Newbie Question-Perhaps Naive

[senge]

... in response to cows? - senge you're about to piss me of..., posted by cancunhound on Oct 4, 2003

Cancunhound,

We are in the same boat here, and on the same side.  I use a dating service called Cherry Blossoms and I am preparing to use the new agency for women of Equador.  

It's just that I am not going to use these agencies/services to find the first pretty young thing that batts her eyes at me.  I'm going to find a woman closer to my age, because I know she has life experience that matches mine.  I'm going to just concentrate on maybe 2 or 3 woman so my attention and devotion is not diluted, and I'm going to take at least a year of getting to know her before I make any committment of marriage to her.

So, don't be pissed off.  We're doing the same things, only a bit differently.

[stefang]

... in response to Re: cows? - senge you're about to piss m..., posted by senge on Oct 4, 2003

Why are you going to Equador if you say you want a Pinay?

[cancunhound]

... in response to Re: cows? - senge you're about to piss m..., posted by senge on Oct 4, 2003

I'm not pissed, but be carefull relating cattle to Colombian women - I take offense at that.  I believe I see your logic - a method - a plan.  Well, tell us how it pans out.  My bet is the minute you get off the boat your plan will be scrapped.  If you're ready to get into a relationship, just buy a ticket - good things do happen - you will know pretty quick when it's right.  You've got the advantage of youth - unless you've got a hunchback and are albino you'll score well with the 20+ latinas.  Hell if you want send me a couple of pics to forward to some Calenas for you.

[JSlo]

... in response to Too much of a plan senge, posted by cancunhound on Oct 4, 2003

Hell, I'll take you up on that offer, photo is in the mail. I'll be in Cali Oct 22 or 23 for 5 days, haven't decided yet. I believe that senge will have the time of his life if he ever makes it down south, but I don't believe that he will report on how wrong his previous thoughts were. You really can't describe what to expect to a newbie, my first trip I only remember being overwhelmed which does not happen too often. Just have to wait and see.
JSlo

[Patrick]

... in response to Damn good question, posted by Patrick on Oct 4, 2003

Reasonable levels of foul language are permitted.  I changed the language filter while back to allow some of the four-letter words to post after complaints about treating posters like children.

[senge]

... in response to Newbie Question-Perhaps Naive, posted by Zorrowins on Oct 3, 2003

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Hi.  Some of these relationships do work, i guess.  But I truly believe that the vast majority do not.

To answer your question, I think mostly it is so that they can have the opportunity to establish themselves here (citizenship).  Also, once they're here, they can network with other hispanics their own age, thus increasing the opportunity to meet an American citizen who is a younger man, and possibly of latin decent.  In addition, many will gladly trade a few years of financial security for themselves and their family back home for putting up with an American man they have no real interest in.  Remember, a wife doesn't have to have sex with her husband.  She doesn't even have to communicate much with him.

Many men on this board will say that their age, looks, and length of communication time before marriage doesn't matter.  But then again, many of these same men have been divorced at least once.

Why do men pursue wives this way, when they have to know, deep inside, these marriages most likely won't work?  Well, I feel it's a question of experiencing a fantasy versus living reality.  Most people, if given the opportunity, will live a fantasy instead of face the harshness of reality.  Reality for most men here (including myself) is that they can't find and secure a relationship with a hot young latina here in the USA.  So the idea of marrying a hot young latina becomes a fantasy.  But...we have this incredible thing here called 'agencies' which allows you to fly down to Columbia and flash your money and your American nationality to some poor and desperate LW and guess what...your fantasy becomes a reality!!  Isn't that great!

Well, I'm one of the few men on this board (I think) who will gladly bypass 2 or 3 years of a sexfilled-yet emotionally bankrupt relationship for an opportunity for having an honest and honorable lifelong relationship.  This is why I am seriously considering filipinas now.  I was very enthusiastic about meeting a latin woman from Peru.  But I've been reading the ASIAN board and it seems those relationships there are much more stable than those on the LATIN board.  

senge

[Calipro]

... in response to Re: Newbie Question-Perhaps Naive, posted by senge on Oct 4, 2003

senge

You are scaring me! I can't believe you are going to make life decisions based on what people have posted on this board or any other board. You need to buy some plane tickets fast and find out for yourself how things are.

Sure a relationship with a filipina maybe a little more stable and subdued. But, do you really want to be married to a midget with the figure of a ten year old girl that will cook your dog for dinner?

[Zorrowins]

... in response to Re: Re: Newbie Question-Perhaps Naive, posted by Calipro on Oct 4, 2003

Thanks for the laugh!

[jim c]

... in response to Re: Re: Newbie Question-Perhaps Naive, posted by Calipro on Oct 4, 2003

Damn Wayne

    I wish I had said that. Thats the best shot I have ever seen on this board. Jim C

[senge]

... in response to Re: Re: Newbie Question-Perhaps Naive, posted by Calipro on Oct 4, 2003

Actually Calipro, many filipinas are as attractive as LW, especially since filipinas have spanish blood in them.  I am a member of Cherry Blossoms (you should see the cute pinays!!), not an agency.  I would prefer to email and chat with someone for a few months before travelling to see her.  Also, I tend to concentrate on one lady at a time, out of respect for her and me, as opposed to the 'quantity over quality' approach.

I just don't agree with looks being more important than character.  But then again, I actually WANT to be married until 'death do us part' (an interesting concept?)

[Calipro]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Newbie Question-Perhaps Naiv..., posted by senge on Oct 4, 2003

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If you woke up in the middle of the night and your bed was surrounded by naked filipinas you would probably be delighted. While I on the other hand would be scared to death thinking that I was being abducted by space aliens!!

One mans dreams are another mans nightmare if you know what I mean.

[Zorrowins]

... in response to senge, we are two different hombres....., posted by Calipro on Oct 6, 2003

I may not agree with you, but I have rarely laughed so hard!

[senge]

... in response to senge, we are two different hombres....., posted by Calipro on Oct 6, 2003

ouch!

[cancunhound]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Newbie Question-Perhaps Naiv..., posted by senge on Oct 4, 2003

[senge]

... in response to Re: Newbie Question-Perhaps Naive, posted by senge on Oct 4, 2003

I'm not certain that asians will be a better source of "wife material" than latinas, but based on the many threads in both the asian board and the latin board, it seems that the latin board's content is much more oriented towards quick sex and the eventual disappointment of divorce than.  I'm not the only one who believes this...posters on the asian board have made similar claims.

With that being said, I'm not saying that AW are better than LW, or vice versa.  I'm just saying that MY main point in seeking a foreign wife is not to secure a sex kitten, but to have a lifelong partner, and it seems that (based on what i know of my asian friends, census reports, and board threads) that AW are more apt to stay in a marriage and not be so hard to deal with than LW.

In fact, many posters here have already admitted that LW have unusually impassioned tempers and can be nearly impossible to deal with when they're jealous are angry.    

Spend some time reading the threads on the Asian board and do a comparison...you will find that there are many more success stories there than here.

Still, i do have an interest for latin women, especially Peruvian and Mexican.  So, its not either or with me.  I just want to better my chances of finding a wife by interacting with asian females along with latin females.