Women with kids

[cancunhound]

... in response to Re: Women with kids, posted by littlebhuddha on Sep 13, 2003

littlebhuddha, I see Pete's point about the kids - but, I would not put kids as a bullet on your dating list.  Here's my final advice from a young buck (damn near 40 ouch!), when you get to the agency don't look at any of the albums.  Chat with the agency staff for a spell and let them choose your dates.  Simple as that - chemistry is what it's all about, and you shouldn't restrict your introduction choices based upon age, weight, height, # of kids, etc..
just my 2 cents.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Women with kids, posted by cancunhound on Sep 13, 2003

I think if you have a issue like I did,definetly don't want to start over with babies,it makes sense to rule out those girls that definetly do want kids.Their desire here should not be taken litely.Even if thet say its not importan after their profile said it is,it will come back up again later.Its important to a woman,especially a Colombiana.
So unless you are wide open to anything I would look at the profiles to see what the woman wants.
But I do agree chemistry is the main thing.You will not know by looking at profiles,or 6 months of E-mails.But that chemistry should be with someone with compatable life plans.
MY 2 main impressions of cali,very few girls speak much english.And they all want kids.Its an issue you ned to decide where you are at with before you go.If you want english and no kids Bogota is probably a better bet,but you will not have the selection of women available to you in Cali.

Pete

[littlebhuddha]

... in response to Re: Re: Women with kids, posted by cancunhound on Sep 13, 2003

I understand what you are saying and I will of course be open to suggestions and advice from the staff but there is no way that I would let anyone pick the women for me. The few occasions that I have let friends set me up with dates ave been total disasters. I just scratched my head and wondered what they could have been thinking. After 35 years of chasing women, I have a pretty good idea of what I want in a partner. There are things that I absolutely don't want in a wife and a few things that are requirements. I will not date anyone overweight or anyone with more than two children. Any potential mate must be a non-smoker and a social drinker only. I think that if you go into this with no clear idea of what you are looking for you are asking for problems not the least of which is kissing a lot of frogs to get to the princess. I am aware that the staff at LE has a reputation for being able to pick the right ladies for a man and that is one reason that I chose that agency. I would like to sit down with Alcira and go through the albums together and talk about any ladies I might be interested in but I'm not going to let some one take over the selection process completely. But thanks for the two cents. I'll take all the donations I can get.

[cancunhound]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Women with kids, posted by littlebhuddha on Sep 14, 2003

I understand your resolve, but keep in mind that those pics in the albums are just that - photos, many bad, many good.  Some that you think are bad may indeed be a "10" in person.  You are going to have one heck of a time.

[littlebhuddha]

... in response to the photos in the album, posted by cancunhound on Sep 14, 2003

You are indeed correct. I will have one heck of a time. Enough with the fantasy. I am ready to switch to the reality mode. I'm counting hours now.

[mudd]

... in response to Re: the photos in the album, posted by littlebhuddha on Sep 14, 2003

what carrier are you using for your flight? and what are the connections?

[littlebhuddha]

... in response to Re: Re: the photos in the album, posted by mudd on Sep 14, 2003

American LA-Miami-Cali

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: Re: Women with kids, posted by cancunhound on Sep 13, 2003

I'd be a little carefull about letting the agency staff pick your dates. There's one agency on the north end where the owner has a reputation for sticking newbies with some older, unattractive "regulars" since on paying $15 or so to join they're told they'll get at least one lunch or dinner date.

[Pete E]

... in response to The regulars, posted by Cali vet on Sep 14, 2003

One of my friends had an experience with a lady I will just indentify as the best known female agency owner in the north side.She kept telling him he just had to meet this girl.He went way out of his way to meet her,he was staying in the south.The girl was absolutely nothing like he told the owner he wanted.Not even close.But she did have a cell phone ,a car and a good paying job.My friend figures the lady paid $$ to meet him.
However,the same lady introduced one of our posters here to the woman of his dreams.I would certainly consider their advice but be careful if you feel you are being pushed.It would in most cases be a good idea to ask an opinion about the girl you are interested in.

Pete

[HeyNow]

... in response to The regulars, posted by Cali vet on Sep 14, 2003

Calivet,
 You have a valid point.  I think most gringos have experienced being set up with a less than desirable woman but, given cancunhound's age (under 40) I think he will do well with the agency picks.

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: The regulars, posted by HeyNow on Sep 14, 2003

My comment and Pete's refer to one specific agency. On the other hand if Ricardo of allcolombiangirls told me he had a real babe for me to meet, most likely she would indeed turn out to be a real babe.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: The regulars, posted by Cali vet on Sep 14, 2003

CV,
I guess some off these other tactics didn't "rub off" on Ricardo.Can you immagine wasting your time to meet a girl not all like you said you wanted because someone promised her a dinner date?My Buddy was not impressed,to say the least.He found his girl (elsewhere)but if he didn't I doubt he would go back there.
I think some agecy owners look a it as a one shot deal.They don't know if you will ever be back so they will try to get all they can now.Repeat business must not be big with them.
However,if I was looking now, I would try other agencies first,but if I didn't find what I was looking for I would go to the subject agency.She has alot of girls.Sometimes its a numbers game finding what you want.Thats why it frustrates me so much when some guy posts about spending most of his time with a girl he is unsure of or not that interested in,or she in him.You have  to move on,the right one is out there for every guy I think,if he looks wisely and doesn't get discouraged.

Pete

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: The regulars, posted by Pete E on Sep 14, 2003

If I had to jump back in the fray I'd spend about three days at each of the viable agencies. Anyone who'se been to Cali at least once knows you're likely to find only a few at each that fit your criteria so no point in hanging on after you've gone through the "first string".

[Ralph]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: The regulars, posted by Pete E on Sep 14, 2003

He he he he. . . how many agencies di you visit before getting engaged? How many women had you met? If this is a case of do as I say, bravo for realizing that maybe taking more time might be a good idea!

[Pete E]

... in response to Do as I say;-), posted by Ralph on Sep 14, 2003

I have already admitted that I failed to take my time.But I don't recommend it.I recommend taking as much time as necessary to really know how the woman feels about you.
Actually I only went to one agency,but if I didn't find what I wanted there I would have just kept looking untill I did.My first day in Colombia I thought "yes,this is it. I am going to keep at this untill I find the woman I want."
And I would have.Its just so much better than any other options I know about.But screw up proof it is not.Its a mine field of potential screw ups.But if I was to find myself single I would be back down there in a flash.

Pete