If you could...

[Andean Condor]

If you could go back in time, and begin searching for a latina soulmate from a young age (the key being here- no strings attached) would you do it? How would you go about it?  See, I'm a relatively young feller on this here board compared with the majority of posters that I read about...  So I have the opportunity to *not* be settled down, and can travel freely (for as long as my poor @ss lets me; although, I don't need a lot of money to travel comfortably)  

The thing is, I have read of men here shirking wonderful opportunities with AW in the past (when they were younger), and now regretting it, as well as looking down south.  I, too, have screwed up what could have been an amazing relationship with an AW, and am wondering if I should begin my search down south, as there seems to be little in the way of good AW left that I click with.  If you could do it all over again, and were in my shoes, would you still go for that Latin beauty, or would you have made things right with that one AW who slipped away?  I *know* that there are both types of men on this forum, and I would appreciate you wiser gents helping out a younger guy in this regard...

Much obliged!

-Andean Condor

[ChrisNJ]

... in response to If you could..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 4, 2003

n/t

[Andean Condor]

... in response to 25...You're too young to marry...n/t, posted by ChrisNJ on Jan 4, 2003

..but that's a toughie to say one way or the other, since you do not know me, or anything about me.  I appreciate the stance though; maybe if you could be a bit more specific as to why you think I'm too young?  Is it wrong for someone 25 to want to find his soulmate and settle down?  I think not...  In fact, I was extremely close a year and a half ago.  

-Andean Condor

[ChrisNJ]

... in response to Maybe..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 5, 2003

I'm just passing through on my way to Siberia.
WHOOPS...Wrong turn.

Hey...if you feel your ready.  Go for it.

Happy Russian Christmas

[papa suave]

... in response to If you could..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 4, 2003

By the way, this is a great conversation piece

Cheers,

smooth potato

[papa suave]

... in response to If you could..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 4, 2003

Well, I'll tell you. I was stationed in Panama between ages 18-21. I also had the opportunity to see a good deal of Central and South America to incluse Colombia. It was a great 3 years, lots of sexo, lots of muchachas. In fact, I was the only single guy of all my friends who stayed single after a tour in Panama whether the wives came from Panama, Colombia, Venezuela or Ecuador. I do have some regrets now, I did have a couple great girls who would have made great wives. Honestly at the time, I didn't feel ready to settle down. My 3 years in Panama sort of ruined AW for me. I just don't really find myself attracted to many AW that I see around. I knew I wanted a latina from a very early age. Don't get me wrong, I'm still young, but it doesn't make the search any less frustrating.

[corv]

... in response to If you could..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 4, 2003

I guess I could be considered on the younger side of this board, 28. I have messed up, in my years, 3 or 4  relationships with AW. Relationships I know were with very good women and who would have made great wifes. But I knit picked, this one didn't cook, that one didn't have sex enough, and mostly I still wanted to be free. I regret now the mistakes I made with these women. AW are best when picked young and unspoiled. I'm getting to a age were those women are not around for me anymore. I love the look and values of latinas. But by living in a semi-spanish community I am a realist and can see what happens to alot of the  latinas that come to the states some quickly transform into AW. No offense to older guys on this board, but don't know how older guys can keep up with there much younger wifes/girlfriends. I would feel a bit like I was taking there youth from them. I hope they don't trick themselves into believing these young women don't enjoy going out or being with friends. That is another reason why I feel I need to go south now so that we would still be able to enjoy many of the same things. With that said I still wouldn't date a women younger than 21. I have dated a few Spanish women and you will always miss the little things about AW, there knowing certain movies or songs ect. P.S. Condor, I am always looking to go south with guys that still like to party some(of course still get our mission accomplished) and hate going solo. So if you want let me know.

[colman]

... in response to I say go soth now young man..., posted by corv on Jan 4, 2003

As a fellow 28 yr. old I agree and have the same realistic expectations as you do--good realistic post--God Bless--Colman

[Andean Condor]

... in response to I say go soth now young man..., posted by corv on Jan 4, 2003

It would be interesting to travel down south with someone, as I've always thought that this type of journey seems to be a solo mission.  That said, I have nothing against hanging out and testing the waters with a companero.  One thing that I know for sure however... If I go south, I do not think that I would go the agency route.  I'm a little too young and idealistic and believe in finding my one true love in the heat of moment.  I have my eyes on Colombia, Ecuador (Guayaquil region), and Peru.  If you want, you can contact me at andeancondor@hotmail...  Condor out!

