Starting over ...

[A1A]

Things have crashed and burned with my novia from Guadalajara.  I'm still trying to figure out how I went from being 'papacito lindo" three weeks away from vacation with her, to "we need to talk about our relationship", two weeks from vacation, to "I can't do a long distance relationship anymore", the night before we were to meet in Cancun.  So after a week in Margaritaville, it is time to move on and make a trip to Cali in December or January.  I gotta go where it's warm, Bogota may have more women in the 30's age group I'm looking, but I have a better feeling about Cali.  Adios Mexico, time to see another part of the world.
A1A

[John O]

... in response to Starting over ..., posted by A1A on Oct 11, 2003

I had a similar experience with a tall, attractive model/student from Monterrey I got to know via TLC. We had a pretty good rapport over the phone, and after numerous Emails & converstions, I accepted her offer to come visit for Thksgvg weekend 2yrs ago. She promised me she would refuse any modeling jobs that weekend.

A couple days before the trip, her mom tells me she's out of town on a modeling job. When I finally reached her, she said she couldn't turn down the job. It was just in time to reschedule my trip for December. A week later, she tells me she was planning to visit friends in Texas in December. Fine, I tell her, we can meet in Texas. No can do, she says. How about first week in Janury? Sure. Two weeks later: No, she's planning on visiting Argentina & couldn't possibly reschedule that trip.

After rescheduling my trip 3 times, I finally gave up and ate the $400 plane ticket. I gently tried informing her that she had been a selfish brat about the whole thing, but she never accepted responsibility. She recently messaged me with excited plans to marry a fellow Mormon she met in Utah. When I responded politely but cooly, she asked me "Is something wrong?" Still doesn't get it. Mucha suerte to her clueless hubby.

I've known 100s of Mexican ladies in my classes. They're nice, but I prefer Central Americans: less conservative & clannish. But nothing beats Colombian ladies for physical beauty, education, & warm, happy personality.

As for the Monterrey brat, it was a fatal combo of immaturity, selfishness & the high socio-economic level/high maintenance ratio.

In any case, traveling overseas to meet just one lady is a real crapshoot. Agencies with a selection of ladies are far better.

[denvermike]

... in response to Starting over ..., posted by A1A on Oct 11, 2003

Sounds like she got a better offer, or you didn't come through with enough money for her mother, grandmother, sister, etc,

Better to find out now

mike

[A1A]

... in response to Re: Starting over ..., posted by denvermike on Oct 12, 2003

I think you are right, probably a better offer.  Things went south too fast, and she told me a couple times the girl from mex. matchmakers kept calling her to see if she was interested in receiving emails from other guys.  
A1A

[Zorrowins]

... in response to Starting over ..., posted by A1A on Oct 11, 2003

I've heard Terry had to move due to problems with town officals. I haven't heard much since-What's going on. Also I understand there is a much better selection of mujeres ib Colombia-but since you haven't been to Colombia-Was there a large selection fo attractive Mexican mujeres with MM? Are the women in Guadalajara more beautiful than the average Mexican or is this propaganda?

[A1A]

... in response to A1A-Did you use Mexican Matchmakers?, posted by Zorrowins on Oct 11, 2003

Z, yes I used mexican matchmakers.  They are operating now, Terry's secretary is running the show.  When I was there she did all the women contact work, she is a real nice girl.
She also kept in contact with my novia, they are good friends. MM has a good number of attractive women in their books, more than on the website. As far as the general population goes, from observations at the malls, airports, etc, there seemed like more attractive women in GDL as compared to Mexico City, but Cancun is equal, a lot of attractive girls that can speak english go there to make better money in the hotels, restaurants and nightclubs.
 For me, it is a time for a change, after reading this board for a long time, Colombia is very appealing right now.
A1A

[Zorrowins]

... in response to Re: A1A-Did you use Mexican Matchmakers?, posted by A1A on Oct 11, 2003

At first I was more inclined to look in Mexico for a potential spouse for three reasons. I'm more familiar with Mexican, it's closer, and especially the fact that 6 month tourist visas are available fairly easily(per my understanding) to Mexican Nationals. Six monthes is more time to catch a mistake in compatibility than 3 months. I would HATE to go through another divorce, and I have definately made mistakes with the female gender in the past! But after many months reading posts on this board I now beieve Colombia is the best bet in spite of the above mentioned drawbacks.

[Michael B]

... in response to Starting over ..., posted by A1A on Oct 11, 2003

Sometimes it just honestly doesn't work out. Maybe she found another guy, maybe the waiting and/or seperation got to her, maybe she just didn't feel you were the one for her, or maybe she just got cold feet. I suspect the last minuteness (is that a word?) of letting you know just before the trip was her conscience fighting over 'at least take the free vacation' vs. 'don't stick that poor man for an expensive trip if you're going to ditch him anyway'. If you want to try Mexico again, I recomend Veracruz or Mexico City, but neither has any agencies that I'm aware of. If you need an agency, try one of the other cities the guys suggested.

[A1A]

... in response to Re: Starting over ..., posted by Michael B on Oct 11, 2003

Actually, looking back I am glad she did it before the trip, it could have made for a bad situation there.  I've heard Vera Cruz is a good place to visit, but Colombia is next.  I've been to Mexico city, no mas, gracias.  Thanks for the kind words guys.
A1A

[Red Clay]

... in response to Re: Re: Starting over ..., posted by A1A on Oct 11, 2003

If the girl I know from Veracruz is any indication, you need to go there.

[kevin c]

... in response to Starting over ..., posted by A1A on Oct 11, 2003

hey A1A
you seem to be taking it all in stride
but i think you MUST find and download  or go out and buy
a cd from the texas tornados/ freddie fender
as the song aidios mexico  will make you smile
although if my memory serves me its about a girl from
lake chappalo (sp?) instead of guad. even if you dont like counrty music i think you like it

[A1A]

... in response to Re: Starting over ..., posted by kevin c on Oct 11, 2003

Lake Chapala is just south of Guadalajara,  I'll have to check out the song, I don't listen to much country except for Garth..after several too many I got the courage to do "Friends in low places" at karyoke night at the hotel bar,  hehehehehe...everyone loves a sing along.
A1A

[wizard]

... in response to Starting over ..., posted by A1A on Oct 11, 2003

Changes in latitudes, changes in attitudes...

Sorry about the "Smokin' hole in the ground"...

Lick your wounds and get back in the saddle...

Cali can be cool, but I did not find many serious ladies there... Just my experience...

For more grounded ladies in the 30+ group, I would try Bogota... Check out Nelson's website at Latin Intro...

Mark

[A1A]

... in response to Ahh..., posted by wizard on Oct 11, 2003

Thanks man, a lot of guys have posted about Bogota and Nelson's agency.  I'm not going to rule it out. Thanks,
A1A

[zack]

... in response to Ahh..., posted by wizard on Oct 11, 2003

I have heard nothing but good things about Nelson's wsebsite and his agency.

Zack