trip to colombia

[chevy]

Now that I finally made the commitment to go to colombia I am getting all sorts of heat from the family and friends. Maybe I should have kept quiet. If I strike out I am sure the heat will increase.

[QuitoMan]

... in response to trip to colombia, posted by chevy on Dec 6, 2003

check your email - a confidence booster awaits you

[DaveyRich1]

... in response to trip to colombia, posted by chevy on Dec 6, 2003

Chevy
I can relate to your problem.I traveled to Cali 5 times over a 2 year span and took abuse the whole time.Hang in their. I have now been happily married for 2 1/2 years and no one says anything
                              Good Luck
                                     Davey

[zack]

... in response to trip to colombia, posted by chevy on Dec 6, 2003

Chevy,

I know how you feel. Some of my family and friends give me heat, some are supportive. What I often say is "If you can name a place here in the USA where a man can find a beautiful yet humble, sweet, sincere, home-loving woman to marry, I am there. Until then, I'm off to Colombia." That usually shuts them up. Sometimes I go further and say "let me give you the phone number of a guy who has been happily married to a wonderful Colombian lady for years. Why don't you tell HIM how stupid he was to go to Colombia to find a wife." Few things frustrate me more than people who think they know what they're talking about but don't.

Regarding your fear of striking out. I don't see how any man can strike out who diligently searches for a SA wife and never gives up. Possible of course, but very unlikely. If I strike out in this endeavor, I will still have absolutely no regrets trying. So far there have been some bumps in the road, but overall my Colombian experience has been a great time and I don't regret it for a minute.

Just go! Follow your heart. Don't let people tell you how to live your life.

Zack

[pablo]

... in response to Re: trip to colombia, posted by zack on Dec 7, 2003


Hey Chevy,

I want to echo Zack's and NWJim's comments.  You are going to do yourself a huge favor by going to SA.  If you are like most of the 99.9% of the guys that go South you will be glad you went.  Keep us posted and don't let the naysayers get ya down.

Pablo

[NW Jim]

... in response to trip to colombia, posted by chevy on Dec 6, 2003

Go. I follow the Irish superstition of not discussing things before they happen as that can jinx the plan.

The risk you face now, is that you will try to force "success" so that you can "show them." Just frame it as a vacation to an exotic location and take your time declaring success.  

As Ted/Bueller said one time, the operational word down there should be "proxima", ie, if the interest is not there on her part, if she lies, etc, then on to the next one. Your time is valuable and the learning curve is steep.

Don't force success-- especially in your first trip-- there's always the next vacation. The costs of forcing success are summed up:Marry in haste, repent at leisure.

Let us know how it turns out.