The wake up call....

[humabdos]

... in response to The wake up call...., posted by Zebson on Jul 24, 2001

Zeb It really sadden me to read your post. It does not supprize me.  I would contact the INS RIGHT AWAY!  Tell them what has happend.  She maybe already gone. Did she take her passport? My heart goes out to you Zeb.  If you need someone to talk to just e mail me I will call you.
I know how you feel I have been there but after four years of a rocky road.  I would contact her family and tell them you are sending her home and inform them of what she has done.  Humabdos@aol.com

[Zebson]

... in response to Re: The wake up call...., posted by humabdos on Jul 24, 2001

Thanks Hum..I really appreicate that. Yea, I will most likely be faxing and sending a back up packet via mail to the Laguna CSC in the next day or so regarding her status.

Zeb

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: Re: The wake up call...., posted by Zebson on Jul 24, 2001

Wise move.  Deal quickly with it.  

But don't deal so quickly with the hurt that you don't take time for proper healing.  

We men like to act macho like "this doesn't hurt me."  Hurt is a reality.  We all deal differently.  Most of us guys try and cover it up.

But you can't really go on until you deal with it properly.

Stephen

PS....Do you know what happens to a man that refuses to be healed?  Just ask Hummy!

[humabdos]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: The wake up call...., posted by Stephen on Jul 24, 2001

no one need wounder whats on my mind! Sometimes it just flows out like vomit from a wineo!  LOL  Like an otot it just happens.   Humabdos

[Jeff S]

... in response to Hey at least I don't try and cover it up..., posted by humabdos on Jul 24, 2001

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[Dave H2O]

... in response to Hey at least I don't try and cover it up..., posted by humabdos on Jul 24, 2001

Hum,

Do you know how many times I had to stand in or wear a drunks vomit on my uniform? They usually let go when you are taking their blood pressure. Usually, I was quick and was able to jump out of the way at the last second. Unfortunately, one of my crew was often standing behind me. ;o)))

Dave H.

[jon]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: The wake up call...., posted by Stephen on Jul 24, 2001

...boy an I sore.

Jon

[Bear]

... in response to The wake up call...., posted by Zebson on Jul 24, 2001

Sorry dude.  Been there.  Done that.  But look what I got now.

Bear

[kevin]

... in response to The wake up call...., posted by Zebson on Jul 24, 2001

what happened.  It sickens me.  But get past it.  After that, God willing, there's something much better.  I'm sure you're suffering alot of torment in your heart, and it's going to be extremely difficult to even look at Helen, never mind have her sleep at your place until she leaves, knowing that she's been with this guy.

If that guy knows how Helen achieved the means to meet him, then he's a scumbag too.  If Helen told him she was on a tourist or business visa, I'd feel sorry for him.

Well, here are some thoughts that come to mind, given that the guy is responsible for screwing you and ruining your life as well.  Perhaps you could sue him for the anguish he perpetrated, as well as all costs that you shouldered to petition Helen, and the cost of returning her to the Philippines.  If the guy knows Helen is going to marry you, but he's involved in such a relationship, it's sick and despicable on his part too.  Gather as much information about the guy that you can.  I'd report your plight to the INS office and present the evidence of how another man was involved in duping you in a form of fiancee visa fraud.  He should pay for his deeds too (if he knowingly did what he did).

Good luck and may God guide you.

- Kevin

[Ray]

... in response to Re: The wake up call...., posted by kevin on Jul 24, 2001

Sue HIM? HE should pay for HIS deeds? Hell, I'd send him a thank you note and a box of chocolates.

Good luck to you Zeb with whatever you do. Just don't do anything crazy now, OK?

Ray

[Dave H2O]

... in response to Kevin, Kevin, Kevin..., posted by Ray on Jul 24, 2001

Ray,

Good point! That guy is going to need a prayer too. God bless all the guys that are married to our ex-wives. ;o)))

Dave H.

[Stephen]

... in response to So true..., posted by Dave H2O on Jul 24, 2001

Hey Dave:

My ex got remarried a year after our divorce back in the mid-80's.

Guess what his name was?  Yeah....Stephen.  I love that.  I tell people that now whenever she mumbles "Ohhhhhhh Stephen, your the best", he thinks she's talking about him.

The kids never got along with him that well, but I always got along with him because I felt sorry for him.  I know good and well he has never had a good day since he married her.  His life is over.  Poor guy.

Reminds me of the story of a guy who was visiting the graveyard.  He overhears a man expressing his grief at a nearby grave.  He man is obviously overcome with emotion and as he crys the man can distinguish the words "Why did you have to go away?  Why did you do this?  WHy did you have to die?"

The man is curious and he goes over to him and says, "Mister, I couldn't help but notice how sad you are.  Tell me ...if you don't mind...Was this person your father or your child"?

The man pulls himself together as best he can and says, "No sir, it was my wife's first husband!"

Stephen

[Dave H2O]

... in response to Re: So true..., posted by Stephen on Jul 24, 2001

Hi Stephen,

You fooled me with that joke. LOL

I feel the same way about my ex-wife's husband. Poor bastard. I tried to warn him. Now he regrets not listening to me, when I told him to run away as fast as he could.

Dave H.