Novia wants me to pay for English Lesons

[elcolombiano]

I plan to pick up my Novia in late Feb or March in Cali. She wants to take english lessons in Cali. She wants me to pay 150,000 pesos for this ($50). She said she has spent 8 million pesos in the last year even though she lives with her parents. She says she spent a lot of money on "massages" to reduce her waist size. I am concerned that this women does not know how to manage money. She seprated from her husband a year and a half ago and recently got her divorce. She has not worked in 6 years because the rich x husband did not want her to work and gave her 1-2 million pesos a month to pay for her personal expenses. She claims she wants to sell her car for 20 million pesos and buy a cheaper car and a truck with this money to rent out for income. How can you buy both a car and a truck that is reliable for 20 million pessos?  This make no sense to me. She is a lawyer, if she needs money, why does she not work?

[Pete E]

... in response to Novia wants me to pay for English Lesons, posted by elcolombiano on Jan 17, 2003

The english lessons sound reasonable and may be the least of your problems.Sounds like this girl is used to spending lots of money.8,000,000 pesos in a year is 667,000 a month or about $240.A family can live on this pretty well in Cali.
My wife told me about those "messages " to lose weight,absolute nonsense but they believe it.Reminds me of the old vibrator belts they used to have in gyms in the US.If they did anything at all it was temporary.
Yes,you can buy an older truck or car for about 10,000,000 pesos,so she could get both for 20,000,000.Renting them sounds like a risky business but who knows,maybe she is on to something.I paid about $50 a day to rent a car in Cali.Thats too much when taxi fare is so cheap.
The number of real lawyers and dentists is a whole lot less than girls who say they are.Usually they may have worked as an assistant.It sounds like this girl is not in to work even if she were a lawyer,and even if she were it doesn't  mean she could get a job paying much money.
I would also worry a little that the ex with the money(good possibilty its was crime related)would be unhappy about his ex finding a new guy.It only costs $100 - $200 for a hit in Colombia.
I presume she has some compensating charms here,but thats not so hard to come by,it can be had with less baggage it seems.This girl is probably real appealing compared to what you can get in the US,but if you shop around you might be surprised to find you could do better on a girl with less baggage.Somebody already spoiled her.Thats usually what we try to get away from by going south.I would proceed cautiously.

Pete

[elcolombiano]

... in response to Re: Novia wants me to pay for English Le..., posted by Pete E on Jan 17, 2003

I realy believe she is a lawyer because of her diplomas I saw on the walls of her apartment and the jobs she has had and the my cousin in Cali who is lawyer talked to her about her education and work background. You are right about the messages only being temporary. I saw swim suit pictures of her while she was having the masages and she deffinetly had a smaller waist than now. I plan to have the x investigated to find out what kind of guy he is. I met about 30 girls durring my stay in Cali. Out of the group that liked me I liked her the best. You are right that one of the reasons we go south is to avoid the spoiled girls.

[Kit]

... in response to Novia wants me to pay for English Lesons, posted by elcolombiano on Jan 17, 2003

I wouldnt keep this one. High maintenance, demanding women are not on my wish list.

[wizard]

... in response to Novia wants me to pay for English Lesons, posted by elcolombiano on Jan 17, 2003

[This message has been edited by wizard]

elcolombiano,

It appears that you want the forum members to validate your suspicions about your novia... From this post and your previous posts you obviously have some doubts about whether it's going to work... You really haven't said much that is positive about this woman... Although she probably has some good qualities, you post about the red flags you perceive...

At the end of the day, all that matters is whether YOU will be happy with this woman... If you like high maintenance, attractive women, then there is a price to pay... Only you can decide if she is worth the price you will pay, both monetarily and emotionally...

Buena Suerte...

wizard

[elcolombiano]

... in response to Confirmation..., posted by wizard on Jan 17, 2003

She is well educated, classy a lot of fun to be with and very pretty with a great figure. I do not have a lot in common with a strata 2-3 girl. I can't take her to the opera and expect her to enjoy it.

[mudd]

... in response to Confirmation..., posted by wizard on Jan 17, 2003

Aint it the truth, but i dont see him leaving her any time soon, probably a really hot looking colombian, but like you said, their is a price to pay, and im sure he's going to pay it.

[markxport]

... in response to Confirmation..., posted by wizard on Jan 17, 2003

Definitely agree with the first two paragraphs.

Take care,

Mark

[H2Oh]

... in response to Novia wants me to pay for English Lesons, posted by elcolombiano on Jan 17, 2003

Most Colombiana's don't know how to manage money because they have never had money to manage. I think based on what you are telling us, you have a chica with problems. Move on and find another lady. You'll save yourself alot of heartache.

My .02 cent

[mudd]

... in response to Novia wants me to pay for English Lesons, posted by elcolombiano on Jan 17, 2003

Isnt this the same girl who you questioned about her rich lifestyle and you were worried about her adjusting to your spending habbits and lifestyle? dude, i hope you make a lot of money, because she is going to bleed you dry! my girlfriend has always paid for everything for me when i visited her, and she is also taking english classes now and she payed for that also. its just my opinion, but unless you make some good money, your in for a long and bumpy ride. hope its worth it, because i think if the money is such an issue, then its a good judgement about her character as to whats most important , money or love. i hope at least you did the K1 instead of a spousal visa. good luck.

[elcolombiano]

... in response to Re: Novia wants me to pay for English Le..., posted by mudd on Jan 17, 2003

Its the same girl. I love her. She has a tourist VISA that is good for 5 years and allows visits upto 6 months. I make a decent salary
but am deffinetly not rich. She has told me she is willing to work. I have some business ideas for her and she is investigating them.

[mudd]

... in response to Re: Re: Novia wants me to pay for Englis..., posted by elcolombiano on Jan 18, 2003

its good that she has a tourist visa, but i think she will need some paperwork done to work on a tourist visa here, if that is your plan. is she comming here on the tourist, or a k1? i am happy that you love her, and i hope she feels the same way about you, but make sure that she doesnt get too involved in her job here, making a good living for herself, and decides that she doesnt need you anymore, since she will be established with money,a good job and a visa. i guess you will find out if she is comming here for a job and money, or for love. good luck dude :-)

[in bogota]

... in response to Re: Novia wants me to pay for English Le..., posted by mudd on Jan 17, 2003

mudd, very good observation and opinion.

[valuedcustomer]

... in response to Novia wants me to pay for English Lesons, posted by elcolombiano on Jan 17, 2003


That's really cheap.  In Bogota, a good school will run $100 a month.  What does the $50 buy and what kind of school is it?

[elcolombiano]

... in response to Re: Novia wants me to pay for English Le..., posted by valuedcustomer on Jan 17, 2003

She told me two hours per day m 5 days per week. She did not tell me for how long.