... in response to No sex please -- we're Japanese, posted by Phoenix on Jun 4, 2004It is survival of the fittest. Those Japanese women who do not marry lose the race. They do not pass on their genes. I see the lack of interest by Japanese men not as being frightened or intimidated, but as a silent protest, refusing to marry before breaking their pride. Of course, they also lose in the long run, but they will do it with more money and could marry a younger woman late and still sire a child. Men of course remain fertile for most of their lives, unlike women.
A similar sort of thing is happening in the USA, I believe. American men are refusing more and more the silliness of American women and their stuck-up, princess attitudes. I see poor young fellows approach a table full of young women and get shot to pieces (verbally, of course), then the women laugh about it among themselves. And none of them appear to have a date of their own.
Japanese women want to stay at home, shop and play, earning no income, yet they then demand help with the housework? Why? They have to contribute something besides occasional pudenda to the marriage. Honey stayed at home, raised the children (with my help) and took care of the home quite well by herself. We divided the martital labor. I made the money, she took care of the house and the children while I was out, good hunter that I was, tracking down and slaying the paycheck. She gardened, cooked, cleaned and did the mother thing, and she was a raving success at all of it. I helped with the children when I was home for the evening and weekends, and did the exterior maintenance on our home and yard. Lawn care, vehicle maintenance, home repair. ARR-ARR-ARRRR! (Tim Allen reference)
If the women have a career, then they should get help with the housework, or else pay part of the housekeeping bill along with their hubby. However, it is cruel biology and not chauvinistic men that ordained that women bear the children, and they have a limited span of fertility to do it. We can't do that for them. If they wish to procreate they have to take the career hit. Get mad at God (or whatever you believe - evolution, Yahwe or Buddha) if you don't like it. Of course, children is one thing they should agree upon at the beginning. If they agree to have children, she'll just have to punt. If they agree not to have them then she should get that job and help pay for the cleaning lady.
Ladies, if you are in your late twenties and waiting for the rich handsome man, you are too late unless you become an entertainer or movie star or model. They are taken early. If you don't have one already you lost the competition. Just about every doctor (at least 85% of them)I know was married in med school, as interns at the latest. Women see them as high-earning doctors and grab them early on. If you don't have one, it is because you were not pretty or smart enough or bold enough. You are now no better than the men you think are not up to your standards. Better get what you can while you can. I married late but I am an unusual case. I was working in a somewhat dangerous, high security program. I literally didn't have time to court a wife, and was not in one place long enough to make trying worth while. Honey, unlike these Japanese womemn, has succeeded. She has passed along her genes, has a husband who dotes upon her, pulls her weight in the marriage, and lives very comfortably. She now shops, does housework, cooks and gardens, and visits with her friends. She earned it. When I retire from my civilian work we'll travel.
Thankfully, American parents seem to be more willing to clean out the nest than they used to be. Our children left the nest when they found out that the rules did not change, even though they were adults, once they graduated college. If Japanese parents did the same thing, those girls would be out the door in 30 seconds. Reinstate the same curfews and other rules they used for teenagers in high school. And make them pay rent and utilities to boot. They'll move, believe me.
Looks like more Filipinas should study Japanese. Japan should be a fertile field for them in about 10 years or so. Women satisfied to accept and indeed thrive upon the traditional roles of wife and mother. That may just be enough to overcome the Japanese xenophobia. Japanese women may find they are in competition with their Asian sisters, and may find they either have to change or be willing to settle for second place.
