Letter writing pitfalls

[JSlo]

A couple of points to keep in mind when writing mujeres. I know of a letter writing 'business' operating out of Cartagena with as many as 5 girls involved. I'm sure there are more. The brainchild of this venture is taking in sufficient funds each month to pay the girls and pocket a handsome profit.
I was almost entangled, but I used one of my other email addresses to contact the same girl and she responded with the same story. They had the 'I'll be happy to receive you in Cartagena' and I won't accept money parts down pat. I say they because it was apparent that a different girl wrote me the second time. Be careful when corresponding by email and for goodness sake, NEVER SEND MONEY!!!

Maybe Caligringo should have a scam section also.

If you are corresponding with a woman, send her an email from another address. Use IM from MSN or similar services, a few times when I'Ming the woman I was writing, it was evident that she was occupied with someone else at the same time. I type 40 wpm so she couldn't keep up with both of us. Could've been more.
Also, if a woman is sincere I believe it will be clear after a few emails. However, if she says she loves you or are telling you how much she misses you after the first or second contact, be wary and have to cojones to break off all contact. I have seen so many guys starved for attention, that the woman can say "I'm ripping you off but I love you," and the poor slob will still go along with the scam. "I love you too baby, this is only money," is his reply. I copied a form letter they use and will be happy to share it privately with any regular listers. It is well thought out, concise with complete instructions on separating you from your money. I've had some of the best times in my life in LA & DR (Ralph), but you have to be careful not to become someone's mealticket at the expense of your emotions.
Looking forward to your responses.
JSlo

[Hiker]

... in response to Letter writing pitfalls, posted by JSlo on Oct 31, 2003

JSlo, Man I agree with the money thing.  NEVER send money until the relationship is established.  I remember "helping" a beautiful girl in Cali.  Her grandmother was dying and it was taking 300 a month to keep her in the hospital.  Later I learned that her grandmother had been dead for years.

Another scam is "English Lessons".  A girl can get several guys payinbg for her so called lessons and make a good living.

My birthday was in September, and my wife threw a little birthday party for me.  The party ended up being three other Cali girls who are married to Americans.  The stories they told were amazing.  I lauged till my face hurt at some of the stories, and others made me mad enough to fight.  There are girls there who want to separate you from your money.  There are guys who go down to only separate the girl from her panties.  Sometimes a girl is just a con artist.  SOmetimes the girl feels like it is revenge for all the gringos who have played the game.  But all in all, I changed my mind about the ratio of player to serious girl at the agency.  I believe most of the girls at the agencies are very serious about finding someone.  The few bad ones are the ones we hear the most about.

It is very funny to listen to some of the stories of gringos at the agencies. According to the girls this is not the majority, but there are some real winners.

[chevy]

... in response to Letter writing pitfalls, posted by JSlo on Oct 31, 2003

What do you think about women who write and in the second letter start addressing you as "corazon".They also end the letter sending kisses and hugs. Are they being to sentimental too soon?

[JSlo]

... in response to Re: Letter writing pitfalls, posted by chevy on Oct 31, 2003

With the richness of the spanish language I wouldn't place too much emphasis on those terms. It is when the woman is professing love for you or missing you as if you are a long lost friend when only knowing you for a few days, that lights up the red alarm. 'Te mando un beso, abrazo, o corazon' are fairly innocuous terms and used quite often.
I'd like to hear opinions from others.
JSlo

[Calipro]

... in response to Re: Re: Letter writing pitfalls, posted by JSlo on Oct 31, 2003

Ending a letter with "besos" is especialy innocuous. They do it all the time. I know a guy that got an e-mail signed with "besos" and he thought the girl was really in love with him. It's a cultural thing that you just have to get used to.

[surfscum]

... in response to Re: Re: Letter writing pitfalls, posted by JSlo on Oct 31, 2003

I encountered the same thing from women I hadn't even met, but did eventually meet them. I'd have to say that it's just that wonderful Latin warmth coming out, so don't worry about a Besos or abrazos at the end of a letter.