Strange dillema

[Craigjjs]

Hi All,

I am a member of philipinaheart.  Last night I received a weird message from a guy, yes a guy.  

He said he had married a member about a year ago in PI and brought her to the US last month.  She took her child and left a few days ago.  He said he had seen on his computer that she had been messaging guys on the site and thought she had messaged me.  He wanted any messages for his lawyer to help with an anullment.

I didn't recognize the woman's name or her profile.  I get a lot of messages that I don't respond to for various reasons and could tell from her profile that I wouldn't have responded to her.  She was looking for a guy taller than me and she said she was separated.  I don't write to women in PI who say they are separated or divorced.  So, I couldn't be certain I had never received a message from this woman, but was certain I had not written to her.

I wrote back to this guy and told him the above.  He responded saying that he still loved her and wanted to patch things up.

I found this really strange.  If I had been corresponding with this woman, I would not have told him.  For all I know he was abusive and was looking for her to hurt her.

I am trying to decide whether to send a copy of the letter to the woman.  On the one hand she should know she is being tracked.  On the other hand, she probably already suspects this and I don't know who is right or wrong in this mess.

Any opinions?

Thanks,

Craig

[Keith NC]

... in response to Strange dillema, posted by Craigjjs on Sep 16, 2004

Hi Craig,

I have lived a nightmare over the past year with my ex wife who happens to be a Filipina.  She hid my 15 month old daughter at the time, from me during the Summer of 2003 for almost a month.  Then two Sherrif deputies showed up at the door and took my daughter from her and gave my daughter to me.  The filipino couple that helped hide my daughter wished they hadn't now.  They are knee deep in legal bills.  They were defiant and cockey towards me at first but I think now they wished they never met my ex.  I am a nice guy and wasn't trying to hurt anyone but they failed to realize that you don't mess with peoples Families.  You especially don't come in between me and my little angel.  Just this past Tuesday I won the custody case against my ex.   My divorce was finalized with my ex getting nothing from me.  I kept the house and my retirement.  We have joint physical of our daughter.  I don't pay her any child support and she doesn't pay me any child support.  My ex can never take our daughter out of the country and if anyone ever helps my wife hide my daughter again they are in big time trouble.  They will be aiding and abetting a kidnapper.  I wasn't going to let her or anyone else take my daughter away from me.

Take Rays advice and my advice don't get involved with domestic situations.  It could come back to bite you in the @ss.  Ignore it and move on like it never happened.

One other thing.  My wife didn't do this because she was a Filipina.  It was her character as a person.  Pinays are great and that is why I will eventually marry another one.  

Take Care,

Keith

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Strange dillema, posted by Keith NC on Sep 17, 2004

... how most everyone who has been burned by a Filipina, at least those who post here, seem to realize it's the person not the nationality and go back and find another one - Howard, Hum, and now you. The stories ending in nasty split-ups that you read on the Russian and Latin boards usually end up with the statement "never again." Either we're denser than the rest or there's something to what people like Keith say, "Pinays are great and that is why I will eventually marry another one."

- Jeff

[Howard]

... in response to Isn't it interesting..., posted by Jeff S on Sep 17, 2004

Interesting point Jeff

What if the differences have less to do with who we marry and more with who we are?  I know we have explored this more than once in my years here, but what if the women we choose to marry are just an extension of our personalities?

Me personally, I just realized that I made SO many errors in judgement the first time around, and so few this time , that I was open to the possibility.   But... as always ... I offer my most compelling evidence; Her name is Gerlie  Hhahahahahahahahaa

It wouldn't matter if she came from Mars, if she would have me, I would be her honey

Keep the Faith!

H

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Isn't it interesting..., posted by Howard on Sep 18, 2004

Hey Howard,

Is that YOU that our governor out here in California is referring to when he uses the term "Gerlie Man"? Or should that be "Gerlie's Man". I know Arnold's English isn't perfect... :-)

If you need any tips on qitting smoking, maybe I can help (LOL).

Ray

[gregas]

... in response to Strange dillema, posted by Craigjjs on Sep 16, 2004

How is your luck using PhilippinaHeart website?? Would you recommend this site? Yeah, just ignore that Clod.

[Craigjjs]

... in response to Re: Strange dillema, posted by gregas on Sep 16, 2004

The site has been great for me.  It is similar to cherry blossoms and US sites like match.com.  You pay a monthly fee and don't buy addresses.  There are many ladies on the board.   I receive a handful of unsolicited messages and interest messages every day.  I don't even bother searching anymore.  

Craig

[Ray]

... in response to Strange dillema, posted by Craigjjs on Sep 16, 2004

Craig,

You'll never know who is right and who is wrong, so it's usually best to just stay out of other couples' personal problems. I would just drop it.

BTW, I doubt that his attorney told him to dig up dirt on her to aid in the annulment. Sneaking around behind your mate's back is not grounds for annulment that I know of. Sounds more like some revenge thing...

Ray