Newbie Question

[Hiker]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Newbie Question, posted by coolamigo on Feb 20, 2003

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Cool,
I think some others on this board will agree with me in saying, be careful at the big intro parties.  I am sure some great girls attend these, but I am also positive that some girls attend these that you do not want to meet.

There are some agencies that you want to avoid in Cali, but for the most part I think you will find pros and cons among the others.

It might be all in my mind but personally I think I met a higher caliber of woman at Luz Amparos (Latin Best).  By higher caliber I don't specifically mean more class, more sophisticated, etc.  I felt I was speaking with a more mature and solid individual.  You do not have much freedom when staying there, so I would buy the week membership once you arrive there but stay somewhere else.

I did not use the services of Latin Encounters, but several friends did.  They were very impressed with the quality of service and the girls they met.  It is in a good location also.

All Colombian Girls is a good place to stay.  A lot of freedom.  Air conditioned rooms.  Sweet young beautiful girls.  100's of girls from 24 down but very little to choose from older than 24.

Latin Women Connection - Staying in their condo is a good deal.  The maid is great.  She washes your clothes daily.  She will cook your breakfast if you buy the stuff.  It is two blocks from Latin Best.  You have complete freedom here.
The agency ....  ahhhh I guess you should check it out if you are staying at the condo because it is free while you are staying there.

[Michael B]

... in response to Newbie Question, posted by rob4050 on Feb 19, 2003

1) ANY amount helps, they are flattered that you make the effort to try...if you try, they will help you, not just your GF, but everybody, the general public (hey, we're talking  Latinos here, not French).

2) Time for a non-traveling position. The transition is extreemly hard on the woman, no matter that she has the best intentions, she's going to be lonely, homesick and even somewhat freightened, particularly if her English is weak---you need to be there for her, EVERY day. Of course, you don't have to quit traveling right away, but by the time she arrives, you should be able to line up something that doesn't require travel.

[rob4050]

... in response to Re: Newbie Question, posted by Michael B on Feb 19, 2003

Thanks for the candor! I remember an episode where I was trying my French and you are totally right. It sort of made me gunshy.

Regarding the travel, that was what I expected. Perhaps it is time to cut the jetsetting anyway. My worst nightmare is to be running through an airport in a rumpled suit on a Friday night trying to get home!

[wizard]

... in response to Re: Re: Newbie Question, posted by rob4050 on Feb 19, 2003

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Having retired my membership in the IBRT (International Brotherhood of Road Trash) a few months ago, I can empathize with your dilemma... I used to travel over 200 days a year working in the IT industry and it was definitely a contributing factor in the demise of my last LTR... Travelling is cool for awhile, but doing the OJ thing through airports gets old after awhile...

I have to agree with Michael in that your new bride will require your presence for support... She will be in strange country with no friends or family... The latin culture is very different that in the US, in that they always have many friends and family for support... Once here, YOU will have to replace this support structure... You're planning a life changing commitment, don't do it half way...

The Pimsleur language courses are the best... I have tried other self-study courses, classes and tutors, but the Pimsleur courses teach you Espanol in a manner that is conducive to learning the basics first, then building your vocabulary... My novia noticed the difference in my Espanol skills immediately... The learning curve is steep at first, then you hit a plateau where it begins to come easily... My novia is now my "private" tutor... )

Buen Suerte

wizard

[rob4050]

... in response to I concur..., posted by wizard on Feb 19, 2003

Hi Wizard. Thanks for the advice. I read in the PL archives that we have to win these women's affection and love every day. Good advice for any relationship I think.

I look forward to the time when I can get some private tutoring myself, but that is a ways down the road, well, not too long I hope!

Rob

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Newbie Question, posted by Michael B on Feb 19, 2003

Rob

My boss asked me to take an overnight trip last month and my wife was very upset about it.  When he asked again I turned him down.  I think my wife is being a little unreasonable, but he's not paying me enough to make me want to travel anyway.  I can find another job if he doesn't like it.

Not every Colombiana will have a problem with some time apart, but mine does.  She is very jealous and seems to miss me a lot when I am not there.

If your future wife likes to travel and you like your job, maybe your company will pay for her to travel with you.  In our case that's not very practical because she has children in school here.

Anyway, you're probably at least 6 months away from worrying about making that decision.

Steve

[rob4050]

... in response to Travel, posted by DallasSteve2 on Feb 19, 2003

Thanks Steve!

There is a chance that I could travel with her, but that is later. Maybe it's time to hang up the frequent trips anyway. It probably contributed to the death of my first marriage.

Rob