... in response to PeteE, posted by JunFan on Dec 31, 2003Mike,
I'm glad I read your second post down below to discover your real opinion here.
Let me try to answer this post first,which has lots of reasonable questions.
No,I'm not homesick.I am having a fairly good time but I haven't done too much yet.I have been spending more time with gringos than chicas.Only one real date so far.I gave Margareth a list of about 10 girls I want to meet yesterday.Its the holidays so they are hard to round up right now.Should pick up alot in a few days.I also spent alot of time looking for apartments.I found one I like but everybody seems to be on vacation,won't return calls.By Monday we should be able to run them down.
Actually I like Colombian food alot better this time.I think some of my complaints last time were more motivated by boredom and food at my in laws house.I have had some excellent steaks,plus my favorite pollo curry at crepes and waffles.
I am speaking more spanish but need to really study it.Once I get settled I will hire a private tutor I know of.
Being in Real estate I understand the foreclosure process.I used to by forclosed properties.The first step is a Notice of default.It soundfs like they are giving me untill about 1/10 to respond to some options.I could bullsh!t them and buy some time but I will probably not respond and they will file the notice by the end of January.The first step in a 5 month minimum process to get the house back.She will probably get to live there untill somewhere between June and August.
Shut the utilities off?Where did you get that idea?I paid them through the time I left,so she won't even get a bill for a month or so.Then she needs to face reality.Free house but you have to pay power,water and phone,plus cable TV.Not so bad.No rent payment for now.She could rent the room that was my office for more than the utilities,so she could effectively be there for free.Plus I gave her a car and all the furniture.If she just wanted to bail for Colombia she couls sell that stuff and have some money.Not to mention the business I gave her family the money to start in Colombia.Not too bad for a girl that has been given everything to this point and who doesn't seem to even get it what she has been given.A little too good possibly.Certainly lots more than she deserves for her half hearted dishonest attempts to be a wife.
Trouble with the INS??? There is none.
Credit problems have no effect on your ability to enter the US,and if I get a little bit lucky I might even avoid them.
The affidavid of support.My understanding is the only way it can effect you is if she goes on some sort of public assistance you might have to pay them back.For all her mistreatment of me this is one proud lady.I don't think that will happen.And she can always go back to Colombia with the money from the car and furniture plus I will but her ticket.She got real interested awhile back who's name the Colombian business was in.I think she was thinking it could be hers.
I know you paid up big time for being married only a short time,and wonder why that was even neccesary but I presume it was out of concern for trouble she could cause you.I think you could have had a good chance to just go for an annulment or Divorce.Dallas Steve was mnarried alot longer than you and his wife got zip.But you made what you thought was the right decision.But believe me I have paid ALOT more than you did.
About your second post.It seems there is the nice guy Mike who seems reasonable and then this guy who comes off bitter,angry and negative.I honestly wonder what you might have ingested between the 2 very different posts.
I did what I thought was best for me.Our lifestyle had been a money burner anyway,then things got much worse and my income went to hell.I don't think she deserves what she has already gotten.Plus she might have gotten no more based on my income of the last year.But I didn't want to hang around and watch.It was awfull living together under our final circumstances.I would have had to go to Court just to get her out of MY house.
Plus I have this pension that I did put in 28 years to earn that I can live fine on in Latin America.It gives me some well deserved options.
Other people paying for her kids schooling?I spent many years with a way above average income paying more than my share.But they are better off in a way with me being gone because with their new low income they can get almost free insurance.Thats not an affidavid of support issue,just one of those social programs that rewards underachieving.
Call it running if you like.I was in a bad situsation I wanted out of and I have some unique options and I made my choice.I was far too generous and patient for way too long.
What she deserves is to be back in the Barrio where she was before I came along and I will pay her ticket there any time.
I can't remember if I answered all the negative jabs from your second post.I only have the first to refer to with this post.
I presume that all those great options with US chicas didn't pan out or you would not still be being so negative.
There is often more to a story than we know.I think everybody here knows my story a whole lot better than yours.I told the whole thing,including all the details and my feeings about it.There is nothing hiden.I think I'll skip another comment I was going to make and stop with that.
Pete
