Some thoughts...

[Aaron]

This day of arguing with others, except for the points made by Brazilophile which I will agree with partially, has made me realize allot.

I don't have time for any of this. My doctoral committee wants my dissertation done by the end of Fall. I have 3 current job offers starting in the Winter.

I'm planning two trips to Colombia this year, the tickets are paid for.

Two good friends want to introduce me to some nice ladies there, and other lady friends are waiting for me to visit.

Then, there's the issue of considering of buying a house next year. Which neighborhood, which school district, etc. etc. etc.?  

Then there are other things that I would like to do.

In other words, who cares what people think. I really don't have time for it.

So, I guess I'll just forget about this board for a while, and take care of my own business.

Adios,
Aaron

[Hiker]

... in response to Some thoughts..., posted by Aaron on Mar 18, 2003

Are you the same person who said the following:

and I quote

"What annoys me sometimes is that others start to bicker, and are egotisitcall;"

You are amazing.

[Edge]

... in response to Some thoughts..., posted by Aaron on Mar 18, 2003

Aaron - Believe me I have nothing against you and you can take my advice or leave it.  You may have learning with all your studies but you need to seek wisdom and then maybe the recognition you crave will come.  Right now you seem to be so full of yourself and by trying to draw attention to your years of education etc, etc. you achieve just the opposite of what you seek.  It is good to be proud of accomplishments but you can turn people off with bragging about yourself.  Better to let people talk about you then you talk about yourself.  You can impress more through good actions and words of wisdom than trying to come off as a know if all because people can see right through it and see the motive.

Try to not be so rigid in your idealogy and perhaps more open to others and their experiences.

The greater you are the more you need to behave humbly and then you will find favor.

A person in a ruling or leading position is going to need to humble themselves and serve.  "To rule truly a person must serve" and place themselves beneath others, then no blame will come your way.  Good advice for husbands and those who seek to become one.

Good luck.  You seem to have a good head on your shoulders so seek wisdom instead of learning.

[Aaron]

... in response to Re: Some thoughts..., posted by Edge on Mar 19, 2003

Edge,

I'm not disagreeing with you here. I totally agree. But, I had to make that smart-azz comment.

Opps, I have to go teach my class. Intro to Edpsych with 45 undergrads.

Chao,
Aaron

[A1A]

... in response to Some thoughts..., posted by Aaron on Mar 18, 2003

Aaron, I hope you enjoy your trip to Cali next month.  I'll be heading back to Guadalajara next month too.  Good luck with the women.  This quest we are all on, is about personal preference. You chose Cali, some choose Bogota, or Brazil, or in my case Mexico.  We all need a thick skin here sometimes, one mis-statement and hell breaks loose.  I hope you will give us a trip report when you get back, I enjoy reading your posts.
A1A

[Pete E]

... in response to Some thoughts..., posted by Aaron on Mar 18, 2003

Aaron,
I was noticing you have posted alot lately.When I do that some time I ask myself what am I avoiding while spending time on this.Its usually some task I don't want to do right now.
Sounds like frustration realizing the time you spent.And not getting to a point of agreement.
My suggestion.Don't go away.Follow the board and post if it seems important.It doesn't have to take anything like the time you have spent recently.
Besides,I would miss your imput.And you would miss us.

Pete

[Aaron]

... in response to Don't go away frustrated, posted by Pete E on Mar 18, 2003

Thanks.

Aaron

[Brazilophile]

... in response to Don't go away frustrated, posted by Pete E on Mar 18, 2003

Those are nice sentiments, Pete.  You are being more generous than I would be.  

After reading the exchange that so disappointed him, I came away wondering what Aaron's problem is and why he behaves with such immaturity.  I can't believe that he is like that with the women he meets in Colombia and other countries because I know they wouldn't put up with it.

As someone who has completed a dissertation I believe Aaron is making the best decision by focusing on completing his PhD, deciding which job offer to accept, and choosing the best housing option for himself.  The student life has a way of shielding one from the reality of everyday life.  One Aaron starts his profession fulltime next year, he may change his attitude towards this list and the task of searching for a wife.  

PS  When a man works 60 hours a week Monday through Saturday he learns not to complain about a sexually open woman waiting for him at home. LOL

[Aaron]

... in response to Re: Don't go away frustrated, posted by Brazilophile on Mar 18, 2003

Please tell me what I did that was so immature?

I mispoke about the current state of the AIDS epidemic that Brazil once had. And I accepted that yesterday in response to your post. Did you read it?

I responded to Yalg the way that I did because he hasn't stopped arguing with people since he became a member. Have you noticed that?

As far as claiming that I'm immature, you have no grounds to walk on.  

Yes, I know what my most current tasks will be with regard to my career, which is the most important thing for me at this time, far and above finding a wife.

However, as I have always been taught, and have seen from other loved ones who've gone through the dance,...the partner a person picks can make or break them. So, given that, I'm going to pick a partner from a culture that I feel comfortable with, and will likely have the same attitudes that I have regarding sex and other issues.

If you think I'm going to take risks by just exploring places for the hell of it to search for a wife, then you're mistaken. I'm sticking in my comfort zone, and I am very comfortable with Colombian women I've met.

Aaron

[Yalg]

... in response to Hold it Brazilophile..., posted by Aaron on Mar 19, 2003

I never wanted to argue with you but you want to continue to use me as your scapegoat because you were roundly bashed for your uninformed statements.  Fine, use me because I can take the heat, such as it is.  You took exception when i called you on your post and YOU took it personally. Then you whine to the board about your education and how you are going to go away and some of the guys decided to wet nurse you.  Good, hope you feel better now.  

Just because a person disagrees with you and has the experience and knowledge to back it up does not mean your an idiot.  You said some silly things but now I am sure you have thought better of it so let it go and so will I.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Don't go away frustrated, posted by Brazilophile on Mar 18, 2003

I didn't read all of the posts you guys did.I got the flavor of it and stopped.I think Aaron believes a Colombiana is more likely to have the values he is looking for.And that for him is probably true.And you can have your prefferences also,and you guys don't need to make the other ones choice wrong."Whats better" can be different for each of you,and the discussion goes south when someone starts knocking the place or women another guy likes.I have some of his same ideas about Ladies from Brazil but I will admit I really don't know and its just a reputation I have heard,which might be very inaccurate.

Pete

[Jersey Mike]

... in response to Re: Re: Don't go away frustrated, posted by Pete E on Mar 18, 2003

Pete,
I didn't post below, but I know that Aaron made some pretty offensive generalizations regarding Brazilians (despite having never traveled to the country and with personal acquaintance with only one brazilian).  My brazilian girlfriend cringes at the stereotypical image of her country as it it portrayed, particularly in our media.  (Of course, the Hollywood and the media would NEVER sensationalize sex for the sake of mere titillation or ratings!)  It's just like acusing all Colombians of being drug dealers and trafficers - it's an offensive generalization attributed to many by the actions of a relative few.

Personally, I love latinas from both countries and have met many brasilieras and colombianas here in the NYC/NJ area over the years.  And they cover the full spectrum with regard to sexual modesty to promiscuity.  (Personally, I kind of wish my girlfriend was a little bit wilder! LOL)

Aaron said below that he has been seeking a colombian wife since 1998.  Perhaps if he loosens up a bit on the rigidity of his opinions, he will have a bit more success with latinas.  Or maybe he should try Brazil!