Ever surprised your girlfriend in Colombia?

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: Ever surprised your girlfriend in Co..., posted by thundernco on Feb 6, 2005

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[OkieMan]

... in response to Ever surprised your girlfriend in Colomb..., posted by jediknight on Feb 6, 2005

Sounds interesting.  Let me know if you pull it off.  I like the idea about having the musicians and flowers, etc.  How much would something like that run?  Well, anyway keep us posted, but I do not have any experience in that area.

                               OkieMan

[Michael B]

... in response to Ever surprised your girlfriend in Colomb..., posted by jediknight on Feb 6, 2005

In 1974 I suprized my girlfriend in Mexico City by showing up at her house unxepetedly. She knew I was comming, but she had the date mixed up and thought I would be in NEXT week. Well, the suprize was on me, ha ha. Her four year old daughter answered the door. What's so suprizing about that? Despite 4 trips over the previous 2 years, this was the first time I had seen the daughter. In fact, it was the first time I even knew she existed. Needless to say, the relationship kind of went downhill after that. Be careful who you suprize.

[jediknight]

... in response to In Colombia? No. In Mexico? Yes., posted by Michael B on Feb 6, 2005

wow,they say that things always happen for a reason, it was a good thing that she got the dates mixed up, it exposed someone that she was hiding from you, even though it wasn't another guy, the fact that after 2 years she didn't tell you about a daughter was not cool.

[harleyman]

... in response to Re: In Colombia? No. In Mexico? Yes., posted by jediknight on Feb 6, 2005

I had a similar experience...I found out after over a year that the "little brother" was my ex fiances kid and two years after we split I discovered that the "little sister" was indeed her daughter as well.

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: In Colombia? No. In Mexico? Yes., posted by harleyman on Feb 7, 2005

yikes!!, that's unreal. a question, was she living alone or with parents, did you meet any realtives, in other words...was everyone who met you in on the lie/deception?

[harleyman]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: In Colombia? No. In Mexico? ..., posted by jediknight on Feb 7, 2005

She was living with her parents and I met them the second time I was in Cali over a year after we met. I found out about her son a week before I met the parents but they were in on the lies/deception about the daughter and the boyfriend. I remember calling her on my birthday and was told by her mother that the guy that answered the phone was a " family friend". I found out that the little sister was her daughter from the next gringo that brought her to the States. She was with him for six months and then informed him that "my little sister is my daughter and when can she come live with us ?" When he refused she called 911 and claimed that he was raping and abusing her. I dont know how he got my name and number but he called me and we exchanged very frightfully similar experinces. The last night that I was with her and ended our relationship she trashed the hotel room and called the police and claimed that I raped her!!!!!!!  I was on my way to jail in Cali but fortunately for me the security guard at the hotel witnessed the incident thru the room window and told the police the truth.
My advice is that if any of you guys have to leave your fiance behind in Colombia hire a PI or you could be posting some good infotainment here in the future.

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: In Colombia? No. In Mexico? ..., posted by jediknight on Feb 7, 2005

Excelent question, with scary implications...

I never even thought about that angle, so I am anxiously awaiting answers...

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: In Colombia? No. In Mexico? Yes., posted by jediknight on Feb 6, 2005

Yeah, not cool. Her excuse was 'when we met I was afraid you wouldn't be interested in me if you knew I had a kid' and that she had been 'waiting for the right time' to tell me (like the day before, or the day after the wedding?). Oh well. You know, sometimes I still wonder 'how things might have been' and beleive it or not I still have all the pictures of us together, and even a picture of the little girl (she was the cutest thing). Just don't let my wife look in the upper left drawer of the Mac tool box.

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Ever surprised your girlfriend in Colomb..., posted by jediknight on Feb 6, 2005

I'm glad you asked this question.  I am VERY interested in the answers, but for a different reason.

I was thinking this would be good to do, as BOTH a romantic gesture AND, equally as important, an impromptu faithfulness test.

