The next stage

[cdrab]

Hey guys
So I went to the agencys,after a few trips found the girl, proposed, and now the date is fast approaching. Sitting here i am thinking about many ways I could of done things better, advise I was given that was good and bad. But over the last 2 years this board has been an incredible help, I have made many friends on this board and met some of the guys in person. Even helping guys who privately Email me gives me a feeling of putting somthing back into this adventure for the common good of us all. For all you guys out there that are starting this process you are lucky to have found this board.One thing I have seen is that in Colombia there is a girl for everyone(no kidding).

I guess I will soon no longer have the borders as a barrier seperating me and my future wife. I am patiently waiting for the day I will be waking up beside my partner. But after being divorced for a while I can't help but feel afraid, excited, and many other things about what is yet to come. As much as I like dreaming in the fairytale world I realize it is just that.
Moving into the next stage I feel like I am starting over again. What problems are going to arise,will she like the food, the weather,how do I deal with her being homesick, and many of the problems we face when we go down there will for her happen here.etc. etc.

When I look back, finding the girl was the easy part. Keeping the girl is going to be the challenge.
Wielding the passion and the tempers that these latin girls seem to have boiling below there skin is going to be a daily challenge.  I have to smile when I think of how a little misunderstanding to me can be one hell of a dilema to my girl. I have a lot of respect for the guys that have brought woman home and been able to keep the relationships flourishing.

It's sunday morning, the board has been fairly quiet and i decided to throw in my thoughts and feelings.

Take Care

Clint

[SWM]

... in response to The next stage, posted by cdrab on Oct 21, 2001

dfd

[Sol]

... in response to The next stage, posted by cdrab on Oct 21, 2001

Clint,

I echo much of what you say and feel. Although I've never been married before I do echo the feelings of fear, excitement, and of starting anew.  I agree 100% with your statement, and echoed by a number of others on this board, that keeping her will be the hard part.

I also do want to offer my appreciation to this board for the assistance provided to me over this past year in navigating this whole process, from finding the right lady, to actually meeting her, to proposing to her. Most of all I want to thank this group for helping me to realize that this international dating scene is a real viable choice for a lot of guys.

In December my lady and I will be married, sometime in January I expect to be able to fly to Colombia (once again) to bring her here.

For me the next chapter is of newlywed married life. I invite you, Clint, and anyone else with a Colombian partner, to join me on the Yahoo community for mutual support and sharing of experiences. For me the planet-love list has been mainly about how to meet that special lady. I don't see a whole lot of interest here in a community of those already married or about-to-be. Yes, married guys post from time to time, but this group is really about the agencies, tours and letter writing, about the meeting and selection process, and about the pitfalls of this whole thing. And, most importantly, the community here adamantly protects its right to be anonymous, opinionated, loud, righteous, and some other things that don't foster the deeper support that some of us want- the kind of sharing that leaves us feeling open vulnerable.

Write me at s_lederman@nospam.com or better yet, see my post a few days back announcing the new list for more information.

Sol