You have to have respect

[Pete E]

... in response to Pete, have you had any counseling?, posted by Freddie on Nov 18, 2003

Nope.
I have done that before.It was slow expensive conversation and the changes needed to be made by me anyway,not by someone else.I wish I could have my money back.Also,along the line of respect,paying somebody a huge amount of money per hour to talk to you is a emotional downer,a downside of the process.It reinforces there is somethig wrong with me.Its been called a $50,000 excuse for being the way you are,but that was before inflation.For me it just kept me more stuck instead of taking charge and doing what I needed to do.I'm not saying it doesn't have any value in some cases.But there is a negative as well as a plus to it.But been there,done that.No mas.
And I just think out loud here sometimes.It just hit me about respect.It seemed important to me.Its just a way to express and it might even have some value to someone else.
Rehashing my mistakes?I'm not beating myself up about it.Just the opposite I am laughing at my stupidity.It comes with the ah ha.

Pete

[lswote]

... in response to Pete, have you had any counseling?, posted by Freddie on Nov 18, 2003

I don't think Pete is rehashing his mistakes.  Rather, Pete is a friendly, talkative guy who just talks about whatever is at hand.  I am sure when he finally is able to make his move he will be talking about something new, but right now he is in a bit of a holding pattern, so this topic is currently what he talks about.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Pete, have you had any counseling?, posted by lswote on Nov 18, 2003

Thanks Bruce.You understand exactly.

Pete

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Pete, have you had any counselin..., posted by Pete E on Nov 18, 2003

It will be good to move on to talking about other things.Like the chica situation in Cali.

Pete

[gkdrummer]

... in response to And - - , posted by Pete E on Nov 18, 2003

Honestly Pete, I have to give you props for being able to keep your chin up in your current situation.  Mine has been hard enough, but I couldn't even imagine how I could function if I had to still live with her every day.  You're gonna be fine man, just hang in there and we will all be eagerly waiting to hear of your new stories from Cali soon!

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: And - - , posted by gkdrummer on Nov 18, 2003

Thanks,
I'm feeling pretty good but it is strange still seeing her all the time.
I guess one of the reasons I wanted to tell the story is because I intend to be around here for years so I had to finish that one before I can go on to the next one.
And like Bruce says,I do like to talk.This board fills a need for expression that I guess is important to me.
Maybe I will change my handle to Cali Pete? No,sounds a little hokey.

Pete

[Fuzzyone]

... in response to Re: Re: And - - , posted by Pete E on Nov 18, 2003

Pete keep writing I enjoy reading your post very much since I am in the
same postion you are in. I don't know about anyone else but if it stops
one guy from making the same mistake then keep going!!

[zack]

... in response to You have to have respect, posted by Pete E on Nov 17, 2003

A deep and sincere respect for yourself is most important. If you don't have self-respect, she will sense it and the word "doormatt" becomes more obvious.

Zack