... in response to Well, you asked..., posted by wizard on Dec 27, 2002Mr. Wizard,
First and foremost, no disrespect regarding the "old yard dogs" phrase, but admittedly, most everyone here has more time, and more experience regarding a lot of the items discussed, so if anything, it was ACTUALLY a COMPLIMENT! Albeit, I probably could have picked a better adjective - how about "BIG DOGS on the porch!" .... '-)
And as for the open minded debates,....likewise! Hence why I asked for your feedback, and insight.
You know, Einstein was quoted:
"If I have seen farther than others, it is because I was standing on the shoulders of giants."
-Albert Einstein (1879-1955)
You my friend, are one of those giants!
He also said: "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."
-Albert Einstein (1879-1955)
I would like to take you to task and ask that you consider something new, or something different to try in your quest to find your new "Mrs. Wizard".
I know that I'm going to get some flack from some of my post(s) here on the forum, but for me it's not what I shouldn't do, but more about what I'm willing to try.
Your points about my safe, etc., once in country are VERY WELL RECEIVED, and GREATLY APPRECIATED!
As for the picture being painted, expectations being set, etc. I've always had this saying, and phrase that has served me well: "It's not what you have, but what, and how you sell it."
Yeah, I dig her, and I'm hopeful that there is some chemistry between us once, and if, we do meet, but at the end of the day, for me, I'd rather try and fail, then to have not tired at all.
I'm not so much concerned about materialism, and some of the other things that are often discussed here on the forum because I think we're ALL kidding ourselves if we don't face the reality that this is apart of what all of these women seek, desire, and apart of their objectives and goals. A BETTER LIFE (wholelistically). Although WE (AM) probably don't/won't want to admit it to ourselves, we all have motives. It's what drives us to do the things we do. That's just a FACT of LIFE.
And what about us (AM) guys? What's our expectations? With catch phrases, and talk from the ladies like:
-home loving
-sincere/honest
-polite
-faithful
-the list goes on....
What are we (AM) seeking to find? For most, they want some fine ass chica (eye candy) thats going to clean up there sh!t, not going to give them a lot of sh!t about were they've been, and what they're doing. Some of us probably want a woman that's going to walk three steps behind them, and not speak until spoken to (although this trait is found more in the Asian women).
Come on Wizard, let's keep it real!!
ALL ROADS GO BOTH WAYS!
IMHO, these women wouldn't even attempt, or try to land an American if they weren't desperately seeking to improve their lives in some way, shape or form. And for me, I'm not painting the wrong picture, I'm just ensuring that the VERY FEW chicas that I choose to contact know, and understand that I'm an "Alpha Male". '-)
We're all the masters of our own universes and I can more then manage anyones expectations, especially in this situation. I can turn it on, or off as I see fit. I have that option, and that choice. And as for the sharks, if we ALL do our homework - we can more then handle, and smell them coming from miles away.
One last quote in closing:
"My God, these folks don't know how to love -- that's why they love so easily."
-D. H. Lawrence
As I posted in a reply to 'JunFan'; "My approach may seem a little foreign to the untrained eye, but I'm pretty confident at the end of the day that I'll be standing RIGHT where I want to be..."
I could go on further because I really enjoy the mental discussions, but I'm going to leave you, and the rest of the members with this: "What is it that you really seek?", and "What's your exit plan if you don't find it?" You don't have to answer these openly. I just want to keep your mind moving/thinking!
See you on the flip side, and as always, I really enjoyable chatting and discussing thoughts, concerns and ideas with you.
Best Wishes, and may you and those you love have a blessed New 2003 Year!
KIP