So my question would be:

Has anyone ever done it AND discovered unfaithfulness as a result?

Gracias

[jediknight]

... in response to Similar Question, Different Reason, posted by Looking4Wife on Feb 6, 2005

you are right about the motive, one could easily do it for purely romantic reasons or to clear up any doubts they  may have about their latina. i really hope that I'm never in a situacion where I'll ever feel like I have to check up on my girlfriend but I'm sure there are those that have flown down by surprise for that reason.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Similar Question, Different Reason, posted by jediknight on Feb 6, 2005

Hey,  if that happened, you could tell her your real name is Quiedo, and you will make her an offer she can't refuse! ha Just kidding.  I am sure there could be all kinds of stuff come out of a meeting like that.  Frankly, it would probably depend on how far along your relationship is with the girl in question.  Engaged, or almost engaged would probably be better than just a short, no-commitments type of relationship.   Otherwise, she might be out with other guys for sure. You know, we might be onto a new idea for one of those dumb "reality" shows!  What a hoot!

                               OkieMan

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Similar Question, Different Reason, posted by jediknight on Feb 6, 2005

I know this wasn't the question here,but it comesup from it.
ANY doubt at all I suggest checking her out.Probably better to hire a private detective.One of my friends had a novia living in an apartment he rented for her.He heard stories but rationalized them as false,there were people trying to break them up.He  talked about a private detective but never did it.Finally he showed up unanounced to find out the rumors were true.He just put her basic clothes in the lobby,did not even give her the expensive stuff he bought for her.She screwed up the best sugar daddy she was ever going to get,which I am sure has occured to her and will for the rest ofher life.She was real young,like 19.He was a good looking 40 something,but to her he was old.Even 25 years olds would die for him.
Deception is SO common that unless your girl is absolutely totally in love with you and there is not a SINGLE doubt about her,hire a PI.Might be a REAL EYE OPENER.Maybe$100.Could save you thousands plus untold grief.
My do it all Colombiano can arrange it or do it himself.He has a real funny story,he was checking out a girl,the family noticed him out front,so he just went for it,asked for her,said he was an old friend.They invited him in showed him her room,photographs ect.But no conclusion from this about her screwing around.The relationship got so bad it didn't matter.A player at 50 ft to me.But I had a REAL clever one who fooled me for months.Even fooled a very savy Colombiana friend of mine.I still didn't know what to believe,but again the relationship got so bad it didn't matter.

Pete

[Margareth Mayor]

... in response to If ANY doubt,check her out, posted by Pete E on Feb 6, 2005

I just remembered a terrible experience I had when I was at LE, one of the customers really liked a young beautiful lady (Marilyn Gomez Saavedra)and he was going out with her for over a week when he decided to meet her parents...
At the parents' house, the mother told him that if he didn't give the family US$1000 a month she wouldn't let him see her daughter.  They already had everything set up before, they even had an account number where he could deposit the money in the US and she could receive it here. This is really disappointing, all the agencies know this and she is in most of them, it's disappointing because the other agencies only want to sell her body and to make money without caring for the men's feelings.  In this world there's everything for everybody.  It is true she was at LE before, but as soon as we found out about the business family she had set up we took her off the site just like we have taken off the site some ladies that only want to do business instead of finding a husband.
I am just saying this because I feel like it's my duty to inform what goes on here in Cali,
Margareth

[OkieMan]

... in response to Terrible Experience at LE, posted by Margareth Mayor on Feb 8, 2005

Margareth,
If I understood what you said, the girl and her family were all in on the "scam" or deal or whatever. Basically, they were counting on the gringo being desperate enough to pay the money.  But, I am curious if the girl would have just stayed a short time with that man, and then left him; or would she maybe wanted to stay as long as he kept sending the money to her parents?  Either way, it's a form of blackmail or prostitution, right?  Thanks for the story.

                             OkieMan