missing on my part.Enough so I will leave the beach and venture out in to the ocean with the sharks.One thing about having a girl who does have chemistry for you,when you meet one who does not it seems so obvious by comparison.

Pete

[doombug]

... in response to Re: as soon as ............................, posted by Pete E on Feb 12, 2005

"One problem with chemistry is it can be faxed."

I tried faxing chemistry to my wife when we first met, but her toner always seemed to be low.  Maybe relationships are more reliant on good quality office products than the experts will admit.

Next time, I'll send my chemistry by coriander.

Now I just need to find a decent cooking class...

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: as soon as ........................, posted by doombug on Feb 12, 2005

Good one.I meant faked of course.

Pete

[Heat]

... in response to Re: as soon as ............................, posted by Pete E on Feb 12, 2005

I thought your women was a hot mamacita!  She just threw off sex appeal.  I know what ya mean about looks.  I got to have them.  Luck in Cali it easy.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: as soon as ............................, posted by Pete E on Feb 12, 2005

Pete, Good points in your emails.  I assume you meant that chemistry might be faked, not faxed? Hope everything works out for you concerning the latinas.

                            OkieMan

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: as soon as ........................, posted by OkieMan on Feb 12, 2005

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