Letter writing

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: Letter writing + ONE GIRL  != LO..., posted by elcolombiano on Nov 2, 2003

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El C

That's my point.  These guys think they have found love.  Where did the love go when he saw that she was huge?  A man is setting himself and/or herself up for possible heartbreak if they start building up such unreasonable expectations. If he really cares about the woman he would be more careful and proceed more slowly.  

My wife met a Dallas Transit policeman who did the same irresponsible thing.  He started playing electronic Post Office with a woman in Cali.  He defrauded the INS for a K1 visa when he had never even met her.  Then when he went to Cali to meet her in person she wasn't the hot babe he thought she was.  So he quickly dumped her and returned to the US alone breaking her heart in the process.  What a jerk!

Steve

[Onephd]

... in response to Re: Re: Letter writing - ONE GIRL = LOVE, posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Nov 2, 2003

Hey, Go for it!!!  It could work out. I did it recently and the girl was more wonderful in person than on the telephone and in the letters.  Sometimes it works like that.  As for a back up plan, I would have the address and telephone number of an agency in the area.  Thats good enough at a minimum.  

In my case, I had made several trips to Colombia and I had memberships to several agencies so going to see one girl was not a big issue.  I knew if things didn't go well, I would just go and visit the agency.  Luckily for me, I didn't need to do that nor do I think I ever will again.  

So go on ahead, visit the girl , put your best foot forward and enjoy the moment for what its worth.  If you don't like her when you get there or vice versa, then and only then go visit an agency.  Only you know for sure now, if you are living in reality and have the proper expecatations. You are the only one that has talked to this girl and you know you better than we know you.  Be sensible, logical, and most of all, follow your heart.  

one.

[Bueller]

... in response to Re: Re: Letter writing - ONE GIRL = LOVE, posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Nov 2, 2003

Jimmy, I sincerely hope this works out for you, but as someone who's been down this road I'd suggest you ratchet down your expectations a few notches and let yourself be pleasantly surprised if it DOES pan out. Just do us a favor and tell us all about it whichever way it breaks for you, OK?

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Re: Letter writing - ONE GIRL = LOVE, posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Nov 2, 2003

There are plenty of us who are happily married and only visited one girl in our travels. Not that it's the best approach for everyone, but as another poster said, if what you're after is to find sincerity and loyalty, there's nothing like demonstrating it. Besides, as you said, what's the downside? You have a nice vacation and have to start over looking for another potential mate. This isn't a contest to see who can get married using the least anount of time and money, it's about finding a soul mate you can spend the rest of your life loving. If a guy can only afford one trip, he probably shouldn't be looking for a wife overseas anyway.

- Jeff

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Letter writing - ONE GIRL = LOVE, posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Nov 2, 2003

Jimmy,
Good luck,I hope it works out for you just as you are hoping.

Pete

[HeyNow]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Letter writing - ONE GIRL = ..., posted by Pete E on Nov 2, 2003

Jimmy,
 I would say, "Go for it."  I met a guy that wrote an agency gal for three months.  He arrived in Colombia and everything worked out.  They are now married.  As a precaution I would suggest you must be completely convinced with her looks.  Make sure you are looking at a photo of her with snug jeans (or something like that).  If the photo is only of her face or she is wearing black clothing then this is not a good sign.