Cali Sharks

[CaliSurviver]

I was just in Cali 2 weeks ago for the first time.  I meet several women but in the end they all seemed liked thy wanted something.  I was with one called Sandra and she seemed to be very nice for the first couple of dates.  Then she started hinting about needing money for bills.

My question, is this normal?

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Cali Sharks, posted by CaliSurviver on Aug 12, 2003

I've posted before that about 30% of the women I dated from agencies asked for some money.  Now others say that never happens to them.  Maybe you and I just have "Sucker" written on our foreheads.  I, like you, didn't give them the money.

If you spent two weeks in Cali, please consider giving us a trip report.  Success or not, it's interesting to read about other men's experiences, especially in Cali.  It's the DisneyWorld of the foreign bride search.

Steve

[Patrick]

... in response to Re: Cali Sharks, posted by DallasSteve2 on Aug 13, 2003

I think it depends on the type of women you're after.  I believe the young very attractive women are much more likely to be the high maintainence types, especially when they're dating men 20 years older than they are.  I think I once saw a photo of your first wife.  If she's any indication, it looks like you dated the young very attractive type. I don't think your 30% number would apply to someone else dating more average women, especially the more average women closer to the man's age.

When men are after much more than they can get here in the U.S. in terms of looks and age, they can probably expect to encounter a fair number of women expecting things from them.

[HeyNow]

... in response to How to be sure to encounter the Cali Sha..., posted by Patrick on Aug 13, 2003

With all due respect Patrick.  If I am looking for "Average"
I really wouldn't need to get on the plane.  Just my humble opinion.

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to How to be sure to encounter the Cali Sha..., posted by Patrick on Aug 13, 2003

What you wrote is correct.

Steve

[zack]

... in response to Cali Sharks, posted by CaliSurviver on Aug 12, 2003

As a general rule, if a latina asks you for money after only a few dates, give her the boot. I learned this the hard way.

But this brings up the question "when is it safe to honor her request?" This is a matter of opinion. Some people beleive that once intimacy is established, it is O.K. Personally, unless I were married or damn near married,
I would look at a money request as a red flag. (but I know there are acceptions). I am not stereotyping latinas- I know there are a lot who never ask for money.

But I disagree with those who think that once intimacy is established, it is O.K. Some of these ladies will make the
"little head" happy in order to gain control of the big head.

Zack

[elcolombiano]

... in response to Cali Sharks, posted by CaliSurviver on Aug 12, 2003

Why is it not OK to give them money if you are not intimate with them but if you are intimate with them it is OK to give them money? I don't understand this. What is the difference between this and prostitution?

Why are you guys giving these women money. I gave my novia a computer so she can email me every day. The monitor broke and I sent her $100 to buy a new one. I sent her money to prepare and send the papers for the K1 visa. Other than that I don't give her money. When I visit her I bring her small gifts. I wine and dine her but thats it. You guys that give these women money are the wones that are encouraging them to behave like this. Giving money to a women should have nothing to do with a relationship.

[thundernco]

... in response to Why is it OK to give them money after yo..., posted by elcolombiano on Aug 13, 2003

EC,

Good to see that you've picked up a thing or two from your experiences.  Take Care & Good Luck -TNC

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Why is it OK to give them money after yo..., posted by elcolombiano on Aug 13, 2003

El Colombiano

What is the difference between this and prostitution?

DON'T GET MARRIED!  

Just kidding.  Get married.  I want to read what you say after she really gets into your pockets.  Colombianas cost more than prostitutes.

Steve

[moam]

... in response to Money, posted by DallasSteve2 on Aug 13, 2003

And when men think that because they are married they are not paying for it, I challenge them to stop paying the mortgage, the satellite tv, the car payment, and no money for the salon. Let's see how long she stays around.

[Jersey Mike]

... in response to Money, posted by DallasSteve2 on Aug 13, 2003

I would add that all wives, regardless of nationality, cost more.  Much more.

[HansErich]

... in response to Re: Money, posted by Jersey Mike on Aug 13, 2003

O(OOOOOO I second that my friend!!!!!!!!!!!!

It is better to go several times to a Wh0re then marry a woman!!

So who said I want to be married?

;-)

nodge..nodge...wink...

In germany we have a saying:

A woman must be THREE things:
A wh0re in bed.
A lady on the street.
and a MAID in the house!!

Hans-Erich.

[zack]

... in response to Re: Re: Money, posted by HansErich on Aug 13, 2003

Hans-  pretty sexist post.

Good thing there aren't too many women reading this board.

Zack

[HansErich]

... in response to Why is it OK to give them money after yo..., posted by elcolombiano on Aug 13, 2003

Hola El colombiano!!

that was JUST my point!!!!!!!!!

Normal raised and women who stay away from agencies do NOT ask for money.

The ones that asked ME for money (like that barrancabermeja harlet) were just ho0kers!
Scammers?? yes?

greetings,

Hans-Erich

[burbuja2]

... in response to Cali Sharks, posted by CaliSurviver on Aug 12, 2003

If there is a big income disparity between you and the girl, it is commonly accepted that the male will help her out.  This should only come about, however, when it appears as though there is going to be some degree of permanency to the relationship.  Further, you should volunteer to do this.  I've had instances where girls have initially refused, but I insisted because I knew their situation.  If the girl begins to ask for dinero, however, consider looking for a new novia.  Think of it as tipping a waiter; it may be expected, but the waiter shouldn't ask for it.