visiting from the Latin Board

[papi]

Hi, i'm visiting from the Latin Board. I've spent much time down in Latin America and traveled to both Central and South America. While i've come close a couple times, I never married nor found the woman that rocked my world. I am planning another trip shortly to Central America but curious how things are done over here. In Latin America, i've used agencies as sort of a home base and then branched out from there meeting woman not only via the agencies but in the mall, gym, etc. Do you guys use agencies? Any in particular you like? What are the favorite countries? FYI, i have been to HK and S China one time on biz. Wondering if Thailand might be a good spot? Are scammers a big problem on the Asian side? Are the agencies good, honest?

[Jeff S]

... in response to visiting from the Latin Board, posted by papi on Jul 25, 2004

Hi papi & welcome to the Asian Board. Where to look in Asia is really a matter of personal taste. There are good women (an bad) everywhere, including Latin America, The FSU, and the good old USA.

I think you'll likely find fewer out and out scammers and green card sharks in Asia than in other places, but that several guys on this board have been burned, is evidence enough that they really do exist in Asia. Both of the guys I'm aware of, later went back to the same country they came from to find another, and the second time came back with a gem, according to thier posts.

Anyway, most will tell you that the Philippines is the best place for a wife because they speak English and are Catholic. I only know one Filipina personally, and she's a pretty special lady, (I'm sure you'll agree Stephen) so I can't say much about them. Some of us, though, have looked, and succeeded in places other than the PI. On the Asian sweetie web site there are ladies from five different countries.

Selecting a place to search for a wife is a personal matter. You have to be prepared to deal with this person, her culture, language, tastes in food, music, decorating, friends, etc, etc, for the rest of your life. If you can't stand spicy food, don't marry a Korean, and if listening to banda or norteño music makes you want to shoot yourself in the head, don't marry a Mexicana. You have to have respect for and an interest in her culture and history for this to all work. She will, most emphatically, NOT arrive with a clean slate ready to become an American and adapt to your ways - she'll have her own. How you accept and appreciate those will go a long way in setting a precident for how your marriage will succeed. Many of those things that seem quaint and exotic when you're holding hands on vacation, may bug the he!! out of you later. Do your homework on her culture and spend some time on serious introspection before you go. You won't regret it.

I speak Spanish and have been traveling to LA extensively for over 30 years. I've run businesses there and here with nearly all latina employees. Right now I have 56 latinas working for me - most from Mexico but a few from Central and South America. Of the hundreds of ladies I've known, I can say, not one have I considered marriage material FOR ME. That some guys find happiness with Latinas is great and I applaud their efforts, and mean no disrespect to the men or their wives. It sure beats doing a search on Match.com for divorced AW within 25 miles of your home. There are cultural aspects of Latinas, though, that I would find difficult to deal with if I were married to one.

Anyway, hope this gives you some food for thought. Best of luck in your search.

- Jeff

[papi]

... in response to Re: visiting from the Latin Board, posted by Jeff S on Jul 26, 2004

thanks for your feedback. I find the process in LA somewhat easy is that you can go there and have an agency sort of like your homebase. I like to meet woman via the agency and then maybe branch out from there. Not sure how that would work in Asia or FSU if i were to travel alone and i'm not interested in writing emails to woman that i have yet to meet. so i guess i would be looking for more feedback from guys that have gone the agency route in Asia or FSU.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Re: visiting from the Latin Board, posted by papi on Jul 27, 2004

There aren't the kind of agencies you're used to in SA, in Asia. They're illegal in the PI and just not available other places. Most people seem to buy addresses and send letters. Japan has marriage agencies, but I doubt that's what you'd be looking for.

- Jeff

[papi]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: visiting from the Latin Boar..., posted by Jeff S on Jul 28, 2004

dont really know. I leave for Central America tomorrow. If things dont workout then i guess i will eventually get more serious about looking outside of LA but sure could use some better direction in FSU or Asia in terms of good agency trips. I could definately help anyone with  LA. thanks for your help

[Windmill Boy]

... in response to visiting from the Latin Board, posted by papi on Jul 25, 2004

Hello PAPI

Welcome to the Asian Planet Love.  The majority of the participants here are in contact with / married to women in the Philippines. There are a couple people here with experience with Japanese women, and some Gents who are involved with women from Vietnam. My fiance is from Southern China.  To the best of my knowledge that is the make up of the group here presently.  Some of the members do have traveling experiences in other asian countries though.

I have  been occasionally participating on the board here for 4 years now - I  do not follow the latin board myself though. I really do not recall very much talk about agencies that provide opportunities for meeting women like I've heard that they have in Central and South America.  I guess it is just a cultural thing that asian girls in general won't use that method.  I personally met my fiance using an internet dating agency based out of Australia Asianeuro.com  The common statistic here is that 25 % of us met though  the internet,  some more participants have met through chat services. Some have had the benefit of being introduced to their spouses through friends and family.  And others  have met just by being in the right place at the right time and bumping into them.

I think the participants here are mostly more interested in the long haul relationship. I think there really isn't too much discussion here about "scoring some".  There are scammers everywhere in all countries  and there have been some troubled  relationships reported here too  but  it is not too often here.  I  think most of the participants on this board have been  very cautious and aware about how they proceed  with their dating/romance/ marriages.  If you have any concerns (RED FLAGS) that  you are wondering about, present them and you will get intelligent feedback from the group.  It seems that about 90 % of the participants who actively contribute did not have any major problems. And they could not be any happier with their lives  once they met and were finally united with their spouses.

WINDY

[papi]

... in response to my 2 pesos / Cents / RMB [Renminbi (Fen)..., posted by Windmill Boy on Jul 25, 2004

thanks Windy, great post. i appreciate your feedback

[Stephen]

... in response to visiting from the Latin Board, posted by papi on Jul 25, 2004

Hello Papi:

Welcome.  It's always good to have visitors.

As you might expect there are many different ways to meet ladies in the Philippines.  Some just fly over and start looking.  Others try the internet.  A lot do like I did....I got addresses for agencies and wrote via mail.

There are several good agencies.  Cherry Blossoms, Heart of Asia, etc.

One vast difference between Latin ladies and Philippine ladies is this:  Philippine ladies speak English.  I understand that's not the case with Latin ladies.

Also, I understand that it is much easier to get a response from Philipine ladies than Latin ladies.  for example, I sent out 50 letters at the beginning of my search in April, 1999, and got over 30 responses.

Also, I understand that Americans are more popular in the Phils than in Central America or South America.  Well, maybe that was true until just a couple weeks ago.  LOL.

Take care.  Glad you stopped by.

Stephen

[papi]

... in response to Re: visiting from the Latin Board, posted by Stephen on Jul 25, 2004

thanks too. good advice