... in response to Re: Re: Intro and questions, posted by Rick on Apr 15, 2001You asked some tuff questions and knowing that the REAL answers were going to be unpopular I gave it a shot anyway.
I have been a part of two extended families....in the first family there was a certian polarization....in all honesty it is called prejudice, not conservatism....I didn't bring that to the table...it's what I found when I got there....
My new extended family has shown None of the previous attitudes about cross cultural relationships...none...in fact they treat me like an honored guest. This can and will make a difference in the long run IME. Having a family that is happy you are a 'part of them' instead of 'apart from them' is a very good feeling. I have been personlly involved with both attitudes. One beats the other hands down.
I'm not placing blame on anybody or any culture, these are just my personal experiences and observations....I've been on the inside of both and made my choices for me....not for anyone else. After personal experience in both, I decided to choose the path of least resistance...for me and the future of us and our future family together. I think having an extended family that accepts the man, even though he is from a different culture will make the future easier, rather than an extended family always ready to say 'I told you so'. And in all honesty, if I hadn't seen the differences with my own eyes, there would have been no need for me to go south in the first place, there are plenty of LW right here in Houston.
Regards, Houndog
