Meeting women in their mid 30s

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Yep..., posted by wizard on May 13, 2003

I think sometimes they use old photos.  I looked pretty good, too, when I was 30.  I wrote one young girl in 1999 who looked great in her first pictures.  Then she started sending me some more photos and she kept getting fatter.  Shallow guy that I am I stopped writing her.

Steve

[jim c]

... in response to Yep..., posted by wizard on May 13, 2003

The ones with the hat and sunflower are the worst. Baltimore is a small town.

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: Yep..., posted by jim c on May 13, 2003

You dated her too? Absolutely pass over the hats and sunflowers!

[DOMINGUIN]

... in response to Re: Meeting women in their mid 30s, posted by DallasSteve2 on May 13, 2003


For Steve:  I want to thank you for your response.  I checked your profile and I assume that I'm about three years older then you.  There seems to be a considerable age difference between your second wife and you.  How do you deal with it?  The personal details are not my business of course, but is the age differece something you disucss, do you ever put yourself 15-20 years into the future and wonder if you will have anything in common with your wife?  I've made what I think is a concrete decision to seek out a younger woman, but I am quite concerned with making a fool of myself in Colombia and chasing some very young woman who is too far apart from me in maturity, interests, and life expereince.

The scenario of a stunning woman in her 30s with one child is economically reasonable for me (two kids, putting them through college, etc might be a stretch, and I know there is the additonal challenge of securing the father's consent for the child to leave Colombia.

Any comments youc are to make would be appreciated. Thanks. Dominguin

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: Meeting women in their mid 30s, posted by DOMINGUIN on May 13, 2003

Dominguin

For the record, current ages:

 Me: 46
 My wife: 29
 My ex: 25 or 26

As far as the age difference I've fooled myself into thinking we are about the same age so I don't notice it anymore.  With my first wife I always felt like people were staring at us, and they probably were.  She was not only much younger, but she also looked, dressed and acted much younger.  So we stood out immediately whenever we went to the store.  Men were attracted to her and then they would notice me.  (If you didn't catch my post a couple of months ago my ex is now looking for another husband on Latin-Euro.  Here is her photo: http://www.latineuro.com/nuevas18/LuzDaryCamposop.jpg)

Now, I don't feel that age difference with my wife, probably because I went through that process with my ex-wife.  Also, my wife is a little older and very different in how she behaves and how she treats me.  She behaves much more mature and she is very demonstrative with her affection towards me.  A lot of PDA (Public Displays of Affection).  One night she even asked me to make love to her in the apartment pool.  Is that too much information?

Also, I work out regularly and I can outrun either of them in a sprint or distance.  My wife didn't believe me, but now she does.  It helps to be physically fit if you want to have a young wife.

Steve

[DOMINGUIN]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Meeting women in their mid 3..., posted by DallasSteve2 on May 13, 2003


Steve:

Thanks for the post.  I do not work out but should, and I assume that would be helpful to increasing my chances.  From her Latin Euro picture, your first wife is obviously quite a beautiful woman, and I can see how easy it was to "fall" for such a beautiful face.  After our divorce, I also live in a comfortable apartment complex (but no pool!) and as part of the settlement my ex-wife ended up with the house and a written commitment to make a best effort to sell it within 9 months after the decree and split the proceeds with me. That was 17 months ago and the realtor's box in front of the house doesn't even get filled with flyers anymore. I can't say I'm too shocked.

When you used the agencies in Cali, did you buy memberships, or did you just pay for "done" introductions.  I did decide to stay with Odee and buy their membership because their clientele was older, and I found about 20 women on their web site that I would be interested in meeting.

Thanks
Dominguin

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Meeting women in their m..., posted by DOMINGUIN on May 13, 2003

If the Oregon courts are anything like the Texas courts, let me guess who making the payments while SHE lives in it. Here's a clue: YOU sell the house, she isn't trying. Fire that agent, get one that knows what he/she is doing, drop the price and SELL it...17 months is ridiculous (sp?)...she's either queering the deals that are presented to her (so she can stay there on your dime) or it's grossly over priced--perhaps both. My X and I had the same deal and we sold it pretty easily--OK, we didn't get 'the last nickel' we could have if we'd 'held out' (OTOH, I didn't make 17 months of payments while SHE lived in it), but we got rid of it in a reasonable time at a price we could both live with. That was almost 5 years ago, I've been in an apartment ever since, but right now I'm negoating to buy another house, by coincidence, another 'divorce sale' and that woman is willing to give a LOT of concessions to make the sale.

[DOMINGUIN]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Meeting women in the..., posted by Michael B on May 14, 2003


For Michael B.