-Andean Condor

[papa suave]

... in response to I say go soth now young man..., posted by corv on Jan 4, 2003

but haven't you noticed that the women are getting spoiled at younger and younger ages? or is it just my imagination?

[anzo]

... in response to If you could..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 4, 2003

Of course some good/great AWs slipped away, or I drove them away. I'm 46 and have had more than my share of attractive/intelligent ladies in the U.S. But I really don't think that I would have given up everything that has happened to me in the world of romance in the past 20 years to be hooked up with any one of them. And hooking up permanently with any of them would have meant I'd have never met the subsequent ones. Or be here now. And of course I'd have been with the same woman, theoretically, for a long time now, and she would now be in her 40's, with a very long time yet to go. I dunno; I always figured I'd get married young, but the events leading me here I wouldn't trade. As for the Latinas, they are like a fresh new (and much younger! :  )) breeze and now that I've made (hopefully) most of my romantic mistakes, it is an opportunity to start over that I wouldn't miss. And the differences in language, culture, etc for me are more reasons to go in this direction. Having been married to a Russian for 7 years, helping her with the cultural adjustments and learning about her culture and background was very rewarding. So travel, look around, meet people, don't "settle for", and don't chase happiness.
Regards,
Anzo

[mudd]

... in response to If you could..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 4, 2003

if i were in your shoes, i would do both, look here and down south. dating a girl who is from the USA, who speaks english, knows how everything here is and what is what, is a lot easier than dating a girl from a diffrent country, who has no idea of what to expect, what to do, and if she doesnt speak english, what to say.the "trick" about dating a girl from here is finding one that you can trust, who is not spoiled and would be a good wife and mother, (same applies down south) a lot of men on here blame all the american women for their troubles, but sometimes you have to look in the mirror, and see if maybe, your not part of the problem. weird personality, not much to look at, fat and over weight. in short, men go where they think they can do better than their home country, but a man with good looks, good personality and something to offer to a relationship can find a girl anywhere, here in the USA or in another country.

[lswote]

... in response to If you could..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 4, 2003

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I am 49 now, but when I was younger, American women were not that much different than I find Latin women to be now.  The biggest difference I see in Latin women is that I have a shot with younger Latin women where I have no opportunity with young American women anymore and Latin women are programmed to value family whereas American women as they get older get so independent they stop working of the little things that keep a family and marriage alive.  My ex-wife is an American, a native Texan to be exact, and she was a good wife when she was young but as she got older and the kids got older she had so many activities of her own she was never around anymore.

I worry that my soon-to-be Latin wife will become Americanized and fall into the same pitfalls that my ex-wife did, but I am told that most Latins over 30 never really become Americanized (my fiancee is 32) so I hope that won't happen.

I don't see any great advantage of Latin women over young American women (or at least the American women who were young when I was young 20 years ago) and there are many disadvantages like language, culture and the cost of wooing and marrying a Latin woman.  And if I had married a Latin woman when we both were young, say 20-25, then she might have become Americanized and perhaps had the same problems my ex-wife had.

In a nutshell, no I wouldn't marry a Latin wife if I was a young man and could marry a young American woman (at least if the young women were like they were when I was young, maybe they have changed).

[Hiker]

... in response to If you could..., posted by Andean Condor on Jan 4, 2003

Condor, If I had a time machine I would start in Latin America.  To be honest the primary reason is that I am more attracted to the physical attributes of a latin woman.  I think it is very funny to read the post on here about the "evil" American woman.  A woman is a woman regardless of where you go.  An American woman is more apt to be selfish and need to be in control maybe, but at the same time many latin women I have met can lie to you all day and never blink an eye.  I don't like to generalize, but I think with most things in life there are rules and exceptions to the rules.  An example of this is going to a party.  You walk in and see an American girl and often it is difficult to know just who she is there with.  Often you go to that same party and see a latin girl and it seems she wants everyone to know "I am with him!".  I like this and I like the warmth of a latin girl, but the fact is with the right amount of searching you can find that same thing right here at home.  

Another thing to consider is the age of girl you would be bringing over.  It is highly likely she will become very americanized and after a couple of years could possibly not be the same person you met.

I have been all over Mexico and several times to South America.  I like the culture, people, food, and the friendships I have made, but people are people.  I am marrying a girl in Cali the last week of March.  I would not trade her for every woman in America, but this has nothing to do with her being Colombian or latin, and American women being evil.  It is simply because she happens to be the woman I am in love with.