Ever surprised your girlfriend in Colombia?

[jediknight]

[This message has been edited by jediknight]

I was wondering if during the dating process if any of you have ever flown down without letting your girlfriends know and surprised them. How did you guys do it? did you show up at her house, work, school? did you stay at a hotel a day or two before the BIG surprise?
was there a special occasion involved like a birthday, anniversary or a holiday? how suprised/happy were they? did you involve a family member to help you plan the surprise or did you do it alone?

i just got back from barranquilla and I'm thinking of flying down again sooner than i expected, perhaps showing up with a musicians, flowers, the whole works. I haven't decided whether to do it alone or to ask an uncle or cousin to help me plan things but I know she'll be happy to see me as I'll be to see her.

[thundernco]

... in response to Ever surprised your girlfriend in Colomb..., posted by jediknight on Feb 6, 2005

Sure did.  While we were dating, I decided to fly down to see my novia, now wife.  I flew down on a whim, told no one, let the guardas at the gate know what was going on, and knocked on her door with flowers and suitcase in hand.  She said she was so happy to see me because we had not spoken that day and was worried that something had happpened to me.  Needless to say, all went well. -TNC

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Ever surprised your girlfriend in Co..., posted by thundernco on Feb 6, 2005

Thundernco,
How long had you dated you novia/now wife at that time? How many times had you seen her?  Just curious. When you say that you had your suitcase in hand, then I guess that you stayed with her, instead of using a hotel, or something?  Did she live alone, or did she have family with her?  It might help me with a situation I am working on. Glad to know that all went well.

                           OkieMan

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: Ever surprised your girlfriend i..., posted by OkieMan on Feb 7, 2005

okieman, mind sharing the "situation" you are working on? the mariachis or trio or musicians are not expensive, depending on the length of time you want them to sing it may run about$30-$60, although I haven't done it in barranquilla, I was in bogota and a buddy did it for that price($50) so I would guess it may be cheaper in the coast. I'm still ironing out the specifics but i'll keep you posted

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Ever surprised your girlfrie..., posted by jediknight on Feb 7, 2005

My deal is too much up in the air right now.  Money is tight for me right now, so I am not sure when I can fly to Cali.  But, I have a calena that is really special, and she wants me to fly down.  Well, let me clarify.  We have been just corresponding, so I cannot "count my chicas before they hatch", so to speak.  But, if she is really anything like she is telling me, we might have something special.  I have several photos that she has sent me. Wow!   So, as I said, I don't want to be premature.  We are still a work in progress!
                                OkieMan

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Ever surprised your girl..., posted by OkieMan on Feb 7, 2005

great news, i hope things turn out the way you hope. you wrote that she is not part of an agency, so how did you meet her? how long have you been writing to her? do you speak often over the phone, instant message her, camara web? i did all of that for months before flying down to meet my girlfriend and she was better than the person i had gotten to know over emails/phone/IM. we both knew we had a strong connection but it wasn't until we finally met that we both knew that we were for each other, i'm very lucky and happy. good luck

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Ever surprised your ..., posted by jediknight on Feb 7, 2005

I may have given you the wrong impression.  She is a member of Latin-Internet Agency now.  But, she just joined in January, and had not been a member of an agency previously. As you can see, we have been writing to each other only a short while.  But, in that short time, we have formed a strong connection.  To answer your other questions; no, at this time, I have not talked to her by phone or the other stuff; just emails.  That's mainly because I don't speak spanish and she does not speak english.  We are trying to work on that.  But, I did have a somewhat unusual situation develop.  One day a couple of weeks back, I had a message on my answering machine.  I could barely make out the words, so I thought that it was a mistake, or something.  So, later that night I was watching TV, and this person called me again.  It turned out that this was the 19 year old son of this lady.  Since I could not speak spanish and he could only barely speak english, our phone conversation was short.  Pretty soon he hung up.  Well, anyway, I emailed the agency to find out how he got my phone number.  It turned out that my information was in the profile they had on me.  The lady that I am writing had written it down in her diary, for possible future use, and her son wrote it down, without her knowledge and called me.  She says that he was just curious and wanted to talk, and she apologized.  Naturally,I told her no problem (especially after I found how he got my number.  But, until I confirmed that, I was somewhat apprehensive).  So, it was a little hurdle, and now everything is sweet and wonderful.  This weekend, she emailed me several more photos of her.  Man is she smokin!  Of course, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but I can't wait to meet her in person.  I just hope that this time is better than last year.  Overall, I enjoyed my trip, but I didn't get anything together with the women I met on my trip to Cali last year.  So, now I have another shot at it, and this girl is even better than the others.  So, for now, I am happy; but I am anxious to make the trip soon!  I'll keep you guys posted.

