For Pete's Sake!!

[JunFan]

Am I the only one here who is questioning this....??

I can't believe that you are actually gonna move to Colombia in response to all of this.  Colombia of all places!  Pete, I remember one time that you went to Cali for a month, and you barely left your in-laws house!  Remember?  You stayed on the porch and watched the world go by...You hated the food...hated it!, and you couldn't wait to get home.  You were completely miserable.

And on top of that, you are pissing in your own bed here in the United States...You will come back one day, and you will pay the fiddler.  You can either pay now, or pay later....but the fiddler will get paid my friend.

You don't speak any Spanish for crying out loud!!

I'm not trying to belittle you, but I think you need to be honest about why you would basically leave your home country, ruin your credit, and run to the very place where your problems started.

Be a man about it...take a look in the mirror & address your own issues first, before you run away and hide from them.

And another thing...Does anyone notice there was a complete lack of any spiritual (ie Christian) commonality between these two?

Sorry Pete...

just my .02

JunFan out.

[Nico]

... in response to For Pete's Sake!!, posted by JunFan on Oct 21, 2003

Hello Pete,

I haven't been really keeping up with the board , but I tuned in and just went over all your posts. I've met both you and Rocio so it was very tough for me to read this stuff. You both seemed happy. I guess you never know what happens behind closed doors huh. Anyway I'm very sorry to hear about all this. My condolences to you.I have to agree with some of Jun Fans comments though.

It seemed that you really didn't like Cali, or had much interest in the culture aside from the women. So do you really want to live there? In Latin America there are definite advantages for gringos who marry and live there. However the gringos I have met who live in Latin America really embrace the culture. In your response to Jun Fan, you were focused on merely getting by food wise, how much cheaper it would be,and needing a quick change. You never really talked about needing to embrace and accept the culture as I think would make life a heck of alot easier for you,if you decided to live there. Also,you never commented on the language.
I mean if you meet a sweet Latina, and remarry, but are miserable about where you live, don't you think that will have a negative effect on your relationship?

Anyways Pete just thought I would give you my condolences ,a bit of advice, and to say hello.

                 Ciao,  Nico

[mudd]

... in response to For Pete's Sake!!, posted by JunFan on Oct 21, 2003

i kind of agree with you junfan, pete needs to look in the mirror and figure out whats wrong with himself, before runing off to wonderland, whrere everything will be ok with a new girl.i guess im a little sarcastic about the whole mess, but a lot of it is self inflicted. runing away from your problems and not faceing them only makes them worse later in life, and finding another girl isnt going to change them, or make them go away. my personal opinion about his soon to be EX, even if she has a mental problem, she still a snake. kind of makes me want to go "gay"..........well, maybe not :-)
pete. hope it all works out...eventualy

[Pete E]

... in response to For Pete's Sake!!, posted by JunFan on Oct 21, 2003

Mike,
You remember how bored I was in Cali!
Actually I was never bored as a single guy but sitting around my in laws house did get old.Funny I feel confined there but came home and I could not leave the house all day and not be bored at all.And yeah,I think their food is about as void of anything good as any ethnic group anywhere.But I could get by going to crepes and waffles,which I love and its cheap.And cooking myself,Cuban Food.They know how to make tough meat tender and good tasting.
I never even seriously considered Cali untill recently.My Friends were over that both spent alot of time there.They liked being there.I had been thinking more about Cartegena.
Jim went there and scoped out property but it souded like the singles scen was poor compared to Cali.I also went to Panama City and I don't picture myself being there.
So John B.and Cali James and I hatch this sceme over a few beers.Go to Cali.Rent a really nice place where I will have room for people to stay with me which could be fun and profitable.Sounded like at least an interim step to not be isolated at first.I been in that mode every since.And of course,the best woman scene anywhere,I think.
One of the reasons I have not got a divorce this year was it was just going to be so messy and I was in financial trouble already.Things would get worse instead of better.And I don't want to be here if we divorce.I have no opportunity for he kind of woman I want and she has all the opportunity in the world.
So my little sceme to escape seemed like the thing to do and all of a sudden I had an out.I am reconsidering,but I hope I don't have to change it.I just got off the phone with one of our posters who an attorney.He raised lots of points of concern and a number of other solutions.
But basically,if this relationship isn't going to work,or even if I didn't have it at this point, I am ready to shift gears to where I can live on the $40,000 pension instead of stuggling to survive here.
And If I can live there I can take my time finding the next woman.No need to rush to have her with me.And life is temporary.I'm 60.Thats old enough.I don' want to be trying to find the new chica at 65.
Plus,I've went under financially before.It was much worse than this could possibly be and I survived.Its not as unthinkable like alot of people might view it.
Thanks for the imput.I am rethinking.I hope I don't change the plan,because I need a change,fast.

Pete

[Bueller]

... in response to For Pete's Sake!!, posted by JunFan on Oct 21, 2003

The only part that I think is crazy is his choice of a city to go to. I just mentioned below the month he spent in Cali going out of his mind, and for that reason it seems like a really stupid place to go to live. After he finds Miss Wonderful, what's he going to do every day, take a taxi to Chipichapi (to avoid getting mugged on the way), and hang out there all day watching the skirts go by?

 At sixty years old, he's in a different situation than a guy our age. And if he's willing to get into the language and culture, life and retirement in the right place can be good for him.

 As far as there being no Christian commonality between them, I see plenty. She used him and showed him flagrant disrespect as a husband, e.g. that song she was singing about him, refusing to perform her marital sexual obligations, probably carrying on an adulterous affair, etc. So Pete makes no claim to be a Christian, and Rocio makes no effort to live up to her claim of being a Christian. Sounds like plenty of spiritual commonality to me.

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: For Pete's Sake!!, posted by Bueller on Oct 21, 2003

You're analysis of Rocio's behavior is right on target.  Such a common practice: Use your faith when it fits your plans and ignore it when it doesn't.  Meanwhile, wear it on your sleeve like everyone should respect you for it.

Steve