Racial bigotry

[Cecil]

Hi Everyone,

I really need all your help with a big problem.  My favorite girl emailed me with a bombshell.  She had always told me that I would be welcomed by her family in Negros Oriental.  She sent me a desparate message saying that the truth is that her parents hate white people and that people on her island are normally think white people are evil.  Her family has forbade her from contacting me and threatened her.  She told me she is in hiding from them but will contact me when she has a chance from a secret location.  I care for her and I very concerned for her welfare.  She insists that she does not care about my race.  I don't want to drive her from her family becoz I know I know that she was molded by them.  What on earth can I do now?  HELP!

[Carrisse]

... in response to Racial bigotry, posted by Cecil on Jan 10, 2002

The operative word is 'secret'.

Beware.

[donb2222]

... in response to Racial bigotry, posted by Cecil on Jan 10, 2002

Hi Cecil,
 Sounds like she is trying to brush you off.
I lived for eight months in the PI, and I have spent
some time in Negros Oriental.  I'm not saying that
all whites are loved by all filipinos, but the vast
majority of filipinos were very polite to me, and
I never had any problems.
I think the best thing to do is just give it some
time- the truth will come out one way or another.

Don

[Jimbos]

... in response to Racial bigotry, posted by Cecil on Jan 10, 2002

Cecil,

First I would try to determine if the story about her family is the real problem.  She may be trying to break it off with you for some other reason.

Good luck,
Jim

[greg]

... in response to Racial bigotry, posted by Cecil on Jan 10, 2002

I would leave her alone and move on. Family's very important to them, if you marry her against their wishes then they may reject her making her feel miserable. I feel it's important that a Pinay's family also accept the Guy. I remember a Guy bringing his Mahal here on a Visa, her family was against it, so he had problems with her right after she stepped off the Plane, stayed with him for a few weeks before running off. Too many fish in the Sea, not worth the headaches. greg

[shadow]

... in response to Re: Racial bigotry, posted by greg on Jan 10, 2002

Ummm, greg. Were you refering to me?    Larry.

[greg]

... in response to Greg's right!, posted by shadow on Jan 11, 2002

Yep, Larry. This same thing has happened to countless Guys. They are too ashamed to Post, there's so much going on with these hard luck happenings that we never hear about. We usually just hear the good stories, your story was good for others, help them to be more careful and watchful knowing that it can happen to anyone. Again, I see nothing wrong with what you did, after all you did it as a Gentleman in love, so don't continue to blame yourself. Don't worry, you're a good Man, you are much wiser now and I believe God has something good gift wrapped for you praise god. greg

[shadow]

... in response to Re: Greg's right! to Larry, posted by greg on Jan 13, 2002

SOOO much wiser now. Think I'd just leave 'er giftwrapped so's she won't bite me when I unwraps 'er.    Larry.

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: Racial bigotry, posted by greg on Jan 10, 2002

I wrote to a girl that told me that her folks didn't like the idea of her writing to me.  That was the last time I wrote or talked to her.

I believe that you are asking for trouble if you get caught between a lady and her folks.

Now....was this girl telling Cecil the truth?  I don't know.  But the principal of not getting between a lady and her parents still holds true.

Stephen

[kevin]

... in response to Racial bigotry, posted by Cecil on Jan 10, 2002

Cecil, you live in Connecticut.  Right?  I live in Rhode Island.  I've been wanting to chat with you off Planet Love, and perhaps we could get together one Saturday.  Please e-mail me at kbrennan@ric.edu .  I can't say much now, but I had a Filipina girlfriend in the U.S.A., of whom her extended family, for the most part, looked down on middle-class white people.

- Kevin