Gentlemen, I need your help.

[AtlNat]

OK, I am considering marriage to a very beautiful and intelligent girl from Cali. The Fiance Visa packet is on its way to her from the embassy in Bogota. We telephone and email each other several times a week.
 Now here is where I need your help. My family has taken the news well for the most part. The general consensus is becoming, "make sure you ask her the hard questions." To which I say "sure thing."
  OK, what are the "hard questions?"  Any assistance would be greatly appreciated.
 I have asked
  1. What are your plans once you come to Atlanta?
  2. Where do you want to be in 10 years?
  3. If you had 75 million pesos what would you do with it?
  4. How many children do you want to have?
  5. When do you want to start having children?
             
  Atlanta Native

[Hiker]

... in response to Gentlemen, I need your help., posted by AtlNat on Mar 2, 2003

That sounds too much like a job interview to me.  Reach down inside of yourself and find out if you truly believe that she loves you.  If the answer is yes then you already know that the answer to number 2 "is with you".  When it is all said and done that is all that matters.

[valuedcustomer]

... in response to Gentlemen, I need your help., posted by AtlNat on Mar 2, 2003

I am surprised you didn't ask the question "Do you love me?".   That seems more important to me than how she would spend a given amount of pesos.  It sounds like a question from one of those corny American dating shows.  For other questions, buy the book "Are you the one for me?" by Barbara De Angelis.  The book contains several hundred important questions to ask on different subjects.

[mudd]

... in response to Gentlemen, I need your help., posted by AtlNat on Mar 2, 2003

you also forgot "what if i lose my job" 2 do you want to work, or stay home with the children" 3 where will the money go, retirement, family in colombia, your family? 4 how often will she or both of you visit her family in colombia. who will come first, you, or her family, and will any of her family members try to come to the USA and live with you, brothers, sisters, mother, father ext.
5 if she gets a job, will she help out with household bills, or will she send all her money to her family in colombia.

[surfscum]

... in response to Gentlemen, I need your help., posted by AtlNat on Mar 2, 2003

Assuming you both want kids, the big question is not how many, but how do you want to raise them? With what values, religion, family traditions, etc?  Try to give her specific examples and ask her how she would handle the situation.  There's no right answer to an open-ended question, but you'll something about her and what's important to her.