Actually we are splititng the mortgage payments 50%/50%, which she agreed was fair. The divorce happened because we had grown apart, not because either one of us are bad people.  I still respect her for her values for her devotion to our son, I just couldn't live with her anymore.  I can understand that she isn't thrilled about selling the house and wants to hang on to something.  In the space of 25 months, her father died, she went through our divorce (which was initiated by me)and our son left the nest and went to college.  

The eqyity is continuing to build, and I don't need to cash out unless I marry again and decide to buy a home.  Please don't make assumptive comments about other people's experiences, based solely on what has happened to you.

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Meeting women in..., posted by DOMINGUIN on May 14, 2003

Well, OK, excuse me. From your post it sure sounded like you were complaining that the house hadn't sold and I was just telling you what you need to do to sell it. Let's not be adviserial about it, I don't know one way or the other that you or your X is a 'bad' person (actualy, from your posts so far, you strike me as a very nice person, I'll take your word that she is too).  Just have a good (and safe) trip down there and I wish you success and happiness in the quest.

[DOMINGUIN]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Meeting wome..., posted by Michael B on May 15, 2003


For Michael B.

No harm, no foul, no offense taken, no offense meant.  Thanks for wishing me success, I am getting very excited about going, only 32 more days!  Have a good day. Dominguin

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Meeting women in their m..., posted by DOMINGUIN on May 13, 2003

Dominguin

Your post is bringing back a lot of special memories.  One regret: I didn't take enough pictures.  You should take a small digital camera and take at least one picture of every woman you meet in the agency.  When you get back you will be very glad you did.  

For me though, it wouldn't make much difference now because my wife made me throw away all my pictures of the women I met in Cali.  She's very jealous.

I'm remembering my first trip to Colombia (Bogota) in 1999.  To me Bogota is an unattractive city.  When I got there the first night I thought I was going to hate it.  The second day I was thinking about changing my flight to return early to the US.  Then I started meeting the women and I wanted to extend my stay.

I realized afterwards that a vacation in what I regard as an ugly, dangerous, boring city was the best vacation I ever had because I was meeting beautiful women that wanted to spend time with me.

Steve

[DOMINGUIN]

... in response to Colombia dreaming, posted by DallasSteve2 on May 13, 2003


Steve: I'm actually looking forward to Bogota and the women seem to be physically stunning.  I'm originally from New York City and lived in Manhattan until I was 28. I've vacationed and stayed at least a week each in Paris, London, Beijing, Hong Kong, Prague, San Francisco, Washington DC, and New York. Actually a big city vacation with walking, some shopping, museums, art galleries, and good food is my favorite kind of vacation.  As long as I'm safe and meeting beautiful women, this will hopefully be a memorable vacation.  Dominguin

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Meeting women in their m..., posted by DOMINGUIN on May 13, 2003

Dominguin

I bought a membership at Latin Internet, which I now regret.  It was about $300 and then I had to pay $50 a night for a room.  The reason I did it was because I wanted to stay in a tropical, outdoorsy setting.  If you look at their website that is what you will see.  It is a large house with a pool and fairly large grounds.  Very nice.

The problem is it is located in the south of Cali away from where most of the women live.  So it is harder to get them to make appointments and you have more "no shows".  Then I switched to All Colombian Girls in the center of Cali and I liked it better.  I paid about $50 a day for the large bedroom at ACG with introductions included.  I liked staying there and I like Ricardo, the owner.  He also has a modeling agency and there are always "babes" hanging around.

I'm told the going rate at a Cali agency is about $100 a week for introduction services.  If you want a room that is extra, maybe $40 a day.  You can find some decent apartahotels for about $25 or $30 a day.  I think business is still way off in the agencies so you can probably get good deals right now.  I never dealt with Odee.  I think maybe Iswote did.  Maybe he will post about them.

Steve

[Kit]

... in response to Meeting women in their mid 30s, posted by DOMINGUIN on May 13, 2003

I can only speak for the agencies in Cali. Great majority of the gals in there are below 30. In fact you will have a hard time finding mid 30 woman out there. In Cali I recommend LatinBest as it appears to have the largest collection of post 30's ladies.

[DOMINGUIN]

... in response to Re: Meeting women in their mid 30s, posted by Kit on May 13, 2003

Kit, thanks for your response.  Did you use Latin Best and if so, what sort of experience did you have? I am curious about the service that the agency provided.  Did you stay there and if so, were the acoomodations ocmfortable?  did they make a sustained effort to secure meetings for you?  Did a high percentage of your choices show up for meetings? Was there an effort to treat you as a friend by the agency staff?