... in response to Beenthere...Question , posted by Mark33 on Jul 31, 2003First of all, I've been very hesitant on posting since the picture controversy of a few weeks back. Calipro has baited me a few times, and of course, his posting the link to my picture is just another one of his classless, vengeful tactics. I'm not happy that he posted the link. I think that it's important that we not reveal the identities of any members. Also it's not the greatest picture of me, but I don't mind that All Colombian Girls posted it, because the owner and staff are all very good friends of mine. If Calipro wants to continue, be vengeful, and start trouble, that's fine. I think the majority of the people who monitor this forum now know what kind of a guy he is. A gave him the last word before, and if he wants to post a reply to this post, I'll give him the last word again.
Mark, in regards to your question, I married a Calena back in 1999. I don't like to share too many details about my marriage on the internet (especially now that everyone has seen my picture). We divorced after a year. It was my mistake, I should have chosen better, I saw alot of red flags, but I ignored them.
I started going back to Colombia in late 2000. Now I'm being careful, maybe too careful. I've met many wonderful women down there, and as posted before, many are still very good friends of mine. I stay in touch with alot of women, and who knows, one of them could end up being the right one.
It's just very important to be careful, not to be in a rush. Speaking Spanish is a huge plus. I think that's where alot of relationships fail. Also, as someone just posted, learning the culture is important also. The women need alot of support when they come here. It's a mind boggling move, overwhelming, for most of them. I think a guy who can speak spanish, knows the culture, will be able to support their wives alot better once they're here.
Again, at this point maybe I'm being a little too careful with women down there. It's something I need to change about myself. But everytime I go down there, I come back having learned a little more about myself and the kind of woman I want. Also I come back with a few more friends. That's worth alot to me.
In regards to agencies, this year I joined up again. Before I had been in relationships with women that I met on my own or through friends. Speaking spanish is the only way you can do this. I've met women at the airport, on planes, at the beach, of course Chipichape, the gym, everywhere. I don't think I have to tell anyone how open Colombianas are to meeting guys. I was in a few agencies before, but decided to give them a break until this June. There are pro's and con's to agencies, it just depends on the person. But I think for most gringos, an agency is the way to go.
