About 18 mos ago, I was spending Xmas in Sta Marta w/a BQ girl I'd just met thru TLC correspondence. While on a tour to Tayrona, I met a gorgeous 23-y.o from Mdlln. travelling w/a group of fellow Paisa friends. She was clearly flirting w/me, while the BQ girl turned out to be a bit of a self-centered bore. So I made an executive decision to part w/the BQ princess & pursue the sexy, hi-spirited Paisa. I had a great time partying w/her & her motley but nice group of friends (mostly middle-aged ladies & gay guys). They were all rooting for me, but then my Paisa lost interest in me & turned cool & indifferent. So I wrote her off & went back to the ladies in BQ.
A few mos ago, my Paisa began writing me, showing renewed, if belated interest. She claims my desire to jump into a relationship had turned her off, since she likes to begin as friends. I took this w/a grain of salt, but found myself interested again, remembering her perfect physique & fun personality. We had some enjoyable talks. I began to think about visiting her in Mdlln.
Then 1 nite she got emotional over the phone, revealing her family/money worries: she was studying & trying to support her emotionally disabled mother. I felt moved by her plight & trust in me.
Then it came: She haltingly asked me if one day I could "help" her w/her family problems. I cooly asked her what she meant. She hesitated, then admitted what she needed: "dinero". My stunned silence immediately informed her she'd crossed a line, and she apologized profusely for asking this. But the damage was done.
Later, I calmly explained that when someone with whom I don't yet have a committed relationship asks me for money, I can never tell if her interest in me is solely financial. And based on the way she'd unceremoniously dumped me the 1st time, I told her that I had a serious trust issue w/her.
But I can't stop thinking about her good points, er, her looks & (usually) fun-loving personality. And I get tempted to forgive & forget, even though asking for $$ is a big No-No in my book.
A quick reality check is in order. Do I spend my vacation week in Mdlln or the agency fleshpots in Cali? Gentlemen...?
