sweetness factor

[chevy]

A woman I wrote to, 33 years old, called me the other day on her cell phone. We chatted a few minutes and I had to leave and I called her the next night and we talked for about an hour. She seemed very sweet. She says she is looking for men not from her country because she thinks most are "machistas" and she has been hurt by them.
 She also knows some women who are married to american men. She is from panama and the women she knows are married to ex-G.I.'s.
  Anyway it was a great conversation and at the close of it she said
"bye darling" in a nice innocent way. I am not used to having heard such affectionate words from a woman and especially so soon.
 I am wondering if this is the way they are( quick to express their feelings) or should I be extra cautious with her. I know, I sound paranoid.

 

[cali outlaw]

... in response to sweetness factor, posted by chevy on Apr 8, 2003

No worries my fiend, Latins are very friendly and lovong without a physical atraction, sos about spelling, run with it, good luck, Andy

[wizard]

... in response to sweetness factor, posted by chevy on Apr 8, 2003

I don't know what part of the country you're from, but in the south we call everybody "darlin'"...

Don't over-analyze... If it feels good, do it...

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: sweetness factor, posted by wizard on Apr 8, 2003

You don't have to call me darlin, darlin, but you never even call me by my name

[Cali vet]

... in response to sweetness factor, posted by chevy on Apr 8, 2003

I wouldn't worry about the terminology she uses. If you enjoy the conversations just see where it goes. If she doesn't know the language well she may not even realize what "bye darling" means to us.

[Kit]

... in response to sweetness factor, posted by chevy on Apr 8, 2003

I find girls in LA are quite nice and easy going. So it is not uncommon for them to say sweet things. Also if she spoke enlish then it may have something to do with the language proficiency. It works the other way too. I spoke to one of the chicas in Colombia on the phone yesterday and said to her that I was excited to go back (to Colombia). She loughed because there is this word "excited" in Spanish too but it means physical excitement like the one you have when you make love. So what you think you are expressing and how they understand it may differ.

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: sweetness factor, posted by Kit on Apr 8, 2003

Made that exact mistake myself once. When she quit laughing she asked if I realized what I had said. I said "Yes, I'm excited that we're going to finaly be together next week." She said " 'Excitado' is what a stalion is when he finds a mare in season. I'm sure the word you MEANT to say is 'entusiasmado' ."

Is that a gun in your pocket? Or are you just glad to see me? --Mae West

[Georgina]

... in response to Re: sweetness factor, posted by Kit on Apr 8, 2003

I remember how much I laughed when my husband told my mother in Spanish how excited he was to see her.

[Texman]

... in response to Re: sweetness factor, posted by Kit on Apr 8, 2003

This is a great point.  A lot of the time the women you talk to will try to throw in an endearing term in English - but not knowing the language, it may come across as too endearing for the circumstance or the length of time you have known each other.  As you said, this can go both ways!  When I first started talking to my wife, she started using “sweetie” and “honey” very early on.  Later in the relationship, we talked about this, and her response was that she had heard men and women use it in the (American) movies she watched when they were “more than friends”.  I would just shrug it off and consider yourself lucky that you found a sweet girl who tries a personal term of affection for someone who has grown past the "just friends" stage.