Bored: Marriage agency culture.

[kented]

... in response to Bored: Marriage agency culture. , posted by Traveller on Jan 6, 2005

Certainly in any society where gringos and Latinas date (this applies to other cities in Colombia as well as Costa Rica and loads of other LA destinations), this is a risk.  My wife cannot fathom how much money I have (which isn't enough to brag about to gringos) since she has never had enough money to save and can't comprehend much about the value of money in the US.

Any Latina will live better with a gringo than with most Latinos and that is why we can attract young beautiful women to us.  The fact is that we offer Latinas a better life or they would rather have sex with a local deadbeat their own age and be one of his three girlfriends.  

The critical thing is to find a woman who wants a permanent relationship and the compromises it entails on her part. (Being a wife and not a party animal). When I lived in Costa Rica and earned $750 a month, I know some women dumped me because I was too poor for them.  That was part of my plan.  I had some choice babes decide not to continue dating me because I wasn't rich enough.  

My wife isn't perfect but she is honest and isn't with me for the money.  If you don't want a woman who cares only about your money, DON'T LET HER SQUANDER YOUR MONEY.  Don't show her pictures of your car, your home or your other toys.  (Pictures of your city are OK).  If you follow these simple rules, the women who care more about yopur money than you will weed themselves out.  

On my first trips to LA, I brough pictures of my house ¡Que estupido!  I should have brought picture of my dogs.

[Thunderstruck]

... in response to great post, posted by kented on Jan 6, 2005

You've given us the formula for competing with locals, but what about Euro-trash? They have such charm and cash, and they are 1 million times smarter than gringos. How can we compete against this?

[kented]

... in response to Local deadbeats, posted by Thunderstruck on Jan 7, 2005

Many Europeans in LA have loads of money.  Since many Europeans speak several languages WELL that is the only concern I would have.  Anyone who talks with his wallet (gringos or Europeans), is inviting a woman who is looking only for money.  

The advantage of Colombia is that lots of women are looking for a way out which is also it's biggest disadvantage.  I think any woman who's been involved in this process for a while has met her share of losers and seen more money spent on her in 24 hours than an average Colombian earns in a month.  This is incomprehensible to her.

The per capita monthly income in CR is $375 and Colombians come to CR illegally for its prosperity.  So it you spend $100 or a meal and $200 on clothes, this gets adicting.  This is the field we are playing on and need to understand as we look for the women of our dreams.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to great post, posted by kented on Jan 6, 2005

Que risa! Pictures of your dogs! My wife hates dogs - if I had showed her a picture of my dogs, that would have been it for me.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: great post, posted by utopiacowboy on Jan 6, 2005

I never met a Colombiana that didn't like dogs.I met lots that didn't like cats.
Not liking dogs would be a big compatability issue for me.
My ex loves dogs,has custody of the golden retriever we got together.He sleeps on the bed with her.She hates cats.
She wanted to be a veternarian.I said if you are a veternarian you have to treat cats.She says if somebody brings me a cat it dies.

Pete

[thunderbolt]

... in response to Re: great post, posted by utopiacowboy on Jan 6, 2005

Every person has his or her own tastes.  You have to take chances like that, because you can't say anything about yourself without finding someone who will not like it.

Besides, if you have a dog, and you marry a girl, and she hates dogs...  Well, you will have a problem.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: great post, posted by thunderbolt on Jan 6, 2005

I like animals as much as the next guy but given a choice between my hound and my Colombiana, she wins hands down. Even though she doesn't really like dogs, she tolerates my blue heeler.

[kented]

... in response to Re: Re: great post, posted by thunderbolt on Jan 6, 2005

That's why I should have brought pictures of my dog.  My ex-wife expected me to support her children and for my dogs to sleep outside.  If you have two dogs who are your children, that is a red flag.

[Red Clay]

... in response to Re: great post, posted by utopiacowboy on Jan 6, 2005

Pics of my dog and I together knocked 'em dead back in my emailing days. LOTS of positive comments from the chicas, including the one that I married.

[roadken]

... in response to Re: great post, posted by utopiacowboy on Jan 6, 2005

I showed my wife my cats.She loved them until she got here.Now,she hates them.Al they do is eat,sleep and poop.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Bored: Marriage agency culture. , posted by Traveller on Jan 6, 2005

Traveller,
 You have addressed a valid concern for every man here on this board, and the other guys who do not have a "support group" like this board.  I know that I have voiced similar concerns.  I think the only ones that don't feel this way are the guys that are simply trying to enjoy the "party crowd" and have no interest in a serious relationship.
At this point, I have not had the pleasure of having a serious relationship with a "good" latina yet; but I have met a few.  I still have a long way to go. My next stop will be in Medellin.  By the way, I don't know if it is simply the hype coming from the agencies or what; but what you said certainly dispels the crap about "traditional values" etc.  I know about your disclaimer, and we all know some guys who have gotten lucky and found "true love".  More power to them, because that is what I want to.  It's just that we all have to be on our toes, because there are so many "sharks" that only care about taking our money. The type of woman you described is watching and waiting for another sucker!  Let's face it; when these latinas see a lot of lonely, mostly middle-aged men (myself included) coming down to Colombia to "shop" for a wife, we make good targets.  We are vulnerable.  Yes, I know that technically the women are very vulnerable too.  But, right now, I am watching after "ole number 1".  Me!
So, even though we all believe that we can someday find "the woman of our dreams"; we also have to be very, very cautious!   Let's face it, those women are sitting on a gold mine, and everyone of us want to mine for that gold; one way or the other!

                         Peace,
                         OkieMan

[soltero]

... in response to Bored: Marriage agency culture. , posted by Traveller on Jan 6, 2005

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Traveller, get bored and rant whenever you want...Excellent post...

[valuedcustomer]

... in response to Bored: Marriage agency culture. , posted by Traveller on Jan 6, 2005

A realistic post. If a woman can manipulate a man with her beauty she has him by the... you know what.  I wonder how many of these guys seriously stop to think that this woman he is considering for his wife is someday going to be in his house alone while he is at work.  What kind of person do you let in your home?

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Bored: Marriage agency culture. , posted by Traveller on Jan 6, 2005

DUDEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

You have put into words what i have thoought for a long time and have tried to write on this board before, but no one seems to listen

My suggestion is for all you guys to keep going to Cali and thinking you  are "DIFFERENT" , and keep the rest of Colombia safe from your stupidity so the rest of us can meet the really good ones

Or if you just want sex, you are in the right city

Great post Traveller

KB

[Serenade]

... in response to Re: Bored: Marriage agency culture. , posted by Kiltboy1 on Jan 6, 2005

KB,
I'm with you, I have never been to Cali, but from what I read from previous posts and comments, I never plan on going. Maybe if I went and saw all the incredible women I would be glad I was there, but I doubt it. I was in BQ last September for a week (and I plan to go back in March to follow up with the woman I started something with) and I met many nice, beautiful women, most from an event the agency sponsored, but the one I finally ended up with was not in the agency (I Love Latins). It seemed that the women in BQ were not like the women that have been described on this board from Cali - I could be wrong, and I'm sure that there are manipulators in BQ as well, but for now I am staying with BQ.