Crazy jealous Latina wife stories

[DallasSteve2]

To the list:

My wife is very jealous, and she's very hypocritical about it.  The rules she wants me to adhere to are so strict you will probably laugh.  But she doesn't attempt to behave that way herself.

My wife does not want me to look at other women.  It is true is that when we go out I often look at other women.  I don't stare, I don't flirt, I don't talk, I just look.  If that's wrong, get used to it.  It's never going to change.  I like to look at other women.  She probably looks at other men, too, though she denies it.

My wife is so jealous that she doesn't even want me to look at other women on TV.  If a Spanish talk show has a cute woman in a sexy dress and I stop to look at her she will change the channel.  

An extension of that rule is that she doesn't want me to smile or talk to other women.  But she regularly smiles and talks to the men who are flirting with her.

She would be furious if I talked to my ex-wife on the phone.  But she regularly talks to the father of her children who mainly calls just to beg her to come back.  He spends more time talking to her on the phone than to his children.  

My ex-wife used to call me occasionally at work and my wife made me promise that I would hang up and not talk to her.  But when her other ex-boyfriend calls her to beg her to come back to Cali she talks to him for a half hour.

A girlfriend of hers came over one night and extended her hand to me.  I shook her hand.  Later my wife told me she wants me to never shake a woman's hand again.

She erased all photos of my ex from the computer.  She destroyed all wedding pictures in my family album.  But she was keeping a photo of the father of her children in her wallet and she was hiding fotos of her other ex-boyfriend in her email account.

I can probably come up with a dozen more examples of her crazy jealous behavior, but I'll pause and see if anyone is listening.

Steve

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[A1A]

... in response to Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

Wow!  My question is, was this jealosy the same in Colombia,
or did it develope on her arrival in here the US?  I don't think I could handle this type of situation.
A1A

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by A1A on Dec 10, 2003

A1A

She exhibited jealous behavior in Colombia, but it was to a lesser degree.  She's gotten more possessive and more insecure since she arrived.

Steve

[mar33]

... in response to Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

Steve,
       You are a nice guy. Perhaps too nice. My question with your wife is how men are allowed to give her phone #'s?.(ex: the truck driver who wrote his phone # on his wife's mail)
    I had an ex who was a coctail waitress,and though I did not like it, she accepted phone #'s from men at work because a huge part of her tips were made by flirting with the men. But I never liked it,and since I was not paying her bills I really had nothing to say.
    But in the real world, every guy understand when he approaches a hot woman chances are she will tell him she is married or has a boyfriend(whether it is true or not, it seems to be the #1 reason women use to politely say no.)
   No man runs out after a woman with a phone #,forces it in her hand ,makes her put it in her purse and runs off. There has to be some sort of interaction and it takes time to find a pen and paper and write it down. A woman should never take the card or phone #, unless it has to do with business. Otherwise why is she being so nice? She knows what these guys are after. She really has to understand how to be honest and walk away. How would she like it if the situation was reversed?
     
    Mark
   

[QuitoMan]

... in response to Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

I must be lucky. Alejandra gets a little jealous from time to time but not overly so. We have lived in Europe and LA - no difference in her behaviour. My ex-wife was simarlar.    

 I'm really into easy going relationships. Hate arguments - love understanding and tranquility in a relationship. Considering that every week I'm out meeting and taking photos of different women seems Alejandra is very tolerant compared to some of your partners. Even though we have a son and that is a VERY strong anchor point, I still couldn't put up with crap.
   But this jealousy is the negative side of passion. It also shows an in-balance in the relationship - jealousy is a form of fear - fear of loss of possession. Take away the root cause of fear and the jealousy should go to. In other words balance up the relationship if possible.
  If you represent the 'jackpot won' to your woman then this may be difficult. She will see you as irreplaceable. Maybe her self-esteem needs to be higher. Alejandra for example was an aupair in Germany and had several German boyfriends before we met. She knows that I am not irreplaceable in the event we split up.

