What my wife doesn't like about me

[pablo]

... in response to Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like about ..., posted by mar33 on Dec 18, 2003

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[Red Clay]

... in response to Well said Mark...n/t, posted by pablo on Dec 18, 2003

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[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like about ..., posted by mar33 on Dec 18, 2003

Mark

All good points.  

I don't think she's been taking phone numbers from men lately, but still taking gifts could send the wrong message.  And I agree with you, I think she's doing it because she wants me to react with jealousy.  Another reason I haven't reacted with jealousy is that I think if I do it will just reinforce her behavior.

Most of the men don't speak Spanish and she doesn't speak English.  However, she's a friendly, happy person and she probably smiles at them while she's trying to tell them she doesn't understand or she's married.  Then again her English teacher asked her to leave me and she understood that.

What's unfair is she gets angry if I smile at another woman.  She says it's fair because she loves me and the other men "no llegan a mis tobillos".  I rejected a lunch date request last week from my contacts at the agency I work for because my contact is a cute young woman.  It was strictly business, but even so she doesn't want me to lunch with another woman.

I would like to know how much this happens to other men.  It's rare that she meets a man who doesn't try to hit on her.

Steve

[CaliAdvisor]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like ab..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 18, 2003

I think if your wife really gets hit on to the extent that you say, she must be sending out flirty vibes to these men.

[Fuzzyone]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like ab..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 18, 2003

There is the guy who needs the knuckle snadwhich... th english teacher,
besides who better to knock out ..... could not sand the english teacheer
in high school...... :-)

[pablo]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like ab..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 18, 2003


Steve,

I was unaware that your wife doesn't speak English.  Does she wear a wedding ring?  These would be suitors have no class and would be better defined as common dogs.  

I would not worry about reinforcing her jealous behavior by telling her that accepting gifts and/or telephone numbers from men won't be tolerated anymore.  That along with showing her that you do love her would I think, earn respect from her even though she is guilty of disrespecting you.  Not intended as a slam, but doesn't a Latina want a manly man who is also loving?

I would also find another English teacher and if this teacher is associated with a school of some sort, contact the person in charge and lodge a formal complaint for her giving advice of this nature and being unprofessional.

Regards,

Pablo

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like ab..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 18, 2003

Let me get this straight.HER ENGLISH TEACHER ASKED HER TO LEAVE YOU ?? MAN, WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON WITH PEOPLE THESE DAYS ?? SAD, SAD, SAD.

[thundernco]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like ab..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 18, 2003

Steve,

My wife is followed around by groups of teen boys, single men, and lesbians when we go out to the malls in the US.  She gets hit on all the time, but she has never to my knowledge accepted gifts, numbers or anything else from other men.  She's more jealous than I, but she doesn't torment my life with it.  She mentions that something made her feel jealous from time to time, but that's the extent about it.

Personally, I don't give a damn about how other men act or what they try to do.  What I do care about is what my wife does in relation to those actions.  I made a promise to my wife and she to me, her behavior as well as mine is the only thing that concerns me.  
Good luck and all the best -TNC

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: What my wife doesn't like about me, posted by Fuzzyone on Dec 18, 2003

FuzzyOne

Thanks for the support.  My arms would get pretty tired if I went around punching out everybody that hits on my wife.  Besides, eventually I'd either meet someone tougher or crazy enough to shoot me in the back.  

There's always somebody new chasing after her.  In my block of maybe 12 apartments there are at least 3 guys hitting on her.  The guy across the hall is trying to learn Spanish so he can talk to her.

I don't understand why guys want to hit on married women.  I was single for about 12 of my adult years and I never sent gifts to a married woman.  Never asked one to go out with me.  Never tried to put my hands on a married woman.

I'm no saint, but I just think it's a bad situation.  If her husband doesn't go crazy and kill me I still would never trust her.  A woman is scum if she will betray her husband so I wouldn't want her.

Steve

[CaliAdvisor]

... in response to Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like about ..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 18, 2003

In my experience, in general men hit on married women if they think the husband is soft and not attending to his responsabilities as a husband. Then they think there is an open door. I would worry a little more about YOUR behavior towards your wife and a little less about the other guys.

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like ab..., posted by CaliAdvisor on Dec 20, 2003

Weak analysis, and it sounds like some self-justification.  If you're hitting on married women you should be ashamed.

Steve

[HeyNow]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: What my wife doesn't lik..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 20, 2003

How would you know?  Unless she tells you or she is wearing a ring.

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What my wife doesn't..., posted by HeyNow on Dec 20, 2003

Uh, let me think.  You could ask.  True, she could lie, but at least you're trying.

A better solution is you spend time in her home.  I did that.  The ex-boyfriend of my wife claimed she was his wife.  Well I spent about 20 hours in her house over about 5 or 10 different days with her and never saw a trace of a man.  And she was going out with me almost every day and she spent several nights with me.  That would tend to upset her husband, if she had one.

Steve

[HeyNow]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What my wife doe..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 20, 2003

When the giftgivers asked.  What did she say?

[Locii]

... in response to Re: Re: What my wife doesn't like about ..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 18, 2003

Steve,

This thread is utterly surreal to me (the gift getting stuff)...clearly with this level of response its surreal to others besides me too.

For a 37yo bachelor who who lives on a tropical island I am amazed at how old-fashioned I must be, but you floor me when you put this:

...I'm no saint, but I just think it's a bad situation. If her husband doesn't go crazy and kill me I still would never trust her. A woman is scum if she will betray her husband so I wouldn't want her...

Again, not really trying to start trouble...but IMHO you already have betrayal on your hands.  How in the heck does a guy get panties delivered to your wife otherwise?  Maybe I should ask your wife for your address also, so I no where to send the friging smelling salts???!!!

The amazing thing is everytime this thread expands a bit, you add something more...now the english teacher is trying to teach her something besides english...what gives?

Believe it or not, like the other posters, I write this with good intentions, but you are giving me the impression there is something amiss with your responses to all this stuff so far.

I am stuck with which question to ask first...which is worse, that guys are bringing panties to your door in person or that she is giving out your address and somewhere along the lines they are getting the impression that sending panties and perfume are ok?

I had better stop...

Ciao