A Good Thing

[Hiker]

I have not posted on here in several months.  My wife arrived from Cali about six months ago.  Just thought I would say howdy.  I have to say this is the best six months of my life.  She continues to amaze me.  I know it has only been six months, but I can't find one negative thing to say about her.  She is a hard worker.  She is amazing managing money, maybe a little too tight, but I have more money with her than I ever had while single. It is obivious to see her enjoyment in making me happy.  Everyday I come home from work she is dressed up to meet me at the door, with a great meal waiting for me.

She is maybe a little too jealous, but she does not over react.  It is hard to get comfortable with all the affection she gives me in public, but I am learning.

I have no doubt that I am a lucky man.  

If you are new to this board and considering making the trip south, I suggest taking your time, staying focused, keeping it real, don't buy into all the marketing hype.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to A Good Thing, posted by Hiker on Oct 30, 2003

Man

Congrats. !

You are vey fortunate. DOES SHE HAVE A SISTER ??

Kilt

[Batman]

... in response to A Good Thing, posted by Hiker on Oct 30, 2003

Congratulations. Enjoy one of the best things that we have as men in this world - latin women! You can now easily see why latin women rank among the top for just about everything - even at night

Good Luck!

[chizz]

... in response to A Good Thing, posted by Hiker on Oct 30, 2003

Congrats! I myself like to hear stories like yours, i hope it works out for you. I have a question if you don't mind. How long did you two correspond before you married her, and what agency did you meet her with? just curious.
Bryan

[Hiker]

... in response to Re: A Good Thing, posted by chizz on Oct 30, 2003

I saw her at a bank.  I felt a kind of chemistry with her.  We both smiled but I did not make a move.  The next day I went to Latin Best and saw her photo.  An hour after we met at Latin Best I felt something special.  I cancelled all other appointments and spent the rest of the week with her.  At the end of the week we agreed to move at a cautious pace.  We emailed.  We talked on the phone.  Six months later I went back with a ring in my pocket.  She said yes, and we set the date of the wedding another six months later.  

A lot of so called "Red Flags" are nothing to be concerned with.  There are things to look for, but basically common sense will work.  The first week I met my wife, she would give me a short kiss on the cheek at the end of the night.  At the airport as I was leaving I got a kiss on the lips.  She didn't email me everyday.  Often when she got off work she only wanted to go home.  I decided she was a little cold and not much passion.  Was I WRONG!  Sometimes I think I need a vacation from her "love" just to rest and recover.  :-)

[pablo]

... in response to A Good Thing, posted by Hiker on Oct 30, 2003


Congrats Hiker on finding that gem and thanks for sharing your story. Another testimony and encouragement for men to go south or continue on in the search. Please continue posting in the future as an after marriage perspective would be appreciated and useful.

Proverbs 31

[zack]

... in response to A Good Thing, posted by Hiker on Oct 30, 2003

Wow. Most stories I hear from foreign bride newly-weds are less encouraging: "I braught her here and she went home  three weeks later, permantly" or "She was excited about coming to America to be with me but when she finally arrived, she soon became lonely for her family, had trouble making friends because of the language barrier, and dealt with stupid mindsets of some people who looked at her as "green card lady". She didn't last long after that.

"I have no doubt that I'm a lucky man" I have little doubts either. But you are not out of the woods yet because my X girlfriend was, during the first six months of the relationship, wonderful, the catch of a lifetime until her true colors started to show. In the end, the word "Narcicist" flashed off and on repeatedly on her forehead.

I'm not saying that this will happen to you, and I pray it won't. For now, I will give you a sincere congratulations
ans say that you are a lucky man. Good luck with her and I hope she remains the woman of your dreams.

Zack

[Hiker]

... in response to Re: A Good Thing, posted by zack on Oct 30, 2003

Zack,
You are right.  While I agree that only time allows a person to really know another person, I feel very confident about this.  There are several little things that help.

After she had been here about a month, I took her home to meet my family.  My mother held a reception for her and invited all my friends from back home.  When it was over and we were alone, my wife asked me if I knew in my heart that I would never leave her.  I said yes.  She then took out of her purse two bundles of money.  She said it was her life savings and the money from selling her car in Colombia.  She said the man of the house should have the ultimate say in the finances of the home.  The amount was almost four thousand dollars.  When we start to go out she will take three or four outfits and ask me to choose one.  She then asks how I want her hair.  It is a very bad thing if I saw, "It does not matter, just wear anything".  She is a very beautiful woman.  If a man tells her how beautiful she is, she always replies, "Thank you, I try very hard to look beautiful for my husband".  I am not allowed to iron my clothes anymore.  I can't do dishes.  

I am 46 and she is 35, so I am old enough to know that my world can change from "the garden of eden" to "hell" in one day.  But still knowing that the possibility exits, I know the probability does not.  

[Z]

... in response to Re: Re: A Good Thing, posted by Hiker on Nov 1, 2003

Sounds like you have a gem of a lady. My guess is that you two will make it always if it's that good now and if you continue to treat each other with that kind of respect. Congratulations!

[DaveyRich1]

... in response to Re: Re: A Good Thing, posted by Hiker on Nov 1, 2003

Hiker
Great Post! It is good to see good news on the board. I have been married to my wife who also is from Cali for 26 months. A lot of the things you posted look familar. I try to tell friends and associates but the fear of going to Cali keeps them home. I am 41 my wife is 28. Where do you live? I am from Memphis,Tn but we live in Las Vegas now. Just wanted to say congratulations. Their are Good and Bad situations in this type of relationship.
                      TAKE CARE
                             DAVEY

[Hiker]

... in response to Congratulations, posted by DaveyRich1 on Nov 1, 2003

I live in Dallas but like you, I am also from Tennessee.  Actually over 11 hours away from Memphis but still Tennessee.

Yeah, I know what you mean.  I have suggested to several guys to make the trip south.  The difference is amazing.