Sorry about, had to grab another ice cold Poker, catch a rerun of Law & Order….
So to boil it down, my ex basically was of the opinion that:
1. She would never do anything she did not want to do (work, housework, cook, etc.). In a year she cooked dinner maybe 10-15 times.
2. There is no such thing as appropriate behavior or attire, respect for herself, me and our marriage (“I don’t care if it’s a black tie event, I’ll wear my tight jeans and tiny top if I want to; I’ll fight with you in public if I want. Always a good one because there were always many willing men to come to help this little dove).
3. There is no need to discipline a child; the only true need is love. I.e. I just hate to hear him cry and will do anything so he doesn’t.
Now, I’m sure you’re wondering if you knew all these things why get married. Makes sense, but lies were told and until I actually did not find these little gems out until after having married her and living together. She was all too happy to go along with what I said during the courtship, although to be fair there were some arguments/discussions re: this issues during the courtship. My ex says she loves me, and that I believe, it’s just that her idea of love and mine are completely different. We had discussions, heart to hearts, coming to Jesus, etc.. Nothing seems to work and although frequent promises are made, I have to be adult enough to understand and accept the way she is. No longer am I looking to change her to be the devoted attentive wife I wanted. She is as she was raised, spoiled and taken out of her home at the age of 16 by a filthy rich man who accustomed her to 1-2 million pesos shopping sprees each weekend, along with empleada, driver, stylists... I think you get the picture, up until a year before we met. I learned much from my travels here to Cali, but I learned more about the culture of Calena’s in these 5 months of living here than I did in the 13+ years of traveling here. There are certainly wonderful, loving and affectionate women to be found here, but there are also beautiful women who are very opportunistic and are looking for the next “Bobo”. In regards to her/my son, we came to an agreement, after many arguments, that our little boy did need lots of love, structure, discipline, boundaries and consistency. It took us about a month of what seemed endless crying and tantrums, but he is now a wonderful, happy and obedient child. Her family and friends are amazed at what a wonderful little caballero he is. Next time, I will not focus so much on the eye-candy aspect, and spend more time getting to know her, her family and friends… that was my huge downfall along with my Achilles heal of beautiful women. That said, I love this place with beautiful women and a kick back lifestyle. There are good partners to be found here, good luck to all.
-Thundernco
