OK Pete-What would you do differently?

[Zorrowins]

Hi Pete,
Most of us on the board have loved and lost. And of course in hind sight we all made big mistakes. So my questions are (1) what would you do differently? I know you mentioned some things-like wait before you proposed. I also suspect you would have been intimate before any marriage proposal.and(2)don't you think she probably has the same attitude towards all men or just you?
Thanks!

[Red Clay]

... in response to OK Pete-What would you do differently?, posted by Zorrowins on Oct 19, 2003

I also was wondering about her interest in other gringos. Pete seems to think she will soon be dating other gringos, but what would be her point? Her chances of finding another one who will put up with her are slim, past maybe a couple of dates. She probably will NEVER find another that would marry her with that attitude of indifference, especially since she is probably still has a few "immigrant" needs at times. I'm betting even the affair, or phone fantasy or whatever it is she is having doesn't fly very far. Not to mention she currently lives in one of the most expensive places on earth to live and try to maintain a comfortable lifestyle. Likely will be some wake-up calls ahead for her unlike any thusfar.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: OK Pete-What would you do differentl..., posted by Red Clay on Oct 20, 2003

I think she has the ability to date other gringos if she wants.Guys are hitting on her all the time.
And if she found someone she could care about all the issues we had,or most of them could be gone.I
I think she could have been a great wife for me if she only loved me.Thats the whole issue I think.
But I don't want to be around to watch.

Pete

[Red Clay]

... in response to Re: Re: OK Pete-What would you do differ..., posted by Pete E on Oct 20, 2003

Understood, but I guess I'm wondering how she expects to find someone as kind and patient as you. Im sure she can attract some men, but finding and keeping a good one, I don't know.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: OK Pete-What would you do di..., posted by Red Clay on Oct 20, 2003

If all is right with them he won't need much patience.Patience was really my downfall.It can help with alot of things but if there is no love it just postpones the inevitable.

Pete

[HeyNow]

... in response to Re: OK Pete-What would you do differentl..., posted by Red Clay on Oct 20, 2003

I think she already has the "wake up call".  Otherwise she would have agreed to leaving instead of staying in the house.

[Pete E]

... in response to OK Pete-What would you do differently?, posted by Zorrowins on Oct 19, 2003

Good questions,most on my list already to cover,and we are headed towards our expereience in counsoling where some of what you mention comes up.When I'm done I will answer any question I didn't already cover.
I got tired of it myself today,the story is so long,so I'll take a break and hit it tommorow.

Pete

[Bueller]

... in response to OK Pete-What would you do differently?, posted by Zorrowins on Oct 19, 2003

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[JimmySTLOUIS]

... in response to OK Pete-What would you do differently?, posted by Zorrowins on Oct 19, 2003

Thanks for all of your story Pete.

Good question by Zorrowois though .......what do you think?

jim