Looks like its working again.I lost a long post when I tried to post anf got some message.It didn't work fo4 sewveral hours.
I will have to rewrite that post.
Ok.I have been around the block and realise the importance of the woman being sexually satisfied.When you have this you have relationship thats on a whole different level.I saw a standup routine by Eddie Murphy one time.It was funny but it also contained a truism I think.He said once you really satisfy a woman,really ring her chimes,you can tell her anything and she will believe you.Maybe that goes a little too far,but I have experienced the kind of commitment you have with a satisfied woman.She is yours.Not interested in anybody else.And if you don't have it you have a problem.She will not enjoy sex,not want to do it.I considered myself a pretty creative guy in this area.But with a woman who is so conservative she will not allow anything but just the very basics,you got a problem.All us guys know at least one sure fire way to get her there,right?Well it took me months to get her to even allow it and it didn't work either.What am I supposed to do here?
One thing I notice is when we are in Colombia she always treats me better.Its like I get more respect from her because I get respect from her family.I'm sort of the main attraction,even with her friends that come over.When we went back the first christmas we had the problem not being able to get Sebastian out,basically because Riocio had not told the father the truth and he decided to cause us some problems.It took 11 extra day and greasing the wheels with lots of Pesos to get him out.I even said that if need be I would adopt him to avoid the problem in the future.I'm sure glad I didn't do that.But
Rocio was very warm to me after that.She would just crawl in to my arms every night like I always wanted her to do.This lasted about 2 months.It was probably the best time in our relationship.But then it gets bad again,we go see the counsoller,it gets better for awhile and right back to bad again.
We go to Colombia the second time for christmas.Again she is very good to me.I'm thinking maybe there is some hope here.But back to San Jose back to the same old.I even said,look,if it will make our marriage work I weill move to Colombia.She would have gone for that in the first yesr,but now she wants a job.Two big things happened in 2002.She got a job.And she got her permanent residency card.Both made her feel alot more independent.Our relationship just got worse and worse.Finally in February 2003 we go back to the counsoler.After about one session it just hits me.I tell her look,I don't need to pay you $90 an hour to knowmyb wife doesn't love me if she will not even givre me a kiss or a hug.It got so bad she didn't want to kiss me,even if she would agree sex.I said she just doesn't have ANY romantic feelings for me,and thats not likely to change I don't think.She talks to Rocio in Spannish and Rocio agrees.Its good to fimnallt get the tuth to come out after all he BS denial.This whole thing about sex we were taling about,if you have no basic caring or affection for the other person sex will not be good.
I knew it all along,but everybody,including the counsoler tried to talk me out of it.too basd this didn't come out a couple years before.And of course there was a reason,Rocio was not willing to admit it for fear of reprocusions.I told the counsoler I thought she did a pretty poor job taking so long for us to get at the truth.She had some BS excuse.I guess theres not much to talk about.We just leave,but still Rocio wants to pretend it didn't happen.I was up to my a-s in alligators at the time,financially.I didn't want to tackle it in the middle of that.I had talked to some aorneys and it looked like it would be a big hassle,just getting her out of the house.Then I would wind up paying for 2 houses.I finally get the house refied again,giving me some breathing room.I talk to her about ibeen 3 months since the last session with thelady.We have just sort of avoided the issue and each other.No affection,sex ,no nothing.I said OK we need to face this,you don't have any feelings for me and we need to get a divorce.
She says Maybe I change my mind.She tries to patch it up again but a weak short effort.
Going to post 7 here I saved from before.
Pete
