Affidavit Of Support

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: Spoiled Rotten, posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 7, 2003

As a last option why don't you just send him off to military school. He won't be spoiled there!

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Spoiled Rotten, posted by Cali vet on Oct 7, 2003

Cali Vet

That would work great for me, but he will not be 5 until april and i know his mother will not go for that. Not sure if there is anoter solution.

It is my fault though. I traveled many times to cali to visit her, but made the mistake of spending most of the time with her an not enough wih her and her son together
BIG NO NO !!!

Andy

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: Re: Spoiled Rotten, posted by Cali vet on Oct 7, 2003

I was about to post that, but just before I hit the submit button, I thought 'do they take them at 5 years old?'

[bryan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Spoiled Rotten, posted by Michael B on Oct 7, 2003

your letting a 5 year old dictate the emotional tone of your household. Ignore the little sheet and keep his mom. There is know way in hell I'd let a child that young have such a devastating impact on my life. Hes still young enough to respond to methods that will change his behaivior. Misbehaving 5 year olds dont even exist in my mind, with in 1 week this kid would be BEGGING for my attention. I have to believe there are other issues

[luvslife]

... in response to Re: Re: Affidavit Of Support, posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 7, 2003

I believe that if you separate prior to her receiving her final papers and you refuse to sign off on the papers all bets are off.  This came up some time back.  You don't have any obligation to stay with her if the relationship is not working.  I would get to an attorney as soon as possible to protect yourself.  Sometimes taking the right actions will show just how serious you are and she may then realize that she does not have as many options as she thought.  Bottom line get professional assistance.

[bryan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Affidavit Of Support, posted by luvslife on Oct 7, 2003

Yes there is a document you will have to sign for her to remove conditions from her green card, this does not lift your obligations under the I 864

I'll tell ya, throughout the whole process for me it came down to this very document. I read it researched from every angle and in the end i put the I 864 on one side of the scale and my wife on the other. Shes due with our first child friday and i feel pretty comfortavble in this loving relationship.

I think the best approach is to push towards citizenship, it seems ive heard that she can start applying for that after her feet have been on US soil for 3 years. 40 quarters of paying into SS, Citzenship, she goes back home or dies are the 4 circumstances in which your financial obligation for this woman will be lifted

[bryan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Affidavit Of Support, posted by luvslife on Oct 7, 2003

I dont think so. That document is put in place to insure that the government or some private organization dont get stuck holding the bill for an immigrant who enters fraudulently. You are saying to the INS that no matter what happens i will support this woman under any circumstances and she wil not become a burden to the federal governemnt or others in the private sector. If she leaves and 5 years from now she gets hit by a car and runs up a bill in a hospital you can bet they will be coming ofter you for the cost. I think that is the intent ans spirit of that document.

I lost my job shortly after my wife arrived and shes since become pregnant. While on unemployment I went down to the county welfare office to see about getting her covered on medicaide and they turned us away, I was kind of shocked. In the county i live in they have a net (county program) that caught us and luckily we were able to access health coverage for her at that level. If we would have been divorced or seperated Im sure they would have given her the benes and come after me for restitution.

I think it is really in place for large amounts and I wonder about the enforceability of the document, but make no mistake its their to make sure you support this woman while shes in the USA and i dont remember reading anything about a date when it expires.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Affidavit Of Support, posted by bryan on Oct 8, 2003

there have been other problems that have affected our relationship, but the child is the big problem. A colombian woman will always be more devoted to her child then to her husband. The history of the man not being around very long is entrenched in there culture.I refuse as you say to let the 5 year old dictate my relationship, but the mother sides with the child and sleeps with the child most nights because the child pulls a fit. I have put my foot down many times and it only lasts about a day or so before she goes back to her old ways. She is just not able to balance the child and me. I am 39 years old and she is 28 . I am mature and she is not. I also do not want to waste the next 3 or 4 years on a woman tha is inmature in th hopes she will change. My best option is to cut my losses as she has only been in the country for 8 months. It will be much more difficult after she has been here 24 months.

Andy

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Affidavit Of Support, posted by bryan on Oct 8, 2003

That is my impression as well, but i am going to contact Gary Bala (did my visa) and get his imput so i am crystle clear.

It maks a big difference on how i proceed from here.

Andy