[chizz]

... in response to Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

I read your story and had to respond. Is there a rule that if you meet a jealous latina, you have to give up your manhood. No woman should be telling any man what he can't and cannot do. What is really troubling is that you allow her to dictate what you can and cannot do, and she is doing exactly what she doesn't want you to do. Everything with her ex, that you allow her to get away with is ridiculous, especially since she destroyed any memories you've had of past relationships. Time to get a backbone and put a stop to this nonsense, immediatly. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but what's going on in your house is a disgrace, and must be stopped.
Bryan

[JSlo]

... in response to Re: Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by chizz on Dec 10, 2003

I have to 2nd that motion. There is a two way street that exists in all relationships. If one insists on 'my way or the hiway', there is real trouble brewing. I don't believe respect is a word that can be used freely in this situation.
Or to short and sweet it, take your cojones back.
JS

[zack]

... in response to Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

What is it with these Latinas and their jealous behavior? I know a gringo who may get divorced because of the same problem. I know these are extreme cases, but what made Latinas in general so crazy about jealousy?

Zack

[denvermike]

... in response to Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

This behavior is only somewhat crazy.  I am not married to a latina but I have experienced a lot of what I considered extremely jealous behavior.

One example of extreme jealousy was witn an ex-palola and my cell phone. One night this woman took my cell phone, locked herself in the bathroom, and called every female name on my directory demanding to know who they were and how they knew me and the like.  She called my Citibank representative, my son´s Spanish teacher and the like.  After I found out what happened I had to do some damage control about this late night calling spree. Since that valuable lesson, I have code words for everyone in my phone directory, I don´t use their real names anymore.

I have had some women pick up and answer my phone in my apartment, and if it is a female voice, I am in trouble.

Almost all of them are jealous of my maid!!

I have also noticed that latinas rarely introduce me to their good looking friends, sisters, or any other woman who could be competition for them. There maybe a good reason for that one. The other night, the woman I am dating now brought her male cousin over and his girlfriend to meet me. The other woman secretly gave me her phone number when the others weren´t looking. This is not the first time this has happened to me.  

Believe me I am just an average looking guy but I do live a nice liftstyle by local standards.  So, female competition is a blood sport in LA in my experience.

Since I am not married I use their jealous feelings to keep them in line.  If they become difficult over an issue, I make sure to stare at a good looking woman if we are out. The other women almost always look back giving a dirty look to the woman that I am with.  They can get a little upset, but then I usually laugh it off with a joke or two. Believe me she is not laughing. It does put in their mind how easily replaced they are.  It just keeps in line. However, this MCP behavior may not work in the USA.

One thought to you gringos bringing a young cutie back to the States, she may do exactly to you what I do to them here. The balance of relationship power has shifted when she is in the USA. This is just something to keep in mind.

Oce in awhile a lady tries to pull the jealous string on me, if they do, I dump them instantly on the spot.

[greg]

... in response to Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

Kinda like an AW. Ummmm remind me of my AW Pinay's behavior toward me. She was knock out Gorgeous, just like your attractive wife..She flirted, talked, smiled at Guys. After two years of he nonsense, Enough was Enough

[CaliAdvisor]

... in response to Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

Sounds like you need to lay down the law and who her who is wearing the pants in this relationship. Her behavior is unexcusable and I would be worried if I where you. Isnt this how Pete got into so much trouble - letting his wife push him around and being way to lenient with her?

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by CaliAdvisor on Dec 9, 2003

In Pete's case there was also a lack of affection.  That's not happening here.  She dragged out the lingerie and high heels last night about 8:30.  Pretty soon I wasn't wearing the pants anymore.  I did lay down something, but it wasn't the law.  (He he he)

But seriously, we are going to have another talk.  I think she's gone around the bend and needs to tone it down.  

When I got home last night I thought something was wrong.  I asked her and she said she was watching out the window for me to arrive.  She saw another car that looked like mine (it was dark out).  A woman got into the car and started talking to the man.  She raced downstairs, but then realized it wasn't me.  She said she doesn't know what she would've done if it was me.

Steve

[CaliAdvisor]

... in response to Reply and another story, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 9, 2003

It could be just simple lack of a "life" that has your wife acting this way. How does she keep busy. Lack of activity could be turning itself into jealous obsession because she has nothing else to concentrate on. Just a thought.

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Reply and another story, posted by CaliAdvisor on Dec 9, 2003

Now that's a real possibility.  We're trying to solve that problem, but the government moves like molasses.

Steve

[greg]

... in response to Re: Crazy jealous Latina wife stories, posted by CaliAdvisor on Dec 9, 2003

sorry if I Blew your cover. :O)