Sorry for being late to this one...

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Head of household = husbands role, posted by soltero on Feb 4, 2005

Sounds good, but I am curious about how you originally learned enough about each other to determine if you were compatible; at least on some level?  I am giving you the benefit of the doubt that your relationship is based on more than raw sex appeal.  I am assuming that you have some criteria that went into determining that she was the one for you, etc, etc.  Then after that point, she trusts you enough to "go with the flow", so to speak.  Am I right, or wrong?  I am asking these questions because I have a very analytical personality; and yet, I don't want to overdo the amount of questions I ask my girlfriend.  We are still trying to learn more about each other, so from my point of view, I need to still ask a lot of questions.  However, I realize that at some point, we have to feel comfortable enough with one another that the questions start to die down and we get into a "rhthym" with our relationship.  Does that make sense?  I am still trying to determine how much compatibility we do have.  How long have you and your novia been a couple?
                               OkieMan

[soltero]

... in response to Re: Re: Head of household = husbands rol..., posted by OkieMan on Feb 4, 2005

Slowly but surely, I am learning that there is nothing wrong with being "selfish". Instead of trying to compromise that is so often given as advice (that hasn't worked for me)I finally decided not to compromise what I want or believe in. So far, she has been able to respond exactly as I would to different questions and situations, and even though I know that there are still some differences, so far, in the major categories, we almost think the same way or have the same views. We even have many of the same likes. We talk every day, sometimes twice a day, and have done so since October of last year. I spent a week with her in November, and she really impressed me and continues to do so. I don't know how to explain it. The first time we talked, we talked for two hours. It has been getting better ever since. I am a firm believer that God may not always give you what you want, but gives you what you need. I think my wants and needs have finally started to converge after years of not knowing that I should have wanted what I needed sooner.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Sorry for being late to this one..., posted by soltero on Feb 3, 2005

Soltero,
I agree with some of what you said.  As I had alluded to in some of my past posts, we all can agree on some things, but since we haven't walked in each other's shoes; we can't know precisely what the other person is thinking, yada, yada, yada.  I think for our purposes on this board, we are saying that we should not be violent, don't beat the wife, kick the cat, pay our taxes, etc, etc.  Beyond that, it is going to be difficult to get any group of people to agree; much less a group of guys, most of whom have never actually met in person.  We can also agree to disagree, without being disagreeable.  I think that is what separates us from "nutcases", like the ones who attacked us on Sep 11th.  Imagine it now, they came from the other side of the world to violently "disagree" with us.  Why?  Because they can't stand for us to disagree with their values, or assessment of the world, and they continue to push their crazy agenda on us and the rest of the "sane" world.  But, that's the world we live in.  By the way, speaking of the Bible; the Bible predicts many events of this nature during the "last days".  For you that are not "Believers", I would very kindly ask that you read the Bible.  There is a lot of good information in it that can help.  But, if you choose to not read and learn, then that is also your privelege.  No temper tantrums, no bombs, no hate-- only love!  That's the difference my friends.

                                OkieMan