                             OkieMan

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Ever surprised y..., posted by OkieMan on Feb 7, 2005

Be aware that if you sponsor her for a K-1 or K-3 then her 19 year old son will qualify to come to the US also as her dependent child. She'd be a fool to leave him down there and most likely won't come without him. Now, I aint a sayin 'does' and I aint a sayin 'dont'....just letting you be aware of the situation.

Personally, I do have a 19yo step son living in my house....is he perfect? No. Is he an out right trouble maker? No......he's somewhere in the middle. He's got a factory job, a car (that he paid for himself and scares his mother to death with) and his English is getting pretty good.

Your milage may vary.

[OkieMan]

... in response to 19yo son, posted by Michael B on Feb 8, 2005

MichaelB,
Thanks for the info on your situation.  Frankly, I am not at the point where I know what the "real deal" on that is.  He does not currently live with her, but she did raise him after she and his father divorced.  She told me that her son has lived with his dad for about the last six months. I will just have to wait until I actually get down there before I open up that "can of worms".  I could ask now, but I am not sure that would be the best way to handle it.  Besides, I don't want to go down that road until I am sure about her and I.  Having said that, she seems to be a real special lady.  So, I will have to wait and see.  But, clue me in on the son being able to come here as a dependent, even though he is over 18?  That is one part I hadn't thought of.

                            OkieMan

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: 19yo son, posted by OkieMan on Feb 8, 2005

Like Soltero said, the cut off age for a dependent child is 21.  I'd open the bait box (worm can) NOW, before I bought my tickets. 'Special Lady' or no, she's a MOTHER and she's going to want to do what she can for her kid. Let's see now, the choices are: a) move him to Gringo land, all nice and legal like, where he can maybe get a decent education and at least eat everyday or b) leave him in Colombia fending for himself, to roam the streets unsupervised or get drafted into the Colombian army or who knows what ........wanna take a poll of the guys here of which choice they think that she'll make? Now, to want to bring her child with her does not make her a 'bad person', a 'shark' or a 'gold digger'. Like I said, it proves that she's a mother. But were it I, I'd make a decision of either 'no kids, period' or 'OK, IF I get along well with the kid' before I went any futher with this woman.

I don't see anything wrong with a guy deciding 'no kids, period' and then simply not persuing any woman who has childern and I don't see anything wrong with a guy deciding 'maybe, depends on the kid' .....but to say 'no kids' AFTER a woman with kids is involved with you and has her hopes up, well, that just isn't right and 'opps, gee, I just never really thought it through' doesn't sound like a very good excuse, now does it?

I'll lay dollars to doughnuts that she won't agree to come up here with out him and if you pressure her to she'll say 'see ya round, Charlie Brown'

[soltero]

... in response to Re: 19yo son, posted by OkieMan on Feb 8, 2005

The cutoff age for a qualified dependent child is 21.

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Ever surprised y..., posted by OkieMan on Feb 7, 2005

ok i understand now,when you mentioned that she wasn't part of an agency i thought that you may have found her through the internet or introduced by someone. it must be difficult to communicate to each other, but don't give up, i've been at this since 2000 and it finally has paid off. getting pictures is ALWAYS exciting, remember to send her some of yours, even when you were a kid, i've found that women like that, ask her if she has any of when she was 2 years old, that's always nice to see. from the way things sound, this next trip should be better than the last, good luck

[thundernco]

... in response to Re: Re: Ever surprised your girlfriend i..., posted by OkieMan on Feb 7, 2005

Hi Okieman,

We had been dating about 8 months, which consisted of me flying down every other month for a week or so, and her coming out to see me on her tourist visa once.  I did stay with her and she did live alone at the time.  I should add, I would always call her to a fixed line number in the evening, west coast time, and I would always find her within a call or two (her place or her parents' home).  The calls helped solidify my trust, but I had a few days free and wanted to see her along with the added benefit of dropping in to verify that a correct decision had been made in placing my trust in her.  She was stunned and took it positively that I would fly out to spend a few days with her.  I asked her parents for her hand in marriage soon after. -TNC

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Ever surprised your girlfrie..., posted by thundernco on Feb 7, 2005

Great story.  I am glad everything worked out for you.  I am keeping my fingers crossed concerning a situation I am working on.  I have started to correspond with a lady in Cali.  She has never been a member of an agency before.  She is 35 and has 1 grown son; and he now lives with his dad.  So, she lives alone in an apartment.  I am working my tail off to earn enough money to go see her.  So, as I had said in another post; I don't want to be premature about this deal, but she seems to be much different than many of the girls we hear about on this board.  One thing is for sure, she is hot!  But, not a party girl.  If anything develops, I will keep the board informed.
                        OkieMan

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Ever surprised your girlfrie..., posted by thundernco on Feb 7, 2005

nice thunder, i'm very happy for the both of you that it worked out they way you both wanted. it's difficult enough to have a relationship not to mention a long distance one, especially when i think many of us can't travel as often as we would like, you are fortunate to have had that luxury and to have found a woman you can